To call 101?

[NachoAddict]

I have an elderly neighbour who i cook for just once a week on sunday. This has been going on for 2 years. Its my way of checking he is ok.

The last few wewks he has mentioned his health is deteriorating but he is seeing his doctor.

Today I knocked with his dinner at 4, couldnt get an answer so I shouted through is he ok? He said yes he is fine leave his dinner on the wall.

I left it there for an hoyr then knocked again, he didnt answer but shouted that he is ok, he will be out soon he us just going to have a shower.
That was almost an hour ago. Still no sign of him.

Would I be unreasonable to ring 101 to do a welfare check even though he is saying he is fine? I just keep thinking he might have had a fall and be too proud to say.

In the two years he has never not had his dinner.

Oh Nacho, what a silly proud man he is.

As Fatbird says - it's a hard lesson to learn about not being so stubborn and accepting help when offered.

Hold your head up high Nacho, you seem to have had a hell of a time yourself but better times seem to be arriving for you. You really deserve good things to come.

Should also add that when we sorted out the estate, we made sure that lovely neighbour had a cheque to have some fun with.

I'm not sure that they truly realised how important those glances up at the Windows when passing, really were.

Well disgustingly Fatbird My EX has already ear marked the house as his. Neighbour has written into his will that his estate will go to MIL as she has helped him out over the years, so EX has already got plans to sell it. He really is a selfish horror. He was only talking about it last week in fact.

When I rang him to let him know I was worried about neighbour he ignored me for 3 days and when I finally did get through he said well he won't be coming back out of hospital will he.

ExMil & ExSil aren't like him, they helped neighbour out over the years just because it was the right thing to do, it is only Ex that is a greedy entitled twat.

Just wondering how your neighbour is now NachoAddict

Hi Forumuser he is mych better, moved knto the ward now but will still be in for a few weeks.

Brief Update

Feeling very sad at the moment. Neighbour is doing ok and they have hoisted him out of bed and he will soon be moving to the mobility ward.

Apparently his friend has said to him, don't be leaving your neighbour anything and make sure you check your bank statements.

Now I don't know if this person is referring to me, his actual neighbour, my ExMil who travelled across the county to check on him (who is actually in his will) or ExFil who is now his next of kin and has been to visit him almost daily.

I feel really gutted that they might mean me and that they suspect I have only been visiting him and cooking for him and what not so that I can get into his will. I don't want this mans money, I was just trying to be a decent person and look out for someone vulnerable. Why are some people so money conscious that they can't imagine doing something nice unless there is something in it for them.

If the friend was talking about you they obviously don't realise that the outcome for your neighbour could have been much different without you.
Glad to hear your neighbour is doing OK otherwise.

Exactly want forummuser says above