To NOT get WIFI??

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Me and my DP have a phone each with more than enough data to use when we are at home for internet etc. We have 3 TVs throughout the house with more than enough channels, a DVD player and a PS4 with mass amounts of dvds and games. We have never felt the need to pay an addition cost for sky/virgin/WiFi

My DP has an 11 year old son who comes to ours every other weekend and twice each week on week nights. Since he got his own phone and iPad for his birthday we allow him to connect to our data so he can use them to play on games and access the internet.

I am just about fed up of hearing his comments about us not having WiFi or sky ‘you’re like old people’ ‘it’s just stupid’ ‘I guess I’ll have to waste my mobile data AGAIN’ ‘oh great we have to watch NORMAL tv’ ‘god sake I can’t play online here on PS4’

Really!!?? I’ve told him to doesn’t know how lucky he is! He just roles his eyes at me. My DP doesn’t say anything to his comments, and tells me that’s kids nowadays!

Maybe it is but it still frustrates me!

AIBU???

What did you hope to get out of posting this thread, OP?

To talk to us like we’re 11 Suburban?

Op asked if swbu. Everyone or almost everyone said yes. And she’s still arguing she’s right, we’re wrong and bringing our children up to be internet junkies, who don’t see the light of Day etc. So it deffo wasn’t to get an answer to that question.

We have 3 TVs throughout the house with more than enough channels, a DVD player and a PS4 with mass amounts of dvds and games

Since he got his own phone and iPad for his birthday we allow him to connect to our data so he can use them to play on games and access the internet

So you are allowing hIm plenty of time online on his phone & iPad right?

All you WiFi obsessed people are the reason why children don’t go outdoors anymore. At least both our boys still love going out on their bikes and scooters/ playing football on the park with Dad and having family days out

😂😁😂🤣😂🤣 so doing it via tethering is ok, but doing it via wifi is not?

I am just about fed up of hearing his comments about us not having WiFi or sky ‘you’re like old people’ ‘it’s just stupid’ ‘I guess I’ll have to waste my mobile data AGAIN’ ‘oh great we have to watch NORMAL tv’ ‘god sake I can’t play online here on PS4’

You are like old people and he can't play the PS4 properly. I don't see why you don't understand that.

Really!!?? I’ve told him to doesn’t know how lucky he is! He just roles his eyes at me. My DP doesn’t say anything to his comments, and tells me that’s kids nowadays!

He doesn't know how lucky he is? FFS. That comment hasn't helped since the dinosaurs walked the earth.

Do you have a washing machine? A car? A bathroom in the house? Does having those things make you stop wanting something else such as a dishwasher or tumble drier?

I can't see that he's any 'luckier' than your average child.

Wifi is normal, not a huge luxury.

AIBU???. Yes, massively so. In your attitude as well.

It's odd. As you have an eight year old I'm guessing you can't be much older than about 50? But the tone of your posts is much older. My (late 60s) parents and in-laws have wifi. My grans (both passed away last year in their 90s) didn't "get" wifi.

If you have enough data and good signal it shouldn't really matter to him if he attaches to the wifi or to your data.
How much does he use his phone/ipad. If he's watching movies/videos I would think you need more data. He could download stuff before he gets to yours but that's a bit inconvenient and removes choices for him.

Does your DS only have an ipad to go on?

He's 11 and he has an iPad and access to a ps4 and that's just at his dad's house. Hardly neglect is it? It's making assumptions to say that this is impacting on his homework. The OP hasn't mentioned homework. The SS is rude. Had he politely asked them to get Wi-Fi to help him with his homework I would be taking a different attitude.

GardenGeek

I only have an iPad MINI. It's all I've had for about 3 years when my laptop died, I do everything on it.

[I'm now looking at which MacBook (MB/Air/pro 😳🤔🤷🏻‍♀️) to buy as I have a couple of photo based projects to do & need to be able to transfer data via memory sticks etc]

SandyDenny ofc wifi is free. It's a local area network. You don't have to have internet for wifi. You don't pay your ISP for wifi. You pay for your broadband or even dial up if they still sell it. You can turn your mobile phone into a wifi hotspot. (That's the tethering). That's all up to you.

It's perfectly possible to create a wifi network, have movies and music on a NAS and no internet. Why you would want that is ofc beyond me. Have you noticed if your internet is down your devices can still connect to your wifi network? Have you noticed you can still stream from your iTunes or NAS? Your devices at home connects to the wifi.

The OP was confused about what wifi actually is. And same as you too. Hence what I think she is actually a dinosaur. Not even understanding what she is talking about.

eurochick

I agree op sounds old. And authoritative. Comes out with sort of shit my mother does/did. ‘Do as you’re told’ ‘How dare you’. She says the latter to me now. I’m 46. Matriarch. Narcissist btw. And I’m not the gc.

Haha kids don't go out.
There must be some odd kids around here. All summer they were out playing. After school once homework is done out they go. Weekends they are out.
They have wifi at home and have various consoles.
They play football, ride their bikes, play tag, have races etc.
They even have phones with data. ('Mine thanks to mn)
They spend time with family. They go on holidays and most of the time leave their phones at home.
But maybe, just maybe because us internet obsessed have it for many years. And during those years we have educated them about everything in moderation.

gardengeek Why do children of 11 need multiple devices? An ipad is more than enough. And he does have games for the ps4

For me the point isn't what he has but his attitude (and that of many posters) that it's some kind of human right to have Wi-Fi and on demand TV etc. These things are luxuries and lots of people live without them. As I said if he needed it for homework and asked politely instead of moaning and being rude and entitled I would take a different view.

Again why did she post?

An astounding majority can't get through to her.

Bonkers

To the posters saying that the DSS won't coming to the OPs house in a few years time, it doesn't sound like that would be a big issue for the OP.

The fact that it will probably cheaper and more practical for the family to get broadband than using mobile data is a point that the OP doesn't care about, she's took a stand on this issue probably not because of the Wi-Fi but because it's something that the Step son has asked for.

Captain I agree. The op is determined to prove she’s boss presumably bc the SS’s presence brings out her insecurities.

How bizarre. Wifi would be much cheaper than all those data plans. How does the PS4 even work without it? If you really don't want it but he does, have you thought about asking him to pay for it out of his pocket money or with chores? Surely that's a fair compromise?

You can do word processing and excel on an iPad. You can also do split screen. You can also get Bluetooth keyboards for them. Depending on the model you can also use a mouse. There's also apps that turn your phone into a mouse.

Also depending on the phone and printer it is possible to print. But if you require it within a hour wouldn't bother

There’s Christmas sorted for the next ten years then. Get an unlimited contract and wrap it up so he has something to open and tell him his present is unlimited year round data. Next year you can wrap up the contract of renewal!

And another poster who doesn't like the answers she gets & so dismisses them. AIBU is a question - don't if you don't like the answer.

Don't ask

If you're not careful OP you'll find your SS is up the library on their wifi instead of at home but maybe that's what you want?

Now everyone has explained that it will cost no more or even less than all your data plans, can you not explain why you don't want it? What are you trying to prove?

There is little I can do with mobile data on my phone at home because of crap signal and our wifi speed is horrendously slow. Still wouldn't be without it though. And I don't think my DCs would come home if we didn't have wifi even if the speed is poor!

I just find your whole attitude about this bizarre OP. Why not get rid of your washing machine and go back to a twin tub and mangle whilst you're at it! Or ditch the fridge and keep food in the garage larder!

We have a PS4 and we've had older consoles.

The older ones were built to work without internet if necessary. You could just buy games on disc and play them.

The new ones are not like this - they are set up with the assumption you have an internet connection. It doesn't need to be wireless - you can wire it in to your router, and this is what we do with ours as it's faster and we find the consoles drag the wifi down for everything else.

When you buy a new game you normally can't play it until it's connected to the internet and downloaded loads of updates. Then most of the features are disabled for offline use.

I mean - if you have decided no consoles, no ipad, no internet TV, only limited browsing on phones etc then fine. I do know people who have this set up and it works for them, and I'm sure DSS would adapt. But you seem to be half committed without actually bothering to find out how it works, it's a bit like dangling a carrot in front of the poor boy's nose and then being irritated when he complains about being hungry!