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AIBU?

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Aibu stingy man?

347 replies

Kellyohojn · 06/10/2017 21:50

Had about 10 dates with him.
Paid for myself on each date (which is fine by me)
Tomorrow night he has invited me to his for a Mexican themed night (just me and him)
He said he is making some tacos and I said il bring some starters /wedges/dips,and a few little ready made cocktails.
He said he will buy some tequila for margaritas..then says shall we go halfs on the cost of the margarita ingredients?
I'm sorry but I think that's stingy?
Aibu?

OP posts:
FeelingAggrieved · 07/10/2017 09:20

What a stingy cunt catch.

IshouldntcareaboutthisbutIdo · 07/10/2017 09:21

Kelly - your new plan sounds much better. And at least you have an (albeit low) benchmark to set for future potential dates! As for the comments about sexy clothes etc (bleugh!)... would be harder Wink to leave if he had been a good shag so nothing to regret and dream over. Enjoy your evening!

Aeroflotgirl · 07/10/2017 09:21

Yeh here's the lowdown:

  1. Stingy as fuck
  2. Boasty as hell
  3. Floppy dick and bad in bed 4)Arrogant
  4. Creepy as sin
Tigerlovingall · 07/10/2017 09:24

If you've not already cancelled, ellendegenere s post is spot on for me.
Oh, and enjoy Strictly.
Half an egg and, cardinal sin, a lemon with a margarita, indeed...
ShockGrin

IshouldntcareaboutthisbutIdo · 07/10/2017 09:24

Perhaps DIY shops for potential dates for the moment?!

Eminado · 07/10/2017 09:24

Also he keeps telling me I need to fake tan as I'm so pale (I do like to now and again but not when I'm told)

RED CARD.
Game over. Surely?
Run.

Slimthistime · 07/10/2017 09:31

"We got ice cream and I asked could I try some of his flavour ..huffed and puffed I took too much"

ugh!

dump him, but yes, expect an itemised bill. Don't pay it though. He will consider Small Claims Court, then decide it's not worth it.

viques · 07/10/2017 09:34

I'm sorry, but a whole Mexican themed evening for just two sounds as grim as it gets. Will you have hats and a piñata? please just stay in for a pizza and a movie. Or go to the pub.

SparklyMagpie · 07/10/2017 09:38

Bloody hell, just when you think you've heard it all!!

OP you're essentially paying to be in a "relationship" you don't even want to be in

Id charge him for that! Id cancel and tell him the truth tbh, I find it hilarious he says he never has much luck... But he'll always have his piggy bank

TalkingintheDark · 07/10/2017 09:39

He has never had a long term gf no.
Told me he never has much luck.

Baffling, isn't it?

Original poster
Kellyohojn · 07/10/2017 09:43

All of my Exs have been fun and had something about them (if that makes sense)
Like a fun side and made me laugh and with him I don't know he's just a bit flat.
I don't think he gets my personality because he thinks I'm being serious when even a 4 year old would know I'm joking.
Back to the drawing board for me...

OP posts:
Aeroflotgirl · 07/10/2017 09:44

Have you dump him yet!

DJBaggySmalls · 07/10/2017 09:46

Is this a new thing men do as some sort of test? Is it supposed to weed out gold diggers or some shit?
I' propose we call it The Brent Test. Any man using a Brent Test is automatically an arse and undateable

Original poster
Kellyohojn · 07/10/2017 09:47

I've just sent him a text saying I'm not feeling great today then I'm going to do what a few posters have said and said in a few days
"I've been thinking about this and you seem like a nice guy but I don't think we are compatible,I hope you find someone better suited in the future"

OP posts:
Aeroflotgirl · 07/10/2017 09:51

Don't tell him he seems like a nice guy as he's not, he will carry on thinking he is great with nothing wrong with him. Tell him that you don't feel he's comparable. If he asks why, just tell him. Good on you! Start as you mean to go on.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 07/10/2017 09:52

Good plan op.Smile I wouldn't bother giving any tips or feedback. I think djbaggy is onto something about him testing you.

LoisWilkersonsLastNerve · 07/10/2017 09:55

Maybe this calls for a poem?Grin
You are so mean,
Find another half egg Queen

Etc

SparklyMagpie · 07/10/2017 09:57

No offence, but I can't wait to see his reply

"Was it the lemon? It was the lemon that did it wasn't it?! "

ItsNachoCheese · 07/10/2017 09:57

Tell him to fuck off tight fisted balloon. Hes by no means a keeper if hes that stingy

bibbertybobbityboo · 07/10/2017 09:59

Definitely give him an exit interview! If you feel inclined, be kind and tell him EXACTLY how unappealing being tight is , his future self will thank you

RosyPony · 07/10/2017 10:02

"You seem like a nice guy, until I got to know you and it became apparently obvious why you are still single"

My DH is very sensible with money but also very generous, you can be both.

Ellisandra · 07/10/2017 10:02

Pull off the plaster.

Text back now and tell him that you're sorry about dropping out at short notice. You aren't feeling well, but it made you realise that you weren't that keen to go - you're just not feeling the "spark" so you'd rather not leave him hanging on after this cancelled date.

Just get it ended!

Then enjoy your pizza and Strictly!

RestingBitchFaced · 07/10/2017 10:02

Don't go! He sounds awful. You can do better than this OP

LoniceraJaponica · 07/10/2017 10:06

At 37 he has never has a serious girlfriend. I wonder why Hmm

Please update us with the exit strategy.

keepcalmandfuckon · 07/10/2017 10:07

Aye don't tell him he's a nice guy. He's a git!
'Hey floppy dick, I'm sorry this won't work out as we're not compatible. Your cheap habits are preventing me from enjoying the relationship. P.s. This is why you're unlucky in love, Ebenezer'.

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