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AIBU?

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Aibu stingy man?

347 replies

Kellyohojn · 06/10/2017 21:50

Had about 10 dates with him.
Paid for myself on each date (which is fine by me)
Tomorrow night he has invited me to his for a Mexican themed night (just me and him)
He said he is making some tacos and I said il bring some starters /wedges/dips,and a few little ready made cocktails.
He said he will buy some tequila for margaritas..then says shall we go halfs on the cost of the margarita ingredients?
I'm sorry but I think that's stingy?
Aibu?

OP posts:
Lozmatoz · 07/10/2017 13:03

You don’t go halves of you invite someone over for dinner.... man or woman

OldPony · 07/10/2017 13:04

I too will be staying in with Strictly, having recently parted from a very fucking odd guy.

Thinking about it he was a tight fucker too. I'd pay for things (including once an entire trip to Amsterdam) and he'd say he'd pay next time. But there rarely was a next time. Defo not a city break anyway.

Therealslimshady1 · 07/10/2017 13:25

Fruitcorner123, yes, if you'd be straight with him you'd do him a kindness. He needs to be told.

In a weird way I feel sort of sorry for him Confused

Mustang27 · 07/10/2017 13:28

Wow! Not even a 'Hope you're okay and feel better soon.' How typical of you. Here's why you can't get a girlfriend: you want a blow up doll with a cash machine installed. You're tighter than a duck's arse, have the nerve to tell me to put fake tan on and wear porn clothes and you still can't get it up. Fuck off.'

This ^ do not tell him he seems remotely nice he does not. You are not a doormat so don’t pander too his already over inflated ego. What an arsehole not even showing a shred of sympathy.

ambereeree · 07/10/2017 13:36

I once went on a date with a guy who pulled out a voucher and then expected me to pay for half. I wouldn't mind but this was a second (and last) date and he had invited me out.

lookingbeyond40 · 07/10/2017 13:45

Freeze the mince???? Eat the mince???? Tell him to stuff his mince up his tight bottom.

Run for your life girl.

SparklyMagpie · 07/10/2017 13:50

I've already said, but definitely be straight with him, you're never going to see him again, you'd be doing him a favour, you can tell him he can have this little golden nugget of advice for free

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 13:50

I feel like "freeze the mince" will fit in nicely like this:

I'm an old poster with a name change for this (cutter up pear, darked on, cancel the cheque, freeze the mince)

Crescend0 · 07/10/2017 13:55

My god OP, this man is DIABOLICAL!!! Shock

I would tell him the relationship has no future because you find his attitude to money a turn off. Just be honest.

Bluntness100 · 07/10/2017 14:02

God, can’t believe all he responded about was the mince.

Text him back and say, “I’d prefer you didn’t eat any of the mince, so could you just go and buy something else for your dinner. It’s my mince not yours “

Just for the shits and giggles.

keepcalmandfuckon · 07/10/2017 14:06

Freeze the mince??! Freeze the fucking mince???!!!!!!!! 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️ oh my god. You should send him this thread, and then block him Grin

keepcalmandfuckon · 07/10/2017 14:07

Poison that poem GrinGrinGrin

maras2 · 07/10/2017 14:08

ellisandra Grin

Mummyoflittledragon · 07/10/2017 14:10

Bluntness Grin

RubbishMantra · 07/10/2017 14:15

Oh dear OP. As Marie Antoinette would say, "Let him eat MINCE!"

user7680 · 07/10/2017 14:22

I wouldn’t go

ambereeree · 07/10/2017 14:30

Freezing the mince for when you feel better OP...he's going to expect you to pay for the electricty to freeze the mince.

user7680 · 07/10/2017 14:37

Oh it’s over!Smile

SolidarityGdansk · 07/10/2017 14:42

I think freezing the mince is over egging th pudding

scootinFun · 07/10/2017 14:48

Don’t say he’s nice when you end it - he’s not

MagicFajita · 07/10/2017 14:51

Well done op , you're free! Please don't get sucked into another date with him.

I bet he saves the mince for the next poor woman he dates and eats a fried egg sandwich for dinner.

user1473069303 · 07/10/2017 14:51

If you tell him why you don't want to see him again, don't mince your words Grin.

But seriously, you can do a lot better. It's important not to be careless with money but his attitude is pathological.

Ttbb · 07/10/2017 14:54

That's just terrible manners. If you want to go halfs on dinner one of you lays the first time, then the next one pays the next time and you continue to alternate like that-you don't actually split the bill (unless you don't plan on seeing the person again, or you don't really know each other and you a trying to be polite by stooping to the other person's level). You NEVER invite someone to your house and ask them to pay for ANYTHING (however, when you are invited to someone's house it is polite to bring a bottle of wine/box of chocolates/whatever you think will be easily accepted and appreciated-don't bring a pot roast basically).

QuackPorridgeBacon · 07/10/2017 15:06

Yes he is an arse and very different in his ways and you both clearly are not compatible however, all the jokes about his penis are uncalled for.

areyoubeingserviced · 07/10/2017 15:13

The best advice my mother gave me was to never marry a stingy man.