DH wanting to go hiking on family weekend away.

[PooFlower]

We are off to the Lake district for a Fri to Mon weekend away with our two dc.
DH has announced he plans to go for a short hike (2 hours) on the Sat and a long walk (5-6 hours) on the Sunday. He says he will get up at first light and go so he is back in time to do other things.
Am I being unreasonable to ask him not to?
I dont mind him going for a short walk each morning however a long walk will ruin the weekend for me. He will go to bed early the night before, probably wake dd2 up if he gets up early and be shattered and fit for nothing when he gets back.
I feel mean though. He loves hiking but hardly gets to go these days. I wouldn't mind so much if we were away for a week but think it will impact the holiday too much as with it only being a short break.

The 13 yo doesnt want to.

Hahahahaha crumbs what a hilarious joke you've just made. Such a good satire of someone being a total and utter pompous arse. Cheered me right up.

Because the 13 year old doesn't want to, they want to go on a short walk, maybe do some shopping and hang out with their family. Is that allowed?

I personally wouldn't go if that was the plan. I don't go on a family weekend away to mind kids while dh buggers off.

No, the 13 year old should do what they are told

YANBU. DH used to be like this about mountainbiking, but not since we had DD. The idea of trying to get DD (about the same age as yours) up any kind of hill is just making me shudder. Even though I like hiking! I have had a lovely trip to Keswick at that time of year. We cycled round the Grizedale sculpture park, did a bit of shopping (I thought the shops were quite good) and went to see a play.

OK. Family of 4. It's everyone's Christmas holiday. DH wants to hike. No-one else wants to hike. So

• everyone has to hike, whether they want to or not

Or

• OP has to do childcare on her own for most of the holiday, even though what she really wants from a holiday is a bit of time off childcare, to allow DH to hike on his own

Seriously?

Have people missed the bit where the husband hasn't asked the children or the wife to come. The bit where the wife and children don't want to go, and the bit where it's the middle of December?

Forcing a 13 year old up a mountain in December doesn't sound like a recipe for fun to me.

Well phiney you wasted your trip to the Lake District don't you know, give back your pass immediately.

Yes genghis or there is literally no point in the Lake District. They built all those tea shops, museums, shops and hotels just for fun.

I can't figure out if this is an internalised misogyny situation or whether pps genuinely believe hiking is a sacred ritual that should be prioritised above family responsibilities

Just because you are a parent and part of a family it doesn't mean that you are no longer a person in your own right. It's a balancing act really so that overall everyone gets to do something they like and also get to spend time together. Maybe the Ops DH gets more time for himself on this break but maybe OP gets more on the next as it suits her choice of activities better. Or maybe she gets more time for activities she enjoys when not on holiday? We have no idea.

Don’t knock the Keswick Pencil Museum!!! It rocks!!! Although I havn’t been since the post 2015 flood refurb.

We have no idea if the OP is chained to the sink for the rest of the year, either, but that doesn't stop some off us from telling her that her DH's plans are tickety boo and she's mad not to want to be marching across freezing hills with her family.

Well we know normally when they go on holiday he goes for a walk on his own while she does the packing to leave.

If she must do the packing, wouldn’t it be better for him to take the dcs out for a trip somewhere?
The entitlement really is amazing. It blindsides you and can be hard to see just how unfair a situation is.

Keep listening to pp2017 and not Crumbs1 - Causey and Skiddaw for an inexperienced 5 year old is a ridiculous suggestion. Catbells possibly, but sitting on the shore at the other side of Derwentwater, or on a boat on the lake itself, and looking up at Catbells from there is just as beautiful a place to be.
Enjoy your trip here OP, whatever you decide to do

Oh dear op you have stirred it up havnt you?

You dared to Say you wanted a family holiday 2 day break, as in family time together! For just 2 fucking days

You dreamed of a morning hike, lunch. Hot choc and kids DVDs then another fun day with maybe New Year’s Eve having a drink and s meal with your dh and kids

So your poor dh prefers to hike off into the winter and gaze at his navel rather than getting to have fun and spending precious holiday time with his teenage dd and 5 year old.

Monopoly, or cluedo?? kids dvd and daddy time verses dad pissing off by himself and mum left to cope.

Thankfully our 5 understood that they had a back seat wen we worked but wen we holidayed they were first and mummy and daddy didn’t need to get away but stayed and we were a unit.

Probably that’s why our kids are good parents to our grandchildren.

You reap what you sow. Never ever underestimate time spent together. Not money just time

bike

That made me choke on my tea

Welll now I see why the mountain rescue team are so busy . Maybe some of you could consider making a donation.

kong

Maybe the 13 year old had a period? Maybe she finds hiking fucking boring and hiking for 5 hours insanely boring as I did at 13 and still do at 51.

Krl

Get the donations off the idiots who climb them

totally agree

Can’t imagine anything more boring

It's a family trip away - not a DH treking fest.

Family holday =family time , not self absorbed male interest time.

I don’t know why some men bother having children when all they want to do is do their bloody man hobbies.

YANBU.

Why the fuck does the selfish cunt book a family holiday and then demand he spends it by himself?