Parents who think rules don't apply to them

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Just went to the harvest festival assembly at primary school where my kid was performing. The whole school was.

Announcement at the beginning no photographs or filming please turn your phone off.

Smug bitch in the second row filming the whole thing on her phone. A woman in front of her was caught taking a photograph and told not to by a member of staff (not made to delete it though) and said "oh I didn't know" of course you knew.

I have reasons for my child to be on social media with her school name attached and I'm sure I'm not the only one in the country who feels this way either.

Of course I didn't say anything to the filming mother as my child could be in a class with hers for years and so frictions are best avoided

I'm absolutely raging though.

Would i be ur to not allow my child to ever participate in school assembly's plays or anything like this again because of some selfish ignorant twat?

granny
Imagine someone zooms in to take a photo of their kid and captures the one either side and behind. Then sticks that on Facebook.

Or we've all seen those videos where some 4yo does something 'hilarious' in the nativity that go viral and both the hilarious kid and all his neighbours are clearly visible.

And yes. Facial recognition software is getting better all the time. (And when they finally perfect it, all the photos that are out there, will still be out there.)

Google reverse image search
It is this kind of technology which is worrying.

You have a picture of the child from 2 years ago, and possibly image searching finds one of them now.
Or you have picture of birth father age 10 and image of the son of a similar age can be found.
Or adoptive parents kindly send photos yearly to nice birth mum, because they know they live at the opposite end of the country. Nice birth mum gets coerced by nasty estranged birth dad into handing over photo. Birth dad searches and finds open facebook post by idiot I know best parent of school nativity including child. Quick look at other posts on page quickly reveals which school and location.

Just how problematic the whole thing is can be shown by this. My DC had a friend at school A while ago, the friend was under police protection, been moved several times, but was a talented musician, think nyo level. School was red hot, she didn't even have school photos done by tempest. However, she had a cousin at the school not under the order, school play, cousins mum posts pic. (Even though she was related to friend)Ended up with police at school, friend having to go into hiding once more as her abuser found her as he kept tabs on extended family on FB. The FB mum thought she did nothing wrong as it wasn't fair on her child.

For some reason I didn't think of them zooming in. I can see the name being there would be a massive issue but you usually have to agree to those, well you did when mine were at school.

Face recognition software, that is the sort of thing I was imagining, I mean if someone has moved and you don't know where they are you would be really going some to check every posting of nativity plays or similar on the internet. I thought there must be something like this but not something I would be using so didn't know if it existed so thanks for the information.

Im thankful we trusted to make good choices in our school community

And again I will reiterate previous posters that it's possible the situation over child safety hasn't arisen in your school.

At my DD's school 6 out of the 9 year groups can take photos but not share them on social media. They're trusted because if someone fucks up there isn't a potentially catastrophic end result. For the remaining 3 years, categorically no pics to be taken.

Exactly Verbena.