To ask the worst funeral behaviour you've seen?

[Fishface77]

I went to a funeral today.
open coffin at home.
People were filing past the coffin to pay their respects when someone decided they wanted to get to the crem in a hurry.
Cue pushing and shoving and the coffin almost fell of the stand. Saved by the mans wife!
Also random women wailing. Seriously no
Need.

Well, we had to have two policemen at my grandfather's funeral because one of my aunts' is a liability. She was likely to start accusing people of murder and fly into a rage, assaulting people etc.

In Belfast for my dads wake. Open coffin. Drunk hanger on turns up to "pay respects". Takes a look at dad and says to my brother and me - "he's looking brave and well he is". We still laugh about that.

At my friend's dad's funeral, the vicar was the same guy who done her brother's funeral a few years earlier - kept calling newly deceased dad by deceased brother's name. Vicar was getting on a bit so people weren't angry with him but it was quite sad /awkward.

The vicar made a pass at me at my grandmother's wake .

SIL turned up to her father's funeral more than halfway through the service. Her complete lack of respect wasn't unexpected by me but seriously shocked some of the others there. Her husband then compounded matters by complaining that the forty minute drive to the service made their lateness inevitable. He probably didn't appreciate me telling him we had travelled four hours to my own father's funeral and I would have divorced my dh if he he hadn't got us there in plenty of time.

MIL’s brother emailed everyone pre-funeral telling them to disregard MIL’s last wishes (not to wear black).

MIL’s sister, who she hadn’t spoken to in several years, elbowed her way to the front door and welcomed everybody to the wake, which was in SIL’s house and which SIL had singlehandedly organised. She thanked everyone for coming, including SIL. She thanked SIL for coming to her own sodding house.

At my grandmother’s funeral my uncle decided that instead of a eulogy we should have effectively an open mike night in the chapel. Cue a lot of people coming up to the front and sharing anecdotes that would have been better kept unsaid. He also threw my small nephew out when he got a bit fussy (when the parents were doing their best and he had quietened pretty quickly). Ghastly fucker. My DM was hugely upset about the whole thing.

At my grandfather's funeral, in a rural village, the cars were parked along a stone wall edging the road, so only single vehicles could get past. Hearse was pulled up outside the lych gate as the coffin was coming out of the church (to go on to the crem)

An oil tanker was on the lane, honking his horn to get past the hearse.

My aunts funeral when I was 10 she was ex army and my alcoholic uncle, her own brother, started a fight with her army buddy's I can't remember what it was about only them not quite managing to hold their temper while escorting him out it was awful

At my best friends a lovely send off but nothing was what she would have wanted

My lovely uncle's funeral, the officiant was 1.5 hours late to the service, he was golfing, when he should have been conducting the funeral. He confessed he never wrote the date down as he always remembered, not this time dickhead. It was awful.

My mum told me that when my great auntie died. Her cousin had not long been dating his then girlfriend.
Anyway at the burial she started screaming and throwing herself on the floor. She didn't even know her.

Mine isn’t exactly at the funeral, although the CF in question did totally ignore the dress code (black, no bright colours) that the youngish man (cancer killed him in his 40’s) had requested. She was his Aunt and was very, very put out that his MIL, BIL and SIL were sat with her sister, his Mum, and the man’s wife at the funeral. Despite the fact the guy had lived near his in-laws for 15 years and absolutely loved them to bits. His wife is in her 30’s and she and his mother really needed the support (his Mum and MIL are very close) to get through the funeral.
The worst bit was at the wake his widow mentioned something very specific she was planning on doing in his memory, she had discussed it with him and said she hoped to be strong enough to do it in the few months after his death. His Aunt raced out two weeks later and did the exact thing, announcing on FB “I miss him too much to possibly wait any longer”.
Yet she wondered why her niece-in-law “cut her out” of the trip to scatter his ashes (at a place he chose, but his aunt declared ‘wrong choice’) when the time came.

At the funeral of my DM's MIL a few weeks ago (call her Christine). Christine's niece and niece's DS (not lose to the family, only saw each other occasionally) barged their way to the front, and sat down next the DM's newly widowed FIL, meaning that her, her fiance (Christine's DS!!!) and her step-daughter (Christine's DGD!!!!) had to sit on the row behind!!!!! I wasn't there as I didn't have childcare, I'd have struggled not to say something!!!

Same funeral, I overheard a woman in the supermarket talking about how she was catering the wake as 'the boys won't know their arse from their elbow in the kitchen'. ('the boys' being Christine's DS and DH). Myself and DM catered

FIL (English) had a number of friends from SE Asia attend his funeral, as he had worked in SE Asia for a big part of his life.

DH and I were shocked to tears when most of the SE Asian folk leapt up and started taking photos of the coffin as it rolled behind the curtains.

We had to assume it was to share with others who could not attend but it was shocking and completely unexpected. DH was already upset enough at the loss of his father, this just finished him off.

Relative taking photos all the time. Close up of me and sibling crying and hugging. I was crying on shoulder, looked up and saw the camera. What a cunt. Close up of coffin.

He visited the body the day before. No doubt for close ups.

Cunt.

Not a funeral but at the scattering of my DF's ashes.

I was in tears so much as I emptied the urn I could hardly see. But my fucking inappropriate sister was taking photos of the whole thing.
For who to look at, I can't imagine. Fucking year.

*Year = Twat

I don't think it's anybody's business to judge funeral behaviour.

I have attended quite a lot of funerals over the years. One was for a long time friend of my late Mum many years ago. One of the deceased sisters was standing at the graveside as the coffin was almost lowered into the grave, her hat blew off in the wind and landed on the coffin as she threw a rose into the grave and her handbag went in too as she was bending over to throw the rose.

Everyone thought it was very funny despite it being a funeral, well not my Mum, who said oh dear, I bet she paid a lot of money for that hat knowing her !. The hat and bag were retrieved later !

My own - two cases of crying with laughter, to such an extent that the person behind me rubbed my shoulder because they thought I was sobbing. The vicar had the strangest voice, everyone was trying hard - it was painful, I was begging myself to stop, but the more I thought about how awful it was, the harder it became to stop. I was mortified. The second, a really old uncle, they played the wrong song and it could only be described as a ragtime ditty - oh my, my brother was kicking me (we're both middle aged) because it was the most inappropriate choice for a funeral. I was pleading with myself to stop. It was painful.

My dad's funeral (only last month) was awful.

I'm the youngest of 17 (was 16 until a new discovery!!), 35yo single mum to severely autistic 18yo son with the most pathetic help you could imagine - I literally only have Thursday afternoon and evening away from my son.

I was left to arrange the funeral, nobody helped, yet I received daily messages telling me to get the wake sorted as the family groups are rarely together.

Arrived at the funeral and only 2 of my brothers (granted the youngest and my favourites!) bothered with me, they wanted to look after me. The rest ignored me and sat in a group with my eldest sister.

During the service one was playing on their phone. Two people were having a chat...

During the eulogy (obviously, I had to do it) my eldest sister started making snide comments about dad, loud enough for everyone to hear, and I stopped and told her to get out before realising that none of it meant anythinf to half the people there. Once outside, sister came to apologise with 'sorry, you weren't meant to here that but he was a bastard'. She then proceeded to stuff her face and drink like a fiah at the wake, along with most of my brothers.

Me, my favourite niece, her boyfriend and my two fave brothers were on our own, but thankfully our uncles, aunts and cousins showed more compassion than our asshole siblings.

ew 1990 I'm so sorry - That's disgusting
Horrible experience at my Dad's funeral - To be more specific, his wake.
Friends came back to he house (wake held at my aunts).
A LOT of alcohol had been consumed by then - One friend asked how other friend was (recently seperated). 'Other' friend took major umbridge to his enquiry and promptly locked herself in the loo. I had to spend over an hour trying to talk kindly to her (realised how painful the innocent enquiry may well have been). She would not budge. I then had to say, not being funny but I've buried my Dear Dad today so could you please get over yourself and come out. She did. And later that night shagged my [married cousin]. Hmm

TripTrapTrapOverTheBridge - Bloody hell - So sorry to hear about your expeience [shocked]