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College and Pubic Hair

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Foxtrot92 · 08/09/2017 17:09

My DSister (16) has just started a beauty therapy course in college.

Yesterday she was told by a tutor that everyone is to grow their pubic hair (vagina) so they can practice waxing on each other and develop and understanding of how clients feel.

My DS and most of the other girls are horrified by this and don't want to do it. AIBU to be horrified at this demand? Surely the college can't enforce this on the girls?!

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VestalVirgin · 08/09/2017 22:32

My brother has been reading this thread. He'd like to know if there are still vacancies on this course, because he'd love to apply.

He wants to get his private parts waxed for free?

As one transwoman found out to "her" chargrin, waxing a penis requires a different skillset, probably not the one which is practised there. Wink

IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 08/09/2017 22:32
Hmm
IfYouGoDownToTheWoodsToday · 08/09/2017 22:33

Sorry wrong thread!

FerretsAreFeminists · 08/09/2017 22:35

Can I just say that I love how everyone is assuming that the OP's sister's objections to this is the fact she will have to grow her pubic hair and not the possibility of her not wanting anyone looking at her fanny?

clumsyduck · 08/09/2017 22:37

ferrets

I thought that too .

That's what I took from the op that her sister would be embarassed and so would I at 16 in that situation !!

FerretsAreFeminists · 08/09/2017 22:41

Well exactly. When I was 16 I wouldn't care about growing out my bush however I would care about my classmates looking at my bits.

TheBigPickle · 08/09/2017 22:45

I don't get the vulva/vagina hysteria. I know the proper names but literally have never had to refer to either.
If someone said vagina to me I would know what they meant. It's completely normal to call your vulva your vagina even if it's technically wrong. It's a fuss about absolutely nothing

Migraleve · 08/09/2017 22:49

If someone said vagina to me I would know what they meant

Me too. They would mean vagina Confused

It's completely normal to call your vulva your vagina even if it's technically wrong.

But it isn't normal! It's like calling your arm your hand because it's physically close to your hand Hmm

EmpressOfTheSpartacusOceans · 08/09/2017 22:55

I would care about my classmates looking at my bits.

But it does make sense that they need to know how it feels if they're going to do it on other people.

SecretFreebirther · 08/09/2017 22:55

When I was doing a breastfeeding course (maternity care assistant in the NHS) I was asked if the pumping I was planning to do in my lunch break (9mo at home) could be saved for afterwards so I could do it in class Confused

KC225 · 08/09/2017 22:58

How sad that the whole class is assumed to be hairless. I loathe this lack of diFURsity.

FerretsAreFeminists · 08/09/2017 23:07

But it does make sense that they need to know how it feels if they're going to do it on other people.

Why? If I was going to get my bits waxed I honestly wouldn't give a shit if the person doing it didn't know what it felt like.

BackieJerkhart · 08/09/2017 23:27

It helps to know what is comfortable for the client, what different pressure feels like, what that tacky feeling they are complaining about is etc. Surely it's not hard to imagine how that would make a better therapist than one who has never experienced it?

BackieJerkhart · 08/09/2017 23:28

I mean if a client starts describing a sensation or a pain and you have no idea whether its normal or something to say you should stop the waxing that's not going to make you a very popular therapist!

CurbsideProphet · 08/09/2017 23:32

As has been repeatedly pointed out 16 year olds do not learn intimate waxing, so there is nothing for the OP to get worked up about Confused

rosyvalentine · 08/09/2017 23:47

I'm a trained therapist and this is part and parcel of the course. If she doesn't want to be waxed herself, she will probably have to bring her own model to class.

I didn't much like getting full body massages from the creepy guy in my massage class (who subsequently dropped out), but I just sucked it up and got on with it.

I'm sure she will be fine allowing her classmates to practice on her by the time she gets around to that part of the course.

DesperateButNotAHousewife · 08/09/2017 23:57

Intimate waxing is a whole seperate module. When I did beauty therapy we only did the bikini line/groin area with knickers on.

FuckYouLinda · 09/09/2017 00:14

Summer has been such a washout this year that my growler still has it's winter coat. Hopefully DS won't be confronted with something similar on her first day, she won't know whether to wax it of offer it a saucer of milk.

You win the thread. Well you and My Little Growler

Golightly133 · 09/09/2017 00:15

Beauty therapy teacher here this is standard practice, even back when I was training this was normal literally only the knicker
Line nothing more

Golightly133 · 09/09/2017 00:20

Plus we need to dispel any embarrassment issues each student has to get over working on each other for the big wid world of work Blush

LuluJakey1 · 09/09/2017 00:22

I am a trainee chef and we have been ordered to grow our own carrots to practice chopping up.
My husband is a trainee butcher and he has been ordered to practice jabbing needles into our cats.

BelleEsme · 09/09/2017 00:26

I'm a level 3 qualified beauty therapist. Intimate waxing is a level 3 qualification. At 16 years of age your sister will be doing her level 2, not level 3. However if your sister insists they are covering intimate waxing, then it is good practice to 'experience' all treatments, of course they can't force her. She will probably be asked to provide models to practice on instead.

BackieJerkhart · 09/09/2017 00:32

Do butcher use needles on live animals? Confused

LuluJakey1 · 09/09/2017 00:41

Not a butcher, a vet sorry! Grin I am just making it up anyway.
My aunt is training to be a hairdresser ad the whole family have been ordered to grow their hair so she can practice cutting it.
My cousin is training to be a midwife and they have all been ordered to get pregnant so they can practise delivering each other's babies.

InsomniacAnonymous · 09/09/2017 00:41

BackieJerkhart It was a joke!