To not go on a date with someone who works in a shop

[therealbridgetjones]

A friend of mine is trying to set me up with a friend of hers. I don't know much about him other than he is my age and works in a shop. He lives at home with his parents (early thirties).

I'm in my late twenties. I'm intelligent, have a career, earn above average and have my own house. I've lived away from my parents for about ten years and am completely independent.

I've worked in retail and to be honest it made me work bloody hard at university because I didn't want to end up back there!

My friend seems shocked and calls me snobby because I don't want to go on a date with her friend. She thinks I'm a gold digger but this couldn't be further from the truth! Her argument is that it's about the person and not their ambitions etc but surely this is a part of a person? I'm attracted to intelligence, ambition and independence.

So AIBU to not consider a date with this person?

This thread has just been discussed on The Social - a programme in Canada, a bit like Loose Women. 😂

iogo what did they say?

To the people saying about Bill Gates / the colonel... would you go on a date a homeless person? After all, The Pursuit of Happyness was based on a true story.

@Justaboy you don't need to answer this but supposing your friend showed you a photo of the woman she or he was trying to line you up with. You dodn't fancy them one bit. Still willing to go on a dare with them?

serfterf "Why do so many of you feel the need join in?

Personally I hate seeing anyone pushed, cajoled and/or bullied into dating a guy they don't want to date. Whether by a friend or an annonynous forum. I think it's fucking disgusting. She owes no one a date!

When I was dating, I personally didn't date anybody with poor spelling or grammar or who hadn't had a university education.

That doesn't mean I think I'm better than the people who don't have the above attributes. It means I wanted somebody I was compatible with and from a similar background.

Personally I hate seeing anyone pushed, cajoled and/or bullied into dating a guy they don't want to date. Whether by a friend or an annonynous forum. I think it's fucking disgusting. She owes no one a date!

But that's not what I was talking about it and it isn't the issue.

Nobody needs to denigrate a whole occupational class of people in order to turn down a date.

And nobody else needs to "join in" with the denigration of retail workers. Some of the comments about "equals" and so on have been really unpleasant.

Theycalledmethewildrose I am so sorry your friend gave up on having children becsusevof the person she is with. Of course it is her choice.

Happy "it's a buyers market with women" Where? Seriously where?

Because apart from countries with an 8 to 1 female to male ratio I would never consider it to be a 'buyer's market' for women!

gandalf456 "I'd hate anyone to judge me like this. I have spent the day talking myself into nobody cares what you do. Turns out many do."

Actually, the majority on this thread think Jobs don't matter. They have said it, repeatedly.

So the fact some people care about another's job could be seem as pretty irrelevant.

Lots of people won't care what job a person does. Some will. I'm not even sure I understood what my husband did when I met him!

If a man dislikes me for my job it would be an instant turn off. Better not to bother. But still his choice/my choice not go date.

Please do not assume people will care what your job is.

Serf I've worked in at least two shops, many restaurants, been a cleaner, a chamber maid, and now work on admin. It is not about thinking one job is better.

To me it is always about being able to say no.

I would not care a fig if people thought my (admittedly low paid) job was shit. I know why I love it. Plus despite the thread title the recurring theme is 'part time' and 'lives at home' ( the first I do now and the latter I also did).

It's'ok for things to put us off a man, or woman, it really is.

Fine. But that's a completely different conversation from the one I was having italian.

This thread is front page of the MailOnline, by the way.

@ITCouldBeWorse what a nasty post.

ITCouldBeWorse what a strange assumption.

Agreed piglet, don't know how you can judge anyone when you're so vulgar. I'm appalled by this thread. Cannot believe the snobbery. It's absolutely fine to go out with whoever you want or not as the point may be. But the judgement and nasty things that have been said about people just because they work in a shop is truly shocking to me.

Greyhound - on Tinder!

Do I get a prize? I can see the future...

www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-4876228/Woman-blasted-refusing-blind-date-shop-worker.html

Loose Women, then TWS and we have a full house.

You don't know his ambition or intelligence as you haven't met him to judge this. Seems you are not as intelligent as you think because that is common sense a 10yr old would know.
I personally would date a man who lives at home with his parents either.

Happy do you mean Tinder has more men than women?

LOL. Poster after poster saying that the OP is a snob as she "doesn't know if he is writing on a novel or will become manager someday". Oh, so she is a snob, but at the same time they are saying that it is only ok to work in a shop if you are working on something intellectual at the same time or will become the manager. Pot calling the kettle black!

I've no idea greyhound but I know that women get far more matches than men

@Justaboy you don't need to answer this but supposing your friend showed you a photo of the woman she or he was trying to line you up with. You didn't fancy them one bit. Still willing to go on a dare with them?

Yes quite possible as seeings its now a "dare" LOL!

Yes i might I'd be interested in seeing who she is, yes appearances are a part of attraction but not the be all and end all, who knows she might be a very pleasant person and might become a good friend. After all what do i have to loose a bit of time of an evening a bit of money?. Nowt ventured etc.

Course she could be a man hating vengeful harridan but until i get there i don't know!

I think you have misunderstood user I believe most are referring to her attitude and the way she talks down about someone she doesn't know, on the basis he works in a shop. If her title was a little more vague and she explained in her first post about his living situation, lack of ambition and working part time then maybe she would have gotten a different response.

With little information, posters do tend to imagine the what-ifs. Clearly fromfurthing replies from the op herself, this is not the case. Just to add, no poster (that I have seen, I'm willing to be corrected) has said it is only ok to work in a shop if also studying, they have just tried to suggest that he may not just be a shop worker but I don't think they have looked down on shop workers themselves, not like "pot, kettle" at all.

Is it okay to not date someone because of their height?
i've read many a thread on MN with women saying they wouldn't date a man that's less than 6ft tall.

The manager at my local mcdonalds has tattoos, is bald, and a bit rough looking.

Looks just the type to be fucking incredible in bed, and bring me a fillet o fish meal whilst he's at it.

Of course it's okay not to date someone because they're too short for you. Same goes for a woman who's too fat. A man who's too fat. A woman who's too freckly. A man with red hair.

We all have our preferences and that's fine.