To expect a thank you card?

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DH and I have just attended our 4th wedding of the year so this is fresh in my mind...

I've noticed a trend the last couple of years, of the happy couple not sending a thank you card/note for the gift you bought them. When DH and I got married 8ish years ago, I painstainkingly wrote out 100+ thank you notes for the presents and vouchers we'd received and was happy to do so. We had several friends get married around the same time and received cards from them thanking us for the gifts we'd given. However without exception, the last 2 or 3 years we haven't received a single thank you after any of the weddings we've attended.

Is it just me who thinks this is a bit rude? On any other occasion (birthday, Christmas etc) you'd expect the person to whom you'd given a present to say thank you, whether it's a text, card, email or in person, and I don't see how a wedding is any different? Particularly when you've spent £50-100 on a present (as we normally do at weddings) it just seems a bit rude for the couple not even to acknowledge it...feeling a bit huffy about it!

AIBU?

I attended a relatives wedding in June and the photos have only just been received by the happy couple (on disc so no printing involved). What took so long? Most of them are arty shots from long distance, blurred edges and none of the formal groups we had in the past. In fact I didn't see one of the lovely bride with her dad. I know the relaxed style is in vogue but it will be a shame to look back in years to come and not be able to pick out aunt Mary in the family group shot (as there aren't any)!