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AIBU?

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Aibu stingy man?

347 replies

Kellyohojn · 06/10/2017 21:50

Had about 10 dates with him.
Paid for myself on each date (which is fine by me)
Tomorrow night he has invited me to his for a Mexican themed night (just me and him)
He said he is making some tacos and I said il bring some starters /wedges/dips,and a few little ready made cocktails.
He said he will buy some tequila for margaritas..then says shall we go halfs on the cost of the margarita ingredients?
I'm sorry but I think that's stingy?
Aibu?

OP posts:
C0untDucku1a · 06/10/2017 23:14

Just dont give him the money. You know he is being unreasonable. How he reacts might just confirm what a tit he is.

Original poster
Kellyohojn · 06/10/2017 23:15

I think il see if he asks me for the cash.
If he doesn't fair enough ..if he does il give it to him then go home asap

OP posts:
tillytown · 06/10/2017 23:15

Ask if he will give you a discount if you bring your own lemon

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Kellyohojn · 06/10/2017 23:18

I think what's annoyed me mode is I've just moved into new property and struggling to afford carpets /laminate for the whole house ..and I've mentioned this to him ...yet he wants to charge me for some margaritas

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Willow2017 · 06/10/2017 23:19

Of course he will ask you for the cash, he sent you the picture to prove how much you would owe him if he had got the real deal, he isnt going to let you off with the cheap stuff either.

Dont bother going, that will leave a bad taste in your mouth along with the crap tequila and lemon!

Tell him to do one and save his money.

MsPavlichenko · 06/10/2017 23:20

Why waste another night on this loser. Buy some wine, eat your dips whatever and get on with your life.

FridgeCut · 06/10/2017 23:21

The problem isn't his stingeyness as much as that you just aren't compatible. Move on, don't fall into the trap of thinking you don't have a choice. You have time, dating and meeting new people should be fun! I saw OD as a series of meeting new people and having fun new experiences if it wasn't fun I didn't do it.

unfortunateevents · 06/10/2017 23:27

If you stay with this man you will spend every holiday of your time together in his villa in Bulgaria (which is not an attractive proposition) AND he will charge you rental!

C0untDucku1a · 06/10/2017 23:32

B Ulgaria is a lovely country.

Willow2017 · 06/10/2017 23:32

BTW I have been single a lot longer than you and would rather stay single forever than put up with this shit.

Fattychan123 · 06/10/2017 23:36

OMG half of a fair ride. Are you winding me up. Sorry not having this

Poisongirl81 · 06/10/2017 23:37

Are you with my ex? He has a villa in Bulgaria

Fattychan123 · 06/10/2017 23:39

@posion does he also squeak when he walks aswell?

LucieLucie · 06/10/2017 23:39

I bet you he will have a spreadsheet of all his spending and savings @Kellyohojn

It’s like a disease, he’s absolutely obsessed with being tight with his money.

The half an egg piece is beyond the pale.

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Jakeyboy1 · 06/10/2017 23:44

Is he an accountant?

I've been with one for 15 years. He used to say this kind of thing. I just laughed at him. He gave up!

coconutpie · 06/10/2017 23:45

Half an egg? Why are you even considering spending another evening with this stingy fucker?

AnneBiscuit · 06/10/2017 23:45

Text him and say you won't be able to give him half as you've had an unexpected bill and are skint. Then see what happens. A decent person would tell you it's on him. I'd bet you anything he doesn't.

ElsieMay123 · 06/10/2017 23:55

Options;

  1. as anneBiscuit suggests tell him you can't afford to go halves at mo, and would prefer not to meet than be in debt, see how that goes.
  2. have it out with him and let him know the constant penny watching isn't your thing. Living within your means is all very noble and all, but there are times when you accept things are going to cost (like when you go out for a meal/buy decent booze!!). Maybe he's had a bad experience in the past with someone freeloading. Talking about it might clear up any silliness on his part, or confirm your fears that he is a genuine tight arse and not worth the effort...
tsarista · 06/10/2017 23:59

Gobsmacked! Ditch...

Ilovetea33 · 07/10/2017 00:16

He complained because you had too much of his ice cream? That is so unattractive. And you don't even enjoy being with him that much. Move on, there must be somebody more suited out there.

stargazer2030 · 07/10/2017 05:05

I can't believe you are still going. Just text him and say you have spent more on bits so he actually owes you £1.50.
Personally though I would cancel. Can't stand tightness in a person (friend or partner).

pasturesgreen · 07/10/2017 05:20

It's stories like these that serve to remind me why I'm still single.

OP, why are you still wasting your time with tight-fisted twat? Confused

On a side note, who the hell buys a holiday home in Bulgaria of all places?

Hollyhop17 · 07/10/2017 05:24

Dear god, I am gobsmacked at this behaviour. Please dont go (but live blog if you do!) You can do so much better. It wont improve will it? Sack him off now. You've got great, funny stories to treat your next dare to!

Hollyhop17 · 07/10/2017 05:25

Next date, not dare...

HappenedForAReisling · 07/10/2017 05:34

Charge him half of your petrol to get to his house.

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