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Original poster

He wouldn't let me eat because "I'm on a diet?"

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FluffySlippers21 · 14/09/2017 18:23

Hello!
AIBU?? Or am I completly in the right to feel so hurt 🙁
I'm 5'10 a dress size 12/14 with a healthy bmi but am currently following slimming world to lose my last 7lbs of baby weight.
Today I was out shopping with DP when I mentioned I was starving, he also said he was hungry and that he was going to nip in Burger King. When we got to the till I asked if he could order me such a thing and he replied "no you're on a diet" at first i thought he was joking but it became apparent he wasn't.
He basically expected me (knowing I was hungry) to sit there and watch him eat. I just find this so bloody cruel and nasty.
He even had the flaming liberty to sit down and offer me a CHIP after telling me I couldn't order anything.
I wouldn't mind if there was a health concern surrounding my weight but I'm a healthy weight!!
I am so upset and am currently sulking upstairs 🙁

OP posts:
DailyFailstinks · 14/09/2017 19:14

He sound like a twat. Does he often not 'let you' do things?

gettinfedduppathis · 14/09/2017 19:14

I don't think I'd eat a burger and chips 20 minutes before a visit to the dentist's.

maxthemartian · 14/09/2017 19:14

I would have dumped him for that.

GodIsDead · 14/09/2017 19:16

What a hateful twat!

MrLovebucket · 14/09/2017 19:16

He's unreasonable not buying you some food. You are very foolish to leave your purse in the car (for obvious security reasons).

Having said that, it proper gets on my tits when people hark on about "being on a diet" "I need to lose the baby weight" and then order burger and chips. Fine, eat what you want but stop boring me with the "I'm on a diet" routine.

Not saying that's what you're like OP, just commenting on my own experiences.

gamerchick · 14/09/2017 19:16

I don't think I'd eat a burger and chips 20 minutes before a visit to the dentist's.

Heh I was thinking the same. My gob is squeaky until afterwards Grin

Butterymuffin · 14/09/2017 19:17

Oh FFS, everyone's going to bang on about not eating burgers before the dentist now, as if that's relevant.

expatinscotland · 14/09/2017 19:18

You can order a garden salad in BK, or a chicken salad, or a hamburger with a garden salad. All decent food choices for someone watching their diet.

Original poster
FluffySlippers21 · 14/09/2017 19:19

It's seven bloody pounds! It's hardly noticeable. It's not as I've I've two stone to lose and bang on about my weight constantly to him. I don't.

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Original poster
FluffySlippers21 · 14/09/2017 19:20

Thank you to everyone who has given constructive, supportive opinions and not negativity and criticism.

OP posts:
Ta1kinPeece · 14/09/2017 19:23

Fluffy
I can say from experience that the last few pounds to get to "happy weight" regardless of BMI and all that are the hardest
BUT
to do it successfully and stay at happy weight, he needs to be on board too.
Time to gently start educating him methinks Grin

Ilikehappy · 14/09/2017 19:23

There's quite a few things you could do in BK on a diet. You could have a chicken salad or a hamburger and salad for less than 300 cals. Or you could have something higher in calories and cut back for the rest of the day.
So there is no reason you couldn't have eaten something .

MrLovebucket · 14/09/2017 19:23

It's seven bloody pounds! It's hardly noticeable

Why go on a diet then. Just eat normally and do a bit more exercise.

Ilikehappy · 14/09/2017 19:24

X posted with expatinscotland there!

blacksax · 14/09/2017 19:25

Nobody's criticising you - we just can't understand how come you put up with the unbelievably insufferable way he treats you.

DILF1981 · 14/09/2017 19:25

I'd say get a grip of yourself

jonsnowthetargaryen · 14/09/2017 19:29

He's sounds really horrible. Is he always so selfish?

Aeroflotgirl · 14/09/2017 19:30

You probably look better than he does, op.

Keletubbie · 14/09/2017 19:31

Just showed this to my other half.

He said he'd only pull this stunt if he was Road Runner or Usain Bolt - nobody else could escape with their life.

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 14/09/2017 19:32

Do you cook meals for him? Don't!

Julia001 · 14/09/2017 19:35

You are a size 12/14 and 5'10? I bet you look gorgeous !! Gin CakeTell him he is a cunt and order a takeaway for one ! Bastard would be sleeping in the spare room if he did that to me.!

cushioncovers · 14/09/2017 19:38

So what did u have to eat op?? You seem more upset about being hungry than you do about his awful behaviour For him to think that was acceptable he must treat you poorly in other aspects of life. I feel sorry for you.

stardust18 · 14/09/2017 19:38

I would have been hopping mad. I wouldn't have knocked his on the floor what a arse!

MrsDustyBusty · 14/09/2017 19:40

I cannot believe there are women here endorsing the idea that the OP isn't in charge of what she eats.

butterfly56 · 14/09/2017 19:41

He is a selfish controlling cruel fuckwit! You deserve better. I would definitely stop doing anything at all for him for at least a month or for however long you want OP!
Don't ever let him treat you so bad because if he gets away with it once he will do it again. Flowers

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