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... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 11/10/2017 10:21

Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

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IamtheDevilsAvocado · 11/10/2017 10:22

.. Although could so with losing a couple of stone!

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splendide · 11/10/2017 10:22

YANBU to be upset, that's very rude.

Were they a small child?

Butterymuffin · 11/10/2017 10:23

It is rude. How did you find out about it?

allthgoodusernamesaretaken · 11/10/2017 10:24

Huge? Yes, that's rude and hurtful

Nicpem1982 · 11/10/2017 10:25

How rude

Whenwillitstop1 · 11/10/2017 10:25

YAnbu for being upset, huge is a very rude way to describe someone. But whilst I would say that 5"8 is tallish, I probably wouldn't describe someone at a size 18-20 as curvy.

2014newme · 11/10/2017 10:27

I'd just lose the couple stone then tbh if it bothers you. You think you're curvy you but your dress size suggests that you are on the large size. It was rude of them to call you huge though. Not kind. Realistically though it sounds like you've gone past curvy quite a while ago and perhaps not realised

plantsitter · 11/10/2017 10:27

It was fucking rude. I'd be hurt.

Try to reframe the comment though. I'm much fatter and shorter than you so I'm not being mean - you are tall and you take up room. You are striking. People notice you. Why the fuck shouldn't you exist? You are GREAT. You don't have to take up less room to be acceptable

sailorcherries · 11/10/2017 10:28

Yanbu to be upset, however I also wouldn't describe being 5ft 8 and a size 18-20 as in proportion.
I'm 5ft 6.5 and a size 14-16 and definitely not in proportion. My sister is 5ft 11 and at a size 20 she was not in proportion. Neither of us were curvy either, but do have biggish boobs.

Nicpem1982 · 11/10/2017 10:29

There are so many different ways to choose to describe some one with out being insulting for example hair colour, item of clothing etc huge is just plain insulting

Pickleypickles · 11/10/2017 10:31

She was very rude and thoughtless but maybe she meant huge because you are tall as well rather than just your size (which isnt huge).
People should never make comments about appearance "too" anything though.

Dextersilver · 11/10/2017 10:32

It's was rude. However maybe this could be a wake up call. You see yourself as curvy, other people see you as huge. Sometimes we don't realise when we look in the mirror we get used to what we see.

I wouldn't describe someone by there size though. It is very hurtful.

RaininSummer · 11/10/2017 10:32

It was rude and not nice but it must be how they see you. Sometimes we need a wake up call to do something about our weight though it is very hard and impossible for some.

Ttbb · 11/10/2017 10:32

That's rude. Very rude. To answer your second question, someone becomes 'huge' when they are noticeably bigger than the average person.

LaurieFairyCake · 11/10/2017 10:33

I would assume she meant tall and a generous size. But mostly tall (as I’m really short).

IHopeYouStepOnALegoPiece · 11/10/2017 10:34

They're a dickhead OP!

Someone said to me last week "oh she's out on loads of weight, seriously she's fucking enormous Lego, I think she's even bigger then you!!!"

Wow...thanks for that insight...cunt

toolonglurking · 11/10/2017 10:35

I'm the same size and height as you and I'd be really hurt if someone described me as 'huge', to me huge would be the sort of person who needs a wall knocked down to get out of their house.
That said, I'm currently pregnant and once I've had the baby I'm going to make a real effort to lose at least two stone so I can be 'curvy' rather than whatever it is I am now.

PandorasXbox · 11/10/2017 10:38

That’s horrible! Did you hear it?

LineysRun · 11/10/2017 10:41

How did you hear of it?

Because if another adult passed that on to you, they're a bit of a twat really.

amusedbush · 11/10/2017 10:41

someone said to me last week "oh she's out on loads of weight, seriously she's fucking enormous Lego, I think she's even bigger then you!!!"

My ex-flatmate said to me, "I couldn't get over how much weight she's put on, she must be about your size now".

Fucking cow.

user1471459936 · 11/10/2017 10:42

It was rude to calm you that - how do you know they said it? Unfortunately, size 18 - 20 is huge to a lot of people.

user1471517900 · 11/10/2017 10:42

"you are tall and you take up room. You are striking. People notice you. Why the fuck shouldn't you exist? You are GREAT."

How patronising that is. Obviously the size you are doesn't affect you as a person, but I always find this sort of disingenuous comment rather grating.

SloeSloeQuickQuickGin · 11/10/2017 10:42

Having been where you are OP, you cant kid a kidder, size 20 at 5 foot 8 is clinically obese.

People arent always polite but we use physical descriptors to differentiate between people; the tall one, the short one, the blonde one, the dark one, and as we all know, the fat one. We can deny it and pretend we are big boned, or curvy but in reality we are fat.

PandorasXbox · 11/10/2017 10:45

Huge is nasty though Sloe, they could have said the large lady which is still bad but kinder than fucking huge.

Frazzled2207 · 11/10/2017 10:45

They were very rude.
However I also cannot see how your dress size is proportionate to your height.

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