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To tell the teacher that dd won't be doing the detention ?

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Wibblywobblyfoo · 06/10/2017 20:15

Dd came home from school tonight saying that she has been given an after school detention, to be done on monday, for missing a bit of homework that was meant to be handed in today. She went to her lesson and they were all asked for their homework. She told the teacher there was none and the teacher logged onto the online homework portal and showed them the set work, that she had set at 9.30pm last night!
Dd is 14 and was in bed at 9.30 last night. We also have a no computers after 8.30 pm for them all during the week.
Is setting the work that late reasonable?

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G1raffe · 06/10/2017 20:33

There's one superstrict school near us where they seem to issue detentions for everything but I think elsewhere it would have to be a build-up of issues.

I certainly didn't for one missed work - only really if there was a pattern. Everyone makes mistakes and if expect it the next day. Detentions were a big thing.

AlexanderHamilton · 06/10/2017 20:34

That's happened in ds's previous school. Homework set online late at night & expected to be in the next day. I complained.

G1raffe · 06/10/2017 20:35

We weren't allowed to issue next day homework either.

I really will have to look carefully at secondary schools when we go to visit.

foxyloxy78 · 06/10/2017 20:36

Don't let your child be punished for something that was not her fault. Do it over the weekend and hand it in on Monday with a letter to the teacher. Who should frankly know better. I would not be amused.

Ploppie4 · 06/10/2017 20:37

Email the teacher and who ever coordinates the detention to say that your Dd will not be doing the detention on Monday because it was only set at 9.30pm x night with the due date of x. State that your DD was asleep in bed at 9.30pm.

AlexanderHamilton · 06/10/2017 20:37

Schools that use an online homework system also often don't issue planners to students.

KitKat1985 · 06/10/2017 20:38

YANBU. I wouldn't be happy about that either.

FeelingAggrieved · 06/10/2017 20:41

YANBU if that's what happened. Set at 9.30pm? How can the teacher have even expected anyone to do it?

gillybeanz · 06/10/2017 20:41

I would contact the school and get the facts, if it is true and the teacher insists they should have done it then I would take it further.

Threenme · 06/10/2017 20:43

Mine wouldn't be doing it. I'd email the teacher at 9.30 Sunday night to tell her.

WineAndTiramisu · 06/10/2017 20:43

If only two people actually did it, then I'd certainly complain, are they putting the whole class in detention?
I'm usually asleep by then, so no chance of anyone seeing it!

BMW6 · 06/10/2017 20:45

That sounds completely mad.

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Wibblywobblyfoo · 06/10/2017 20:45

All the children that didn't do the homework have bee given the same detention.

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Ploppie4 · 06/10/2017 20:45

My school has bought iin a rule stating that children have to do a detention immediately after school on the same day they ‘commit the crime.

My son had to catch the only bus home from school rather then do the immediate same day detention. I had to emailed the school to tell them that after school detentions would need to be pre arranged and fit with parental commitments as we live rurally with no public transport. Thankfully DS is well behaved and studious so rarely falls short.

Tw1nsetAndPearls · 06/10/2017 20:47

No child HAS to serve a detention. They can just follow rules and hand in their homework. If children know that getting home is an issue they can just hand their homework in

Threenme · 06/10/2017 20:49

They can't if they don't know about it

RedSkyAtNight · 06/10/2017 20:49

I'm finding it hard to believe that anyone in the class did it if it was only set at 9.30pm. Not even the most conscientious student is logging on then if there was no homework earlier.

Which makes me think it was set earlier - was 9.30pm the time the note was added?

Tw1nsetAndPearls · 06/10/2017 20:50

@Threenme I agree, I said below that this detention - if it happened like the OP said - is wrong.

However in most cases children don't need to get detentions - it is a choice

MyWhatICallNameChange · 06/10/2017 20:50

This happened to DS, though he didn't get a detention. He went on Show My Homework on Sunday evening (had been at scout camp all weekend) and did his homework. Wanted to check something the next morning and some other homework had appeared that had to be in that day! Weird!

He also has some showing that has to be handed in on a Sunday (a booklet, so not online!)

YouTheCat · 06/10/2017 20:51

Twinset, how do you expect the OP's dd to have done this homework if it was set at 9.30pm the night before it was due in? Unless you know something about time travel that's escaping the rest of us, of course.

PerfectlyPooPoo · 06/10/2017 20:54

Absolutely nbu. If the teacher was sick then she needs to work catch-up into her classes with minimal homework to the students for this reason.

permatiredmum · 06/10/2017 20:54

Unfortunately some teens will be starting their homework at 9.30 and later especially if doing evening activities.

AlexanderHamilton · 06/10/2017 20:54

Some kids I know often do homework up until around 10-11pm at night (especially if they had activities in the evenings so it's feasible a couple did it

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Wibblywobblyfoo · 06/10/2017 20:54

red the homework has a thingie on it saying date and time that it was added to the portal. And as I said the teacher added a note to it which made it clear that it was added then. It wasn't amended at that time it was added.

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LynetteScavo · 06/10/2017 20:57

I would be telling the HOY my DC want doing the detention and emailing the principal to point out the lunacy, and pointing out I was concerned any 14yo was doing homework after 9:30pm

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