To be fed up of mums who get praised for....

[Sienna333]

1. Either exercising a lot and at quite a tough pace when almost ready to drop

and

1. For mums who get back into training just days after the birth.

I am sick of reading "Wow, You are SO amazing, an inspiration!' On my Facebook feeds. I can't see what is so heroic about it? Just enjoy your baby and those special first moments instead of trying to impress all your followers you know?

Why do you need to care enough about other people to be fed up? Why judge - either the person exercising or the person commenting?

I don't do any sport, just walking.
However I see it as a good thing if people are exercising.
Certainly it seems to be the minority these days.

but I have seen heavily pregnant mums posting workout videos online and find it irresponsible as well as looking downright ridiculous.

What?? You think a pregnant woman exercising looks ridiculous?? And what is irresponsible about it? You have some very strange views!!

I see what you're saying. It's the competitive exercising that's a bit tedious. im on a fb running forum that's awash with it. I'm kind of ' do it or don't do it but dont keep banging on about it'

Surely it is good to exercise both whilst pregnant and post?
As long as the baby isn't endangered at any point then good luck to them.

Ethel, I stand by what I say. When a woman is literally days away from giving birth and posts a workout video of herself then I am sorry but I don't find that responsible or inspiring.
I am not saying mums are bad for working out sensibly a few days after the birth and not feeling the need to post about it on social media. Exercise is great for mental health I agree.

If the mothers or to be mothers are healthy and happy why do you frown upon it? It's not thrust in your face. You're looking, it's face book.

What's the really issue here. Why are you so very angry about it?

To much criticism of women full stop right from when we apparently tempted Adam in the Garden of Eden... women the whipping boy and man as God who does no wrong!

Oh god. I post 'long week and it's gym time'. 😐Not expecting praise for it. To me going to the gym after a long week when I'm feeling rubbish and tired is like somebody choosing to say 'long week. Time for wine with the girls'.

There's been pregnant ladies in my Pilates classes. I don't think they are inspirational but I do think 'good on them'. I don't think negatively of anyone who chooses to exercise or be healthy.

I don't get why it's cool and acceptable to be all 'mmm takeaway', it's wine o clock, prosecco with the girls, lazy day and yet people inwardly eye roll when people share the same sort of info but health or exercise related.

The thing is, all you people talking about how exercise is so good for you - it is, but with this sort of praise it's not about that, it's about the women getting 'back into shape', isn't it? i.e. getting her body to look as little as if she's had a baby as possible. And it's about this being held up as some kind of moral duty.

argh, ffs. Woman, Not women.

Pregnancy and having a baby didn't stop me doing my normal things. I was mucking horses out and walking dogs on the day DS was born and the day after.

I really couldn't care less what others do to be honest but my normal life certainly didn't end because I had a baby!

I'm 5.5 months pregnant and really miss exercising. I've battled HG until recently and just couldn't leave the house. I've now unfortunately got sciatica and whilst a bit of gentle walking helps, I just can't go running and do the advanced yoga and pilates I did before. And I feel more shit for it (mentally more than physically).

Can't wait until I get the all clear after c-section to re-start.

I agree with you op, it's more to do with attention seeking an wanting praise.

Why?

Its not different to mums who post they are lucky their baby sleeps through.

Surely posting pictures of babies at all could make other people feel bad. We all will know someone who is infertile, had at least one miscarriage or still birth etc.

Surely everything we post on facebook could make someone else feel inadequate?

I love exercising. It helps stablise my mental health and does loads for my PTSD. Had no idea I should stop because I'm a mum.

Just wanted to clarify-

1. Of course I don't think women should stop exercising after they have had kids.
2. Gentle exercise is great for pregnant women but I don't agree with heavily pregnant women posting workout videos online (By heavily pregnant I mean literally days away).
3. I don't like how new mums post selfies from the gym a week or two after the birth or again, post a strenuous workout video. Yes, I find it attention seeking and at times irresponsible.

lazy
But nobody cares when people share things like:
-omg ate so much at the buffet. Feel fat

• having date night with Ben and jerry
• don't you just love a lazy day
• long week. Can't wait to relax with some fizz.

But if you say:

• great spin class today
• long week, ready to pound the pavement
• I my running buddies
• time for the gym

Suddenly everyone decides you're just attention seeking and showing off, rather than just sharing what you enjoy. Hell, one of my friends has been tracking her weight loss journey. It's great. Good for her. It's been s struggle but she's made loads of friends on the way and they all cheer each other on.

If I'm honest, the only people I know who get snidey about exercise posts are people who don't exercise and dislike the fact that others are making healthy choices (maybe no true for all, but that's certainly the trend I notice) and knocking those who do somehow makes them feel better.

Um I was still teaching fitness classes 5 days before I gave birth. Yes there were people telling me it's inspirational - that if I can do it 9 months pregnant, they have no excuses. But how exactly was I irresponsible?

I do think, oh fuck off 🙄 when I see that on Facebook. But that is me being unreasonablene because I'm 8 weeks pp and I'm a fat bastard and I can't seem to find it within me to do something about it.

I don't have a problem at all with people posting 'Off to the gym' or 'Great workout' it's the other stuff I don't like.

Katharina, I think it's irresponsible in some ways as other women may feel pressured to achieve the same and it can't be sensible lying down and lifting
heavy weights with a 9 month bump. If it's gentle exercise like swimming/walking then great but encouraging heavily pregnant mums to keep pushing themselves above their limits at this stage in the pregnancy? I find that reckless, sorry.

I get the whole annoyance with the 'look at me' on Facebook. There is no need to boast. However I feel really sad that someone here would think I looked 'ridiculous' today with my bump in the gym. I just want a few minutes to quietly work out for my sanity and to keep some semblance of fitness without being judged. Don't we suffer enough judgment as it is?

But roz there's a difference between your perfectly normal 'fuckssake, here I am feeling too fat to do anything' and being aware of that and people who get judgey accusing others of attention seeking and almost mocking their efforts to be fit and healthy.

Op

1 then dont judge them
2 do you have any proof of that. Solid evidence? Wlaking down the street can be dangerous
3 you can label anything on facebook attention seeking

Exercise is very beneficial in pregnancy and if you're used to intensive exercise, then sorry, gentle walks just won't cut it. Intensive exercise and weights do not necessarily equal 'pushing above limits', why would you think that? It's really not true that once you're pregnant, you have to quit everything you're used to and stick to aqua-natal only.