... A bit upset to be referred to, by a 3rd party, as 'huge'?

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Just this....

Someone referred to me as this... You'll recognise her.. She's the huge girl...

Apart from rudeness... At what size does someone become 'huge'.. I appreciate it's all relative etc etx...

PS I'm an (in proportion) size 18-20 and 5 foot 8. So to me tallish and curvy...

So it's ok to say someone who is 5'2 is Lilliputian at 2 inches shorter than average. But someone who is, what, 5/6 stone heavier than she should be isn't huge.

The truth hurts

I know. But you can always just switch the computer off or change your user name and try to behave like a decent human being.

Then the pain will stop.

Dexter, I really feel like you ought to see a counsellor about this phobia of fat you have, it sounds like it's really affecting your life. I get that having a messed up relationship with food and your own body must be hard for you, but please try to leave other people out of it and deal with it yourself.

I'm 5ft 8 and a size 12/14 and I'm overweight according to guidelines. I weigh 11st 12lb.

5ft 8 and 18/20 I'd say is also overweight, but then I don't think yabu to be upset by the description used. I'm sure there's plenty more other ways to describe someone without resorting to the size of them.

This woman is size 18 but is only 5 ft 4. She doesn't look huge and you are taller.

I’m 5’7” and I’m positively dwarfed by the truly Amazonian teenage girls they seem breed these days.

When I was size 18-20, I could still walk all day, and run for the bus, and play with my children without any ill effects. Now l’m Size 14, I still wobble with barely suppressed fat, but my resting heart rate is around 58 because I’m so fit.

Calling you rude was huge but you are in denial about your body shape. Size 12-14 would be a curvy but healthy dress size for 5"8. Size 18-20 is classed as obese.

How would you describe someone who is size 20 and 5'8?

What is the truthful AND non-hurtful description?

If OP asks someone "Am I huge?", are they supposed to reply no?

I got this a few years ago, but i'm very underweight.

I was sitting in a room waiting for someone (a fair few people in the room too) and someone came over and said 'Ah, there you are. It's great you're sitting facing the door' so I looked at them like and they said 'I asked what you looked like and they said you were a skinny little thing and if you were turned to the side, I probably wouldn't even see you.. I can see what they mean. You're like a stick, aren't you?'

I am aware of how thin I am. My BMI was and still is around 13 - Yes it's unhealthy, not nice for people to see and yes, i'm thin.
I was also the only person in the room with blonde hair and wearing a pink top. Saying 'Oh, she's in a pink top' would have been sufficient.

Well, I am 5'6 and a size 14, my bmi is normal. My sister is 5'9 and at size 16/18 her bmi is normal. I think that for someone of 5'8, a size 18 could be normal or overweight, but I would be surprised if it fell in the obese range.

I think that a description of "huge" could refer to stature, but it is more likely to have been rude!

I'm actually just reading on the BBC that 1 in 10 British children are obese and that obesity is becoming the new norm.

So I'm not surprised to see OP being shocked at being described as huge if the goalposts have moved.

I've been described as a gimp and a cripple, which is hurtful but I'm not shocked because I'm aware of my body.

OP what were you hoping to gain from this thread? What are you going to do going forward, if anything?

Dexter

Instead of spending your time bashing overweight people, it could be used far more productively. I could give you the contact details of some great English Tutors. If money is tight you could just do some of the free online tutorials.

I suggest you start with

How to use an apostrophe.
Basic grammar their/there/they're, your/you're

YANBU to be upset. it is rather rude.

but I think YABU to describe yourself as curvy and in proportion of you are a size 18-20 with your height. That is not in proportion but overweight possibly obese.

Reading this thread makes it clear that we have lost sight of a healthy human body size.

Obesity is no joke. It's not shameful...and I hate the fact that if you point out that being obese isn't great then you are shaming someone.....it's actually dangerous and it will kill you.

I would be seriously unimpressed... there are plenty of other ways to describe someone. They could’ve said “the really tall young lady, the one in glasses etc” to use the word huge was deliberate.

For instance today, I could be the nurse with the blond hair; in a dog jumper; in green jeans (seriously, I don’t need comments about my work wardrobe!)

I’ve never ever heard any of my clients differentiate between myself and my colleague as she’s the huge one, or she’s the young one.

Their comments are a reflection of their level of twattishness... not their “concern”’for your weight etc. Out and out twattishness.

Thank you Annie, please pass on their number. Sorry there, no wait they're. Oh fuck...

size 20 is huge. Anyone who says it isn't is either lying. Or in denial.

Depends - I loved brassimo when it came out as I was size 12/14 - because it took account of my breasts size so I didn't have to upsize.

Hmm, I'm huge - I would describe myself as that, 6ft and a size 18. I also know it is unhealthy & I don't mind being described as that by people I care about - but they know that. That being said - it is fucking rude of her (some random you work with) to refer to you like that - I hope she was mortified at being caught.

As for the All that fat bouncing around. Wobble wobble upthread. Wow, got some serious 'ishooos' there haven't we ! Still, luckily us fatties can lose the weight - it's going to be a lot harder to lose all that nasty isn't it eh!? (& no matter what you look like meanness, bitchiness and bitterness starts to show on your face as you age, so watch out for that...). Not to mention I imagine with an attitude like that you aren't terribly popular.

So it's ok to say someone who is 5'2 is Lilliputian at 2 inches shorter than average. But someone who is, what, 5/6 stone heavier than she should be isn't huge.

It's not OK to SAY these things user1471 - even if this is what you think. If you make a habit of saying these things about or to people then you have to expect to be referred to as the nasty rude one.

Butchy, what's wrong with a 5'8 woman in heels?

There are some seriously unpleasant views on here.

Hi there,
Just to say that we have received several reports about this thread and have removed quite a few posts as we felt they were excessively goading.

They could have said the tall woman with the dark hair or the woman wearing a yellow jumper and so on.

For an adult to say the huge woman is to be pointedly rude, IMO. People should keep their own opinions on size, weight etc to themselves.

Butchy, what's wrong with a 5'8 woman in heels?

I never said there was anything wrong with a 5’ 8 women in heels. What are you wittering on about??

Talk about adding 5 + 5 together to get 7. 🙄

There are some seriously unpleasant views on this thread

Yeah, not least yours.

It was the 'don't get me started on a tall woman in heels' attitude that made me question your thoughts Butchy.

Haven't actually posted an opinion myself, so not quite sure what you mean but have a lovely day yourself...

It was the 'don't get me started on a tall woman in heels' attitude that made me question your thoughts Butchy

That’s not what I said.

Do you like making things up?? 😮