To be fed up of mums who get praised for....

[Sienna333]

1. Either exercising a lot and at quite a tough pace when almost ready to drop

and

1. For mums who get back into training just days after the birth.

I am sick of reading "Wow, You are SO amazing, an inspiration!' On my Facebook feeds. I can't see what is so heroic about it? Just enjoy your baby and those special first moments instead of trying to impress all your followers you know?

Some people enjoy exercise. Some people need to exercise for their mental health. Doesn't mean they're not enjoying their baby or that they are trying to impress anyone.

I really don't like anything that tears down the way another mum does things (unless they're neglecting/abusing their child) so tbh I think you're being quite mean. We all do what we do, and if people want to say nice things, fair enough, but it's not why we do it you know?

You can't enjoy your baby much before it's dropped

I don't like all the celebrity articles that witter on about 'how I lost the baby weight in 6 weeks!' It's just so pervasive, the attitude behind it being yes, yes, brought new life into the world, enormous physical upheaval, miracle of life blah blah- but are you THIN? And most importantly, attractive to men in your bikini?

I definitely think you're being unreasonable. I love exercising and was thrilled when I got the all clear after c section to get back into it. It was great to get back to feeling like me again and it did wonderful things for my anxiety. I think you should continue on with life as normal, it doesn't stop because you've had a baby. If you want to stop then fine, but it's also fine if people continue.

I wouldn't get fed up with the mums, more with the person doing the praising tbh.

If people want to do it for themselves, that's fine, crack on, it's just the emphasis on the importance of 'getting back your pre baby body' that is a bit unpleasant

The women who generally do this were already into exercise so why would they stop. Unless it's them critiquing others who do not exercise, they are not doing anything wrong.

Um, I'm a woman who is extremely committed to her sport. I had a baby (two actually). After each I continued to be a woman extremely committed to her sport. I didn't realise I was supposed to stop being anything else once I became a mother??

I honestly agree with you because I thought it was dangerous but PPs don't seem to have mentioned that so maybe I'm wrong !! If it is dangerous then I really agree because it could lead other women to feel they should do the same but if not I see no problem!

Exercise is very good for you physically and mentally. Why wouldn't you want to exercise? Why wouldn't you praise someone for doing something for themselves that they enjoyed and was good for them?

Ugh sorry if that made zero sense, I'm extremely tired. Hope my point came across!!

I exercise because mentally it helps me as me well as physically.

I don't expect praise for it. It's what matters to me so I do it.

Excuse me I'm exercising again after 9 weeks of giving birth and my 3rd. I spend time with all my kids and enjoy my hour a week down the gym. If you are fed up then focus on other stuff. It's none of your business after all. It's my life and babies who have my full attention but I do it for me and it helps me feel great and look great.

1. Either exercising a lot and at quite a tough pace when almost ready to drop

I exercise a lot, often at quite a tough pace when almost ready to drop. In fact I did it this morning in a HIIT class at my gym. I love doing it. I love being fitter and slimmer and stronger and in much better shape now after 2 children than I was in my 20s and 30s and early 40s. I'm 48 now. I love that I'm fitter than most of the others in the class and probably the oldest

I think I'm setting a good example to my kids, that physical activity is fun and enjoyable and something to make time for. It makes me a happier person and a better mum.

I love it, basically.

However, I wouldn't brag about it on social media (other than on an anonymous board like Mumsnet, obviously). I don't even talk about it with friends and family (e.g. my siblings) other than my DCs and DP who only know I'm off to a class not what I'm actually doing in there.

I think it's more strange to see the "super proud of x for giving birth with NO pain relief at all" bla bla bla. Obviously good for her she had a straightforward birth but I'd be mortified if my son's dad had put that on Facebook!

Why wouldn't you want to exercise?

Because I would prefer to be asleep.

I don't like "you're an inspiration" for this sort of thing, because I agree the 'time to be sexy again!' message is pervasive and toxic and also I don't think anyone is doing it to be "inspirational".

Otoh, I don't like the "she should be wearing pyjamas all day and being besotted with her baby" response. It's also pervasive and toxic. A friend of mine made a similar comment about Beyoncé's early photo shoot with the twins and I thought it was off. Short of actual neglect, we're allowed to feel and behave in different ways as new mothers.

This post makes me sad. I went to the gym today with my large pregnancy bump and told myself I was imagining judgemental stares.

Maybe I wasn't

To be honest, I don't want to hear about anyone else's exercise regime. You've run a mile, taken part in an iron man, whatever. I simply don't care! Looking for attention and congratulations on FB or wherever is just pathetic.

Because babies are boring. And they cry a lot. And actually the newborn days are hellish and my time running was the only time I was a) alone B) felt the 'old' me and c) away from the prison camp that a newborn baby was to me.

Also far better example to my kids and others to be exercising than to be sitting on my arse eating biscuits.

Why? Do they make you feel bad?

Obviously I didn't mean exercising after you have become a mum is wrong. I meant the mums who post on Facebook with captions like "Ready to drop and still exercising!" and everyone who then comes out in force saying "Wow, Huni! You are an inspiration to us all!" Same goes for the mums who exercise a couple of days after the birth and again, get on social media posting photos of themselves. I don't see what they are trying to prove by doing that and no, sorry, I do not think they are inspiring. But I didn't mean mums shouldn't exercise, far from it. Just don't like the way some women go about it and have to thrust it in peoples faces. It's up to the individual woman when they start exercising after the baby but I have seen heavily pregnant mums posting workout videos online and find it irresponsible as well as looking downright ridiculous.

YABU
The only thing I miss now at 7 months pregnant is my stamina and ability to exercise. It makes me happy. It's not and never has been a vanity thing as I have never struggled with weight issues. It's a mental health thing and a health thing.
I'll be looking forward to being back to the point where I can sweat again! Doesn't mean u won't be enjoying my baby.

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