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He wouldn't let me eat because "I'm on a diet?"

202 replies

FluffySlippers21 · 14/09/2017 18:23

Hello!
AIBU?? Or am I completly in the right to feel so hurt 🙁
I'm 5'10 a dress size 12/14 with a healthy bmi but am currently following slimming world to lose my last 7lbs of baby weight.
Today I was out shopping with DP when I mentioned I was starving, he also said he was hungry and that he was going to nip in Burger King. When we got to the till I asked if he could order me such a thing and he replied "no you're on a diet" at first i thought he was joking but it became apparent he wasn't.
He basically expected me (knowing I was hungry) to sit there and watch him eat. I just find this so bloody cruel and nasty.
He even had the flaming liberty to sit down and offer me a CHIP after telling me I couldn't order anything.
I wouldn't mind if there was a health concern surrounding my weight but I'm a healthy weight!!
I am so upset and am currently sulking upstairs 🙁

OP posts:
DamsonGin · 14/09/2017 18:32

It's not too late for a takeaway for one, and a good long think about how you're going to address this.

Aquamarine1029 · 14/09/2017 18:32

If my partner EVER treated me this way it would be the end, right then and there. Why you are tolerating this is beyond me.

user7680 · 14/09/2017 18:33

Well, I wouldn't let anyone control me that much why not just order your own food?

stitchglitched · 14/09/2017 18:33

Coddiwomple some threads really don't need a devil's advocate. The OP was not unreasonable in the slightest.

Regularsizedrudy · 14/09/2017 18:34

Wait so you left your purse and he paid with joint money? But it's not really joint money is it if he wouldn't let you spend it :/

Aeroflotgirl · 14/09/2017 18:34

God what a prick. A supportive husband woukd not have behaved like that, he would have found somewhere healthy you can both eat at. Being on a diet does not mean you cannot eat!

SavoyCabbage · 14/09/2017 18:34

I'm gobsmacked. That he said that to you and that you stayed and that you haven't left him for it.

Spangles1963 · 14/09/2017 18:34

Who on earth lets someone else dictate to them whether they can eat or not?! I am just lost for words that you let him do this!

Moanyoldcow · 14/09/2017 18:34

Your partner is a prick.

Butterymuffin · 14/09/2017 18:37

Dick. If you ever cook for him, stop.

slapmyarseandcallmemary · 14/09/2017 18:37

What a knob.

mycatloveslego · 14/09/2017 18:38

How rude! Take away for one is definitely in order.

gamerchick · 14/09/2017 18:39

Order a takeaway. Then have a come to Jesus conversation with you dude about what he did.

Personally I would have went to the car, got my purse and went for grub. No way I would have sat and watched him eat. Does not compute.

The only thing that would make sense is of you were dependant on him for money and he was a cock about giving you any.

DeadGood · 14/09/2017 18:39

Oh, you left your purse in the car, well that explains it...

No, hang on, that doesn't explain anything. You really think that you didn't have time to nip back to the car and either come back or go elsewhere for food?

Get a backbone.

PickAChew · 14/09/2017 18:39

I'd have been tempted to spit on his chips. Twat.

PinkHeart5913 · 14/09/2017 18:39

Well I would of gone back to the car, got my purse and brought myself something to eat because I'm an adult and nobody tells me when I can and can't eat. Why did you just sit there and do nothing?

Also why are you sulking upstairs? Is it not your home? You've done nothing wrong so why are you hiding away?

The man can only be a knob if you allow it

Smeaton · 14/09/2017 18:43

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FluffySlippers21 · 14/09/2017 18:45

@deadgood
I really don't see the need to be rude. The car was a fifteen minute walk one way with a one year old baby in pram. I'd have then had to walk back 15 minutes to get to the shops, to go for food, then be at a dentist appointments that was in 20 minutes. Hence the reason Burger King was even an option, because it was quick.

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NearlyChristmasNow · 14/09/2017 18:46

YANBU - he was being a complete arse

YetAnotherNC2017 · 14/09/2017 18:47

Personally I'd have just told the server exactly what I was having and left him to pay. Don't let yourself be controlled like that!

2017SoFarSoGood · 14/09/2017 18:47

he'd have been wearing that meal if he'd done that to me. What an asshole. Seriously, I'd be making it very clear that if this ever happens again it is the last conversation we have.

NearlyChristmasNow · 14/09/2017 18:47

Not treating you like an adult who knows how to make your own food choices

InvisibleKittenAttack · 14/09/2017 18:48

If he was concerned that Burger King wasn't appropriate for your diet, then a normal person would suggest going somewhere else for lunch that did do food you could have on your diet.

He was selfish and rude.

LaurieFairyCake · 14/09/2017 18:48

Ok, you couldn't have gone back but I'd have said 'I'm not kidding, you need to buy me food right now"

And if he still didn't (well I'd be dumping him) and I'd have taken his chips or his burger forcing him to buy another

JUST DONT PUT UP WITH THIS SHIT

LesserofTwoWeevils · 14/09/2017 18:49

But presumably the walk would have taken less time if baby in pram had stayed with dad, or is he too busy being the boss of you to mind his own child?