To be fed up of mums who get praised for....

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1. Either exercising a lot and at quite a tough pace when almost ready to drop

and

1. For mums who get back into training just days after the birth.

I am sick of reading "Wow, You are SO amazing, an inspiration!' On my Facebook feeds. I can't see what is so heroic about it? Just enjoy your baby and those special first moments instead of trying to impress all your followers you know?

expatinscotland your DD sounds amazing!! Our first is due in Nov - DH and I are active outdoor people and really hope we can all do this as a family.
Nice to see so many voices of reason on this thread.
I would class myself as a moderate exerciser before pregnancy. Brisk walls and cycling were my go to cardio choices along with light resistance moves - squats and sit ups etc. I've listened to my body so far in pregnancy and all I can manage now at 31 weeks is brisk walking which I still try to do. It's the main thing I miss - being able to run up a flight of stairs without being out of breath! It's never been vanity - I've always been slim regardless of my lifestyle. But I love feeling fit healthy and strong!

But couldn't you say the same about any picture posted online, let's be honest it's all attention seeking surely some people post their workouts and hope for good comments,
Some post pictures of their kids, or something they did at work, or a craft project, or their dog?? The very nature of social media is purely attention seeking unless you're just private messaging your friends

And most women know what's safe and take professional advice about what they can do during pregnancy and a lot of it is based on what they were already doing.

Some people unfortunately don't take the advice and do stupid things while pregnant, for me this would include exercising harder than they had before but also smoking, drinking, eating crap etc

And yet in order to enjoy their baby fully they need to stay fit and healthy. If they feel ready to go back to the gym shortly after birth then good for them.

I ran many races up to 10 miles when pregnant (slower than normal!) - stopped running about 3 weeks before they were born.

Equally, post birth there will be women who phase in quicky back to normal, women who have had c sections who can't for a while

CS and back i my normal clothes by 2 weeks, running by 5 weeks, skiing by 10 weeks - all normal for me anyway but a CS can be no worse than VB.

You run for your county yet you can't get your head around the fact a woman continuing her normal exercise is not bad just because it's nearing the end of her pregnancy?

Anyway......I'm off to delete my posts about eating a mars bar for brekkie. I'm clearly encouraging the obesity epidemic by doing so. No one can think for themselves apparently

Geez us mums are judgemental to each other... someone's opinion is just that, an opinion, not a personally directed insult to anyone. Can no one debate anymore without being so desperate to be offended?

I thought that after vaginal delivery your exercising should be moderate and quite specific. There is a risk of prolapse if you go running too soon after the birth

I see both sides OP. I have always exercised quite hard and did so in my first pregnancy up until d day. My second (which I'm currently at the end of) is a different matter and it has really opened my eyes to how much some women suffer and don't need to feel guilt about exercising. I definitely think some ppl post for attention and that says a lot about their self esteem. I think there is a balance,for some it's ok to run up until your due date for others it is most definitely wreckless. Take a leaf out of my book and get off Facebook. It'll make you very happy

the mums who post on Facebook with captions like "Ready to drop and still exercising!" and everyone who then comes out in force saying "Wow, Huni! You are an inspiration to us all

But that's why Facebook is so revolting - it's not the excersizing that's bad it's the Facebook culture of 'wow babe, beautiful, amazing etc etc" This use of Facebook for anybody beyond vain teenagers is cringey and cheap and all too common.

I'm a cardio lover and wanted to take a brisk walk a day after birth because it makes me happy and clears my head (it's like my form of meditation or relaxation) but I did NOT go posting about it on social media looking for affirmation and praise about my "dedication" or whatever they're after. tbh ALL fishing for praise on social media is obnoxious and that's just one category of it. Are you on a mom fitness IG though or is this just a fb friend..

YABU, lots of women exercise for lots of different reasons and support and encouragement is needed and offered on social media regardless of fertility!

If someone is posting on instagram about their weight loss/intensive exercise regime shortly after giving birth they are doing it to brag. Otherwise why put it on instagram. Just get on with it without telling everyone.

One thing is for sure - everyone is different, but I don't think there should be pressure to get back into shape soon after the birth. If women heed advice and don't eat for two, they shouldn't need to do much after the birth, and breastfeeding really does help. It's annoying when people bang on about how fit they are, and it can get competitive too.

I detect a bit of jealousy there.

It's impressive because most people don't have the willpower to do it. That's why most things are impressive.

I can't see the point of new Mums going back to work a few weeks after giving birth? Have they failed to bond with their baby if so they didn't give themselves enough time? Why bother to have children at all if they are just giving the baby to someone else to look sfter them because they're boring, they don't stay like it for long babies grow up so fast. Exercising for your mental state, it's all about you, you, you. Not what is best for baby, of course if the mother is really struggling money wise I can understand a bit more. It's a case of, look at me I'm a career girl, look at my figure I wear size 6 clothes and I've just had a baby, SO WHAT, you sound more like big head and up your own backside! Some women would give anything to have a child and aren't privileged for whatever reason, the rest of you have had your cake and ate it! Poor modern babies, not really wanted only for the mother to say she has children, empty words! It's just equality gone a step too far, men can't have children so you can't have the same kind of life. Just my opinion, you may or may not like it, I couldn't care less!

Daphne22
Ooookay

doesn't bother me, my DD is 3 and a half months old, I've decided I'll go back to the gym once my DD is sleeping through and I'll be going once she goes to bed but I don't feel like I want to be any more tired than I already am yet I'm still losing weight just from breast feeding atm

I hope you get the jist of it from the majority of responses you have received. I'm one of those that trained up until they dropped, went back quite quick after my baby. Made me a hell of a lot stronger for coping with the birth. Never posted on fb about it. In fact, the majority of social media things I do see talk about being happy with your tiger stripes and everything else that comes with pregnancy. Absolutely fantastic, I praise these ladies for being so happy and confident about who they are. But just because some women do want to get back to where they were does not mean they aren't enjoying their babies or special moments. Maybe it's just who they are. Maybe if it bothers you so much you can unfollow them rather than being so negative.

I can't see the point of new Dads going back to work a few weeks after having children? Have they failed to bond with their baby if so they didn't give themselves enough time? Why bother to have children at all if they are just giving the baby to someone else to look sfter them because they're boring, they don't stay like it for long babies grow up so fast. Exercising for your mental state, it's all about you, you, you. Not what is best for baby, of course if the dad is really struggling money wise I can understand a bit more. It's a case of, look at me I'm a career man, look at me I wear snazzy suits and I've just had a baby, SO WHAT, you sound more like big head and up your own backside! Some men would give anything to have a child and aren't privileged for whatever reason, the rest of you have had your cake and ate it! Poor modern babies, not really wanted only for the father to say he has children, empty words! It's just equality gone a step too far, women can't father children so you can't have the same kind of life. Just my opinion, you may or may not like it, I couldn't care less!

I think you need to lose the "Huns!"

I exercise as I don't want to die young (if possible) like both my parents who died from medical conditions which are often caused lifestyle factors. I assume this makes me a selfish bitch

I take pride in knowing their six figure husbands are probably banging their way through the office

Really nasty and untrue. So every man who's a high earner is a cheater?

Are people deliberately being dense? How many times have I said I don't think exercise is wrong for new mums/pregnant mums but exercising excessively and going on about it all the time is. My opinion hasn't changed on this subject.

sussexman well played!