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To think my cleaner shouldn't eat all the biscuits

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thepurplehen · 01/10/2017 20:36

I've noticed that my cleaning lady is clearing me out of biscuits. She eats an entire biscuit tin whilst she's in my home. So 1-2 packets. She's never asked if it's ok or replaced anything. I've never offered them to her either.

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pollymere · 03/10/2017 18:23

Mention that you've noticed the biscuits are going missing and ask if she's seen any clues whilst cleaning. Blithely mention that it's basically stealing. See if it keeps happening.

Lottie5mummy · 03/10/2017 18:31

Tell her to stop eating the biscuits - it's ridiculously cheeky. I have a cleaner who knows she can help herself to a cuppa for the hour or so she's with us and I buy her a gift at Christmas but does not get offered food normally. I don't get offered food at my work so why is it different when someone comes to work in your home? We did have a super rubbish cleaner before the current one who used to charge for the full time but never stay anywhere near that time and didn't do a particularly good job of the bits she did clean...got rid sharpish!

Shona52 · 03/10/2017 18:32

Wow unbelievable cheeky. Yeah I think she's taking the home too. And if she's doing it with your biscuits I don't think I would trust her to be in my house

Munchkinbug · 03/10/2017 18:35

Some of these responses are just plain weird. Don't leave biscuits out? Why not hell not - it's her house. Perhaps that's where the biscuit tin lives? They don't cost much. Not the point! Leave some out on a saucer? Why??

I don't go into work and assume that nibbles will be provided for me.

Okay fine, if you're happy for her to have one or two, then that's one thing. But taking a whole packet, never mind two packets is just taking the mick! This is why I never offer my husband any of my sweets - he never takes one, he finishes the lot.

Leave a note in the tin telling your "family" that these biscuits are to last the whole week, and to ask before helping themselves. This way, she can gracefully stop taking biscuits without it becoming a thing.

I left a box of tissues on my desk once, when I had a cold. The cleaners had taken them all but left the box. Was I unreasonable to be annoyed at that, because tissues don't cost much??? Erm, no. No I wasn't.

user1483875094 · 03/10/2017 18:39

oh... my ... god! ......

monty1212 · 03/10/2017 18:43

How can you be sure its her.
Hasnt dp offered her bisccies?
I find it unbelievable that she would do it. Talk to her. Or set up a secret camera. You will know for sure then. Dont poison your kids with dogs biscuits.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 03/10/2017 18:47

Dog biscuits are alright Monty

Have younger dated a dog biscuit for a bet*? Or licked a battery?

*Oh! Only me, then!

Bmccaughey1030 · 03/10/2017 18:48

Absolutely not. I clean homes for a living and I never eat or drink their food or use their facilities.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 03/10/2017 18:48

*Have you never eaten, not "Have younger dated"

This effin' autocorrect!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 03/10/2017 18:49

"Dated a dog biscuit for a bet" Hahahahahaha Oh, dear

ChardonnaysPrettySister · 03/10/2017 18:50

Well. I wheely don't think she's that unreasonable.

smilingontheinside · 03/10/2017 18:50

Sweatpea55 rich tea are my favourite biscuits and if I fancy "living it up" I like to put cadbury choc spread on them but only special occasions BrewSmile

Hopemay · 03/10/2017 18:51

Are you absolutely sure it is your cleaner that’s cleaning out your cookie tin?

dustarr73 · 03/10/2017 19:15

Are you absolutely sure it is your cleaner that’s cleaning out your cookie tin?
Unless the cookie monster has a key,it has to be the cleaner.

Sadmum987 · 03/10/2017 19:16

I do a bit of cleaning and the only thing I have ever ever taken was two paracetamol when I had a banging head... and I felt guilty!

Maybe say something like, I've noticed the biscuit tin keeps getting emptied and wondered if you have found them in one of the kids rooms as it's too big an amount to eat in one go.... unless your a pig ;)

Strongmummy · 03/10/2017 19:17

Does she do a good job of cleaning? If so, what's the problem? Seriously ? She's cleaning your toilets for god's sake, does it really matter!!! I tell my cleaner to help herself to whatever

flyingspaghettimonster · 03/10/2017 19:18

I had a friend that used to be a huge chocoholic. He knew he wasn't allowed it unless he was given it, but each time there was a bar in the fridge he couldn't resist sneaking downstairs at night and taking a tiny piece off the end, then sealing it back up neatly so nobody would notice. Each time his dad would demand to know who ate the chocolate and he would have to admit, and take a beating for it. One night his dad hid and watched. He saw my friend sneaking down, taking a tiny bit, then neatly putting the rest back. Then a few minutes later he saw his little brother come down, eat the whole rest of the bar and toss the wrapper back in the fridge empty. Next day the brother got the whooping of his life for never owning up and letting my friend take all the blame.

My point is, you can't be sure your family aren't just aware what say your cleaner comes and taking the opportunity to gorge themselves. Kids might take the packs for school to share with friends, or sell (my kids have been known to sell cans of coke from my house)...

If the cleaner really is scoffing two packs each visit, she might have a real problem. Maybe she has no food at home... I would just ask her politely if she is ok, because you noticed that your cookie tin goes down considerably when she is there and you wanted to make sure she is getting enough to eat. Then she will either be too embarrassed to keep taking them, will confess to needing them for reasons unknown or will deny it vigorously and you will have to look at your family a bit harder...

Booagain · 03/10/2017 19:20

A packet?! How long is there for to get through that?? Mind you, I can put them away given the chance..
I'd stash most and leave a few for her. She might get the msg and it means you're not being petty or having to face it out with her (especially if you want to keep her)

nannygoat50 · 03/10/2017 19:22

Seriously eatingvthat many biscuits . Is she huge😂I'd ask her outright

GinnyWreckin · 03/10/2017 19:29

I reckon she's taking them home for her kids.

We had a cleaner who used to bring her DD with her every week, and she would "borrow" the dcs toys and bring them back next week.

Not saying that the bikkies are being borrowed, but you may find there are circumstances behind the biscuit disappearances .

Maybe ask you cleaner is everything is ok? She may be feeding her family on them. You never know these days.

elfies · 03/10/2017 19:30

She shouldn't be taking them, but it sounds like there is an underlying story .
Is she married , living alone with Children , could she be on the breadline or have an abusive relationship , please talk to her , desperate people do desperate things , maybe she WANTS you to catch her or report her to the police .

smilingontheinside · 03/10/2017 19:35

Schaefer I've eaten dog biscuits and not even for a bet!!! When I was a kid I loved the black ones (charcoal) in Spillers mixed biscuits Grin and I have also licked a battery Blush

smilingontheinside · 03/10/2017 19:35

Schaeden not Schaefer lol

TakeAnadin · 03/10/2017 19:48

Don't leave biscuits- simples.

Benedikte2 · 03/10/2017 19:54

I'd put a note in the tin saying Please don't take more than 2 or 3 biscuits or others will have to go without. This is the week's supply.
Thank you.

If anything is said you can feign ignorance and say you thought it was the DC and the note was for them