To bring to your attention this common faux pas

[Oldatheart91]

I am 26 years old and look considerably younger, think 16-18, and if I had a pound for every conversation Ive had about how young I am I would retire a happy lady.

Now I understand I look young, I accept that even now I will get ID'd for everything (even scratch cards!) BUT when i show you my ID i dont want to have to then stand there for actual long minutes whilst you tell me what I already know!

Yes I dont look my age. Yes I have been told that. Yes I dont look old enough to have a baby, run a house, do a weekly shop etc. And NO I will not be happy about it when Im 50!

I think random comments can be forgiven to an extent but from people who you have showed an ID to its just plain rude. It would be like a slimming world instructor raving to class about how you are the fattest lass yet! But still random comments, probably not welcome when people are doing ordinary things like standing at a bus stop or doing the weekly shop.

So in summary, i think any comment about how someone looks TOO anything (old, young, fat, thin etc.) is just rude and although you may think you are being nice you may infact be rubbing someones biggest insecurity in their face.

Never said it was an insult.

Said I think it's rude to comment on people's appearance, whether that's weight, age, boob size, nose size, hair colour or whatever I think is the same in my opinion.

Is it because of the new rule in some supermarkets that they have to check ID if you look under 25? I’m 40 in a few months and after years of never being asked for ID I have stopped carrying it only to have started getting asked again quite a few times lately. I definitely have not started looking younger. It is embarrassing especially when I see the same checkout assistant serving people who look a lot younger than me without asking for ID in the same queue.

Yes The Challenge 25 scheme Mepop. By law, anyone who looks around 25 or younger needs to prove they're over 18.

Perfectly fine. Ask away- it's your job.

Further comment isn't needed When I hand you my ID on my appearance IMO.

I get this as well, I'm nearly 40 and have just celebrated my 20th Wedding anniversary. (did you get married at 12 or something or was it an arranged marriage - wrong culture!)

My wanker of an ex-boss said it wasn't because I "looked" young, but that I was so immature, people just assumed I was younger and actually, didn't I notice all the wrinkles and grey hairs?

So after knocking my confidence massively, I assumed it was because I was childish that people said they thought I was younger.

Maybe I am though :) I really don't care, I love my life and he can go do one!

I remember being 23 and being refused a lottery ticket purchase as you need to be 16. Those were the days. I'm mid 40's now, 3 children later and I'm fairly sure I look my age. I should have been more grateful for the "how old?" comments back then 😀

Indeed. And never say "it's a lovely day" to someone in case they hate this weather. Never mention a prog you saw on TV in case it has traumatic connotations for them. Don't mention your partner, parents or kids in case the other person has been recently bereaved... In fact, everybody STOP communicating. As the saying goes, "A closed mouth gathers no feet".

It's just having the same conversation over and over that can become wearing...I get this all the time for my nationality and I've been in the UK 20 years. I even have a passport!

"Australia or New Zealand?"
"Australia"
"what are you doing HERE then, have you seen the weather?"
"Mmmm hmmm haha"
"Do you miss it?"
"Not really at least I don't burn my hands on the steering wheel and moths are not the size of 747s" etc etc

It's just chit chat, an ice breaker.

I've had the id check in the supermarket and the person on the till read out my address... commented on every aspect of my driving licence.... btw I was 40+ and older than her.... I'm sorry but in my book that is plain rude and completely unnessessary ...