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Original poster

He wouldn't let me eat because "I'm on a diet?"

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FluffySlippers21 · 14/09/2017 18:23

Hello!
AIBU?? Or am I completly in the right to feel so hurt 🙁
I'm 5'10 a dress size 12/14 with a healthy bmi but am currently following slimming world to lose my last 7lbs of baby weight.
Today I was out shopping with DP when I mentioned I was starving, he also said he was hungry and that he was going to nip in Burger King. When we got to the till I asked if he could order me such a thing and he replied "no you're on a diet" at first i thought he was joking but it became apparent he wasn't.
He basically expected me (knowing I was hungry) to sit there and watch him eat. I just find this so bloody cruel and nasty.
He even had the flaming liberty to sit down and offer me a CHIP after telling me I couldn't order anything.
I wouldn't mind if there was a health concern surrounding my weight but I'm a healthy weight!!
I am so upset and am currently sulking upstairs 🙁

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FluffySlippers21 · 15/09/2017 17:15

Should have read
Sit there and eat in front of you*

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aintnothinbutagstring · 15/09/2017 17:22

He wasn't helping you at all, weren't there any low calorie options, like a basic hamburger or chicken sandwich must be around 400kcal or do bk do salads? Crazy Confused

Allthelightsgoout · 15/09/2017 17:26

Hmmmm.

aintnothinbutagstring · 15/09/2017 17:35

If you wanted a low calorie option of course, what you eat and when you eat should always be completely your choice, anyone trying to take that choice away from you is batshit crazy.

AngelsSins · 15/09/2017 17:38

He was completely over stepping his boundaries, it's YOUR diet OP and you don't need him to monitorer it for you, or you would have asked him to. I hope he understands just how rude and disrespectful he was.

Allabitmuchisntit · 15/09/2017 17:45

Twat.
I would have ordered a dirty great big Chinese for delivery as soon as I got home.

DontDrinkDontSmoke · 15/09/2017 18:31

You and your "Hubble" seem well matched OP.

randomer · 15/09/2017 19:22

Any body had long term success with a diet?

Ta1kinPeece · 15/09/2017 19:25

yeah, 5:2 - still working a treat 5 years in. And I get unlimited Wine on Fridays Grin

Anecdoche · 15/09/2017 19:28

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Tiredmum100 · 15/09/2017 19:42

Oh that's awful. I would have been so pissed off. I had an ex pull my food away from me once on hols (all inclusive) and say " you've had enough" plus calling me names like "chucks" as in chubby chuckers and the fat boys? I was 5 ft 7, size 12! He was an ex about three months later (lots of other issues as well). I'm sure your dp thought he was trying to help, men do see things differently to us at times I guess. All you can do is tell him and make sure he doesn't do it again! X

flutterby12 · 15/09/2017 19:50

What a cheeky bugger! I'd have gone mad at my DH. I would've started tucking into his chips. He is being v v v unreasonable.

pennysnow · 15/09/2017 21:07

@FluffySlippers21

Just to clear one thing up, cause it's bugging me lol, where in this thread have I stated the dentist appointment was for me? It wasn't, it was for my daughter her first tooth has just come through and without going into too much detail it's causing her a lot of pain and our gp recommended an appointment. So please shove ur "ew who eats a burger before a dentist etc etc" comments up you're judgemental arses

"Judgemental arses?" You are calling people judgemental arses, and telling them to 'shove their comments,' after so many people have taken the time and effort to respond to your thread, and your 'problem?'

Well aren't you charming? Hmm

And you never SAID the dental appointment was for your child. Funny how you added that in much later on in the thread.... Hmm

People have just been giving answers you didn't care to hear, so there is no need to get snarky and pissy because of that!

Maybe think twice before you post in future, if you are going to be nasty and personally insult posters who say things you don't like.

Don't worry though, at least you have got the poster @WellThisIsShit on your side, who took the time to write an essay supporting you. How lovely.

Enjoy your life, and your relationship.

Sounds like you and your man deserve each other.

Original poster
FluffySlippers21 · 15/09/2017 21:23

I'm sorry I didn't realise I had to post every single detail, including my CHILDS dental appointment at the beginning of the thread? 🙄

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FluffySlippers21 · 15/09/2017 21:23

Excuse me for not realising that the details of the dental appointment were so important!!

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pennysnow · 15/09/2017 21:26

But YOU choose to post about the dental appointment, NOBODY ASKED YOU. You mentioned this much earlier in the thread, but only chose to say it was your child's appointment when people had a pop about you going to Burger King first.

pennysnow · 15/09/2017 21:26

Incredibly defensive aren't you?

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FluffySlippers21 · 15/09/2017 22:01

I didn't post about my dentist appointment in the first post because I didn't feel it relevant. I mentioned it to explain why I didn't have time to go get my purse. I didn't mention it was my daughters appointment cause I dont particularly feel it's anyone else business .

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missiondecision · 15/09/2017 22:07

What an utter limp dick he sounds.
I'd be so humiliated it would take along time to forgive that.
He doesn't own you.

missiondecision · 15/09/2017 22:14

Anyone who can eat in front of another person knowing they too are hungry and not offer them something is a nasty twat.

Anecdoche · 15/09/2017 22:34

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BillBrysonsBeard · 15/09/2017 22:45

If DP ever did this, well he wouldn't be my DP. I know a couple where the man is like this, always commenting if she has some junk food. So she eats in secret and is still overweight so what does he think it's achieving..

lollipop7 · 15/09/2017 23:48

I don't care about the dentist, your purse being in the car, your weight anything.

Your DP is a fucking wanker. I hope that whatever he ate wasn't cooked properly and it comes back to haunt him, the controlling, patronising, belittling and mean piece of shit.

Cupoteap · 16/09/2017 05:44

Op I don't think you are going to get anything else from this thread.

Please take away that what he did was horrible in so many different ways. If this is a one off misguided attempt to 'help' you then you can't forget all about this.

If however there is other stuff you haven't mentioned, please do come back, post in the relationship board and get some advice.

OliviaStabler · 16/09/2017 06:23

he's just a bit of an idiot and was (badly) trying to help seeing as we go on holiday in three weeks and he wants me to feel comfortable within myself

From his behaviour, it is more likely he wants you to look a certain way next to him on the beach.