To be pissed off with marrieds who don't work complaining they are tired?!

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I know everything is relative and everyone has their own problems...but I am sick of hearing mums of school age children, who have partners, who don't work, complaining they are tired and have so much to do!

I am a single mum, I work full time. I get up at 5:30, deliver three children to different schools about ten miles in total, then drive to work, work a full day, collect same children, go home, cook everyday, clean the house, wash all the clothes.

I've got one friend in particular who is a stay at home mum. She texts me all day moaning about how tired she is, since they went back to school there is just so much to do, and getting it all clean before they get home is soooo hard. She's so stressed by it all. Her husband works, takes the children to school, cooks...

I have absolutely no issues with life choices as a stay at home mum. I'm not jealous and I don't have issues with them not being in full time work or anything. But just stop telling me how hard your bloody life is!!

And don't even start me on the married, childless woman at work who just got a dog and is soooo exhausted.

Rant over.

YNBU OP.
I'm a single mum on MAT leave atm with a breastfeeding new born and a 2 year old. It's a doddle, but I know when I return to full time work it's going to be awful. Having to clean your house and do washing is not difficult in itself until you add 40+ hours of work onto it. I take my hat off to you and I am not surprised you are annoyed.

I am particularly impressed that you return with the same 3 children that you sent to school . Seriously. I just don’t get into competitive tiredness. It’s too much mind use for me. But I absolutely admire you being a single parent and getting on with it! X

Personally I was much more tired when I was on mat leave. Going to work is a mental and physical break. Couldn't be a SAHM if you paid me.

Single mum. Absolutely not my choice and spent way too much time and effort trying to make the marriage work.

I get no maintenance,have no family close by (they live on a other continent), no contact with father or his family. I work full time (50+h a week), 1 preschool DC. I do all the housework shopping childcare gardening cooking admin finance you name it. I am permanently tired. But I don't really complain. You just get on with it I guess.

I particularly don't like mums whose partner goes away for a day and they complain like drains and pretend they know what it's like to be a single parent. Errr no. A short period on your own is just a bit more housework and childcare than normal. You still don't have the responsibility or worry about finance, bills,major decisions etc. That is what I find so tiring!!!!

@manicmij I don't understand where your comments are coming from. I've looked again at the original post, at no point did she state she chose to become a single parent. As for the rest of your comments, no words really.
Seems to be a lot of assumptions on your behalf, with no provocation.
Says so much more about you than anyone else.

Yabu. Some people work full time and some people are full time stay at home mums. Yes you work full time away from home and take care of your kids, that's extra work. Doesn't mean your tiredness is more credible than a sahm

Being a sahm should be a bit more respected. Especially for the 'real' sahm who actually work their arse off running a household and don't use it an as excuse to stay out of outside work

It's all relative and circumstances are different for everyone. My single mum friend has 2 nights off a week while the kids are with her ex. I work from home and my husband is away all week, I haven't had a child free night for over a year. Glad my mate does though, I'd love one!

Yes it's all relative and some people may be tired regardless of lifestyle because they have a bug, low iron levels or something like that. Or a high maintenance husband on top of the kids. Or cats that wake them up in the night. Or they live in a flight path / have noisy neighbours / draining relatives or menstrual-related tiredness and moods. Or just some other stress that is affecting them which may not be apparent to anyone else.

Yeah they can all fuck off ! Try 5 days a week in the GOT poltics of my workplace ugh 😑 then wrestling two sweaty DC to bed

I think it's all relative-

Competitive tiredness (which DH and I used to have when DC were babies) is dangerous.

Everyone is as tired as they are.

Their most tired day is their's. As is yours....