WIBU to change cats now I know that it's a different sex?

[stonecold85]

We have reserved a cat from a breeder (ready in a few weeks) and had the perfect name, etc. picked out.

We have had pictures sent to us since birth.

Have just been told that it's actually a girl! DS wanted a boy cat (we have a girl cat and DD thinks of it as hers - she has been done though so no problems there).

Now we can't think of a name and DS is miserable. She has said we can change it to a different puppy as she has 2 that are waiting to be reserved.

We've had pictures of her since birth though and it's a bit mean, isn't it?

I cant believe you are assuming it's gender.

I hear this so much from my teen boys. 'Did you just assume my gender?' I get quite irritated by it but your post did make me laugh

Change kittens OP. Ignore people who are acting all OTT. It's a kitten, no kittens will be harmed by picking another one.

It's not about what you want as a pet though. It's about our collective responsibility to rehome all stray animals in the world

Got to admit that I read this and started my reply with 'don't be so fucking ridiculous' then read the rest of the post ....

I don't really get the point of the question. Of course you can switch to a different kitten if you want to. The kitten you had chosen doesn't know anything about you, or care.
The issue seems to be your DS has bonded with this kitten through photos etc., but would prefer a male cat, which this kitten no longer is (!). The question, therefore, is, what is more important? The sex of the cat or the cat with whom you have (a tiny bit) bonded? Ask your DS. There's your answer.

Seeing as you aren't actually 'dumping' the kitten back, then yanbu.
However, as its because of your DS, what happens if he decides he doesn't like the kitten? Or it doesn't behave as expected, ie not playful and too timid?
I know its a lot of what ifs, but if he's so upset over it not being a boy then you need to consider if he'll be just as upset in above scenarios.

Sorry should have added, can you consider a slightly older kitten, one that has 'developed' its temperament ITMS?

I can’t believe so many people are gender stereotyping cats!

Based on their own pets, so hardly a large sample size.

Not sure why you told your DS it wasn't a boy cat after all. I would've just gone with the kitten being Gandalf or whatever as you always planned. Gender stereotypes are very much a human thing and I doubt cats pay attention to them.