AIBU to not want to bring the children

[summerbreeze15]

My husband is taking part in a marathon in a few weeks time. During the last few weeks there have been various smaller races ect and I've brought our children out to see him at the finish line. The big marathon is in the city and it will mean an hours train journey for me plus a 20-30 min walk or I could drive in with the kids but struggle to get parking due to the volume of people attending plus various road closures. My youngest is only a few months so I will have to take my stroller and navigate through the crowds. I never take my children into the city unless I absolutely have to. My husband expects me to bring them in to see him run the marathon. Aibu to not want to bring them?

My best friend and I did a power walking marathon overnight finishing at 7am. Our DHs brought all our DC to meet us after even though it meant an hour on a train at stupid o clock. They met us at the finish after we had crossed the line but having them there was amazing because we'd just done 26 miles on no sleep and it would have been a real anticlimax to just go home on our own after plus we could barely walk so it was nice to have someone to lean on. We went out for breakfast, a good time was had by all and it meant a lot to all of us. But...if he's going to the pub and you and the DC aren't included then that's another thing altogether. If you can go and cheer at some point along the route then yes, great. If you go and celebrate the achievement together after as a family, yes, great. Otherwise better to go on your own and leave the children with someone else

Who are all these people who can only do things 'with their partner's support'?

He's running because he wants to. That's fine. But there's really no reason why you should all have to schlep out there and tell him how fabulous he is for it.

Limecordial - was that the moonwalk? I did that, and I would have loved DH to have been at the other end with my DC, but it was at ridiculous o'clock in the morning and the boys had full schedules for the day so I told them not to. Still felt a pang at the end when I finished all on my own and had no one to celebrate with....

Its his hobby!! , can he only do it if you and the kids are cheering him on and clapping for him?

Tell him you have your own stuff to do that day and youll mind the kids while he does "his stuff".

Talkin - yes it was. To be fair they offered - but it was lovely to have someone to collapse on celebrate with and the kids were really into it too - but I think the youngest was about 5 so not the same as having babies who don't have a clue what's going on.

DH is going out with his friends for a few drinks after the marathon (well he plans to) so I'd only be taking the children in and home and if it was raining or bad weather we would all be miserable.

If he's only expecting you to watch him finish then you and the DCs go home, then why bother? If it's a marathon, then you'll struggle to get a position at the finish where your DH can see you.

Far from it being easy to push a pram around in the crowds, I've been to places on big event days and you waste a lot of time trying to get through a crowd, a lot of time waiting for a table or somewhere to sit in a crowded cafe, and any DCs that are walking are liable to get knocked by people who don't look where they are going.

Why bother if your DH isn't planning to spend time with you afterwards?