He wouldn't let me eat because "I'm on a diet?"

[FluffySlippers21]

Hello!
AIBU?? Or am I completly in the right to feel so hurt 🙁
I'm 5'10 a dress size 12/14 with a healthy bmi but am currently following slimming world to lose my last 7lbs of baby weight.
Today I was out shopping with DP when I mentioned I was starving, he also said he was hungry and that he was going to nip in Burger King. When we got to the till I asked if he could order me such a thing and he replied "no you're on a diet" at first i thought he was joking but it became apparent he wasn't.
He basically expected me (knowing I was hungry) to sit there and watch him eat. I just find this so bloody cruel and nasty.
He even had the flaming liberty to sit down and offer me a CHIP after telling me I couldn't order anything.
I wouldn't mind if there was a health concern surrounding my weight but I'm a healthy weight!!
I am so upset and am currently sulking upstairs 🙁

What you weigh is irrelevant, if he thought you wanted something healthier he should have gone somewhere that suited both of you. He is a knob

Ok, am going to admit that I have only read the first page but am SO bloody fuming that I'm putting my two penny worth in now!
Firstly, you are not only a 'healthy weight' for your height, but extremely slim. PLEASE don't let him make you feel bad about yourself. EVER. How DARE he! . And whilst this has nothing whatsoever to do with it, you might like have a look at him - does he have the body of Adonis, the face of an angel/George Clooney/Brad Pitt/Whoever is deemed gorgeous beyond belief? Have a bloody word with him! I remember years ago, a lovely woman, delightful in every way, inside and out, with frankly, a body to die for, whose partner was continually criticising her weight. She ended up taking very dodgy slimming pills and making herself feel ill (physically as well as emotionally). He was 2 feet 1 (ISH), chubby and no oil painting. Which would have been fine, but his attitude was appalling (hence me being very mean and petty).
Please have a strong word with your charming {NOT}, partner. And do not put up with this shit ever again. xxx

Well you have said you are a diet ( one you are paying for) so yeah really you can't be eating Burger King.
But no, being supportive should be going somewhere you can eat.
Don't they do chicken salads though?

I'd have gone mad. What a twat. I hope you've had serious words about not being controlled. What an utter arse he is. I can't believe he would buy and eat in front of you. I know my DH would have asked where I wanted to go instead. I'm bloody angry for you. Please don't allow such nasty controlling behaviour from him again.

Well you have said you are a diet ( one you are paying for) so yeah really you can't be eating Burger King.

And who, do you think, should be the judge of that?

Even if you were 7 stones hearvier it wouldn't be acceptable to behave in that way.
The fact that you sat there and allowed this to happen is very worrying. There must be more issues in your relationship - perhaps you don't even realise how dysfunctional your relationship is.

baby weight is a natural phenomenon which has been around for millions of years. He sounds despicable

Wow what an arsehole.

Why couldn't he pay for you to have some food OP?

Did you sit and watch him eat, OP, out of interest? And does he behave like this in other ways around you? It sounds appalling behaviour from someone that is supposed to love and support you, tbh. You are far from overweight, and he sounds a patronising arsehole frankly.

You said you have a healthy bmi. So why are you dieting?

I'd have said: give me a fiver for a salad from M&S then queued up and bought whatever it was I'd originally wnated and told him never ever to dictate what I put in my mouth ever again.

Is a controlling weirdo freak the rest of the time? Sorry but he sounds like an arsehole.

What an absolute cockwamble! I'd have made him wear his meal too. Then told him to fuck off.

You said you have a healthy bmi. So why are you dieting?

The OP wants to lose weight to get to her happy weight

The fact that she wishes to be well within the upper limits of "healthy BMI" is NOT the point.
If I ever let my weight go up to the upper end of the "healthy BMI range" I'd be ill and feel awful.

The issue is that her other half is an unsupportive git

I'd have likely walked back to car and left him there. Then LTB.

Yes, she sleeps with an arse, that is obvious . what was not obvious was why she would want to pay to be told what to eat.

I seriously would no longer be with him after one single stunt like that. My fiancé wouldn't dream of treating me that way.

Haha I wasn't more bothered about being hungry (as much as I love my food 😅) I was bothered about him being happy for me to sit there being hungry.
Have spoken about it and have both explained our points of view. He understands why I was so upset and apologises for how how he come across. I don't think he was purposely being awful, he's just a bit of an idiot and was (badly) trying to help seeing as we go on holiday in three weeks and he wants me to feel comfortable within myself
All these women saying "if you're a healthy bmi then why are you dieting" it's called looking after yourself.

So you weren't bothered about being hungry. You have both talked about it and apologised and you're happy to be on a diet because you want to look after your health. So why post about it?

Glad you cleared the air with him fluffyslippers
but maybe he should diet too - so that you both feel good on holiday

You posted, your responses are terse and somewhat defensive...what did you want people to say?

There's some lovely women on here and for that I am so grateful! But there's also some who seem rather nasty, especially for a group of mums.