I decided to register after seeing yet another internet (viral) comment on how bad men are, what we do wrong and how useless we are. Yes I know some men are complete assholes and I know we don't always do things correctly or in the order women want them done. But we are not all complete idiots, uncaring or lazy.
Men and women are very different, not sure if you've noticed as it looks like women (not all women) expect us to think, feel and react the same as them and when we don't we are bad people. We do not see the world as you see it, we do not feel the world as you feel it and we do not prioritise things as you do. This doesn't make us bad people, it makes us different to you. How comes people understand (not always) that you have to allow for people of different races, religions and cultures who think differently. Well men are a different race so cut us some slack.
I work in a job I don't enjoy and cant get out of. If I am lucky I get to spend some time with the baby (lately often asleep) and teenager (in his room) while my wife works (she works very hard) and then I do some chores. I rarely sleep more than 4 hours for many reasons and when the baby was born I took all the night shifts to allow my wife to rest. Do I remember to do the washing? No, Do I remember to get the vacuum cleaner out? No. But my wife's car seems to fix itself, maintain itself, MOT itself and tax and insure itself and fill itself with petrol. When something needs fixing in the house it miraculously mends itself overnight or in the few hours I might have free at the weekend. Oh and the shopping apparently just arrives in our fridge.
I miss my children everyday, I rarely get to see all those special moments as they grow up and I can never get them back. I'm often stressed and worried about paying the bills and my job or my health, so they don't always get the dad they deserve. They sometimes get the asshole I don't like.
Could I do all the chores around the house, make dinner and take the children to playgroups and make sure they are dressed correctly if that was on my mind most of the day. Hell yes! Maybe not as good a job as the wife does, but I would certainly try. Not constantly worrying about who pays the bills or fixes things would make my mind so much clearer to think in the first place.
If the worst problem you have is having to ask your husband to do something for you and the worse thing you can think to put out to the world is that he says "if you want me to do something, tell me" you need to take a good look at the world around you.
Do you have food and water? Many don't.
Are you constantly getting shot at, abused or tortured? Many are.
Does your husband abuse you, hurt your kids, sleep with your best friend? Many do.
Can you vote, drive a car, walk down the street safely? Many cant.
If you always look for the negative, your life will be negative. If you always see the positive, your life will be positive.
The wife taught me that, she's often right