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To make an official complaint about colleague?

792 replies

Abouttoblow · 03/09/2017 15:12

I'm really don't want to go to work tomorrow as I've had enough of selfish workmate.
I really love my work. I've been in this job for 10 years, find it fulfilling, great terms and conditions but if things carry on I will go mad.
Colleague had twins 5 years ago and returned to work 2 days a week. Since she had her DC she seems to think that they take priority over her job - even when she is at work. Her DM and SIL take care of them so I would assume they are reliable and trustworthy but she rings them every half hour to check on things. Every half hour WITHOUT FAIL. She will even excuse herself from meetings.
My main issue though is that every appointment she has, doctor, dentist etc she arranges on the days she is at work. We have flexible working to accommodate for this, more so for full time staff who work every day, so we take shorter breaks or start early/finish late to make up the time but she doesn't bother. She just goes off for an hour or so at a time and that's it. This has been going on for years and I've spoken to my boss but nothing is ever addressed with her.
Anyway, her DC start school soon and she came in last week with a list of things she just MUST attend at school - prize givings, parents in-school days, assemblies and I know if they're on either of her 2 working days she will just go.
She won't have holiday leave to cover this as she is off for most of the summer and I'm sure she will want half term etc now too.
I've just had enough and it makes me so angry that she thinks this is acceptable.
AIBU to make an official complaint to Personnel?

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treeofhearts · 04/10/2017 07:41

I haven't rtft but if she isn't clocking out the it DOES need to be raised as a h&s issue. If she hasn't clocked out then in event of fire the would be assumed to still be in the building. Apologies if this has been done to death already but am having a crafty mn at work oh the irony Grin and don't have time to read the whole thing right now.

ButchyRestingFace · 04/10/2017 08:38

Do you know, I can kind of see her logic, if I squint very hard. Grin

She’s a basket case though. There’s no helping someone of her ilk. Best she does leave, whether it’s be jumping or being pushed.

blueskyinmarch · 04/10/2017 08:47

She has a very skewed way of looking at things. Working an extra day is not going to help her at all. I used to work 2 days one week and three the next. I never needed any time off for personal stuff as i always made sure i did it on my days i didn't work. My boss alway said i got through more work pro rata as i was fully focussed when i was in work.

YoureAnArseholeDenise · 04/10/2017 09:04

She’s cheeky entitled and thick.

Please please update. I’ve read the whole thread and I’m glad you didn’t allow the many many arsehole posters to beat you down.

Some people are just determined to disagree with an OP no matter what.

Guardsman18 · 04/10/2017 10:48

Two things - 1st, could you befriend her and ask her her secret to getting so much time off? (I'm with you btw on this one!) I was going to wait until I had read the whole thread, but I'm so cross for you, I can't. 2nd - how can someone say that somewhere is called HR and not Personnel if they don't work there, it has Personnel on their door maybe and any correspondence comes from Personnel and not HR? Beats me!

pameladoove · 04/10/2017 18:38

I reckon she's planning to do 16 hours over 3 days, which is ok so long as she's working!

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Abouttoblow · 04/10/2017 19:06

Sorry Pamela That's not her plan at all. She's planning to up her contract to 24 hours and be paid for these but not pick up any more duties i.e. Get paid for 24 and do 16 (although she won't even manage that)

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Abouttoblow · 04/10/2017 19:08

Youre I'm actually very disappointed that none of those posters have come back with their opinions now Sad

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pameladoove · 04/10/2017 19:27

Abouttoblow, who the hell is managing this woman? Surely they have to put their foot down at some point.

MissyCupCake · 04/10/2017 19:44

She wants to get paid for running her personal errands! The additional 8 hours she is proposing to take on are not for the good of the business, but so she doesn’t have to schedule her appointments in her own time. That is incredibly unfair on her colleagues.

Gooseygoosey12345 · 04/10/2017 19:59

I don’t think it’s petty and it’s people who behave like this that make working mothers less desirable employees. Either go to work and do your job or spend that time at home with your kids, you can’t do both at the same time!

TittyGolightly · 04/10/2017 21:40

I'm a public sector HR person and this individual would be on disciplinary and potentially fraud charges before her lazy arse hit her seat after that meeting.

Fishface77 · 04/10/2017 23:16

Wtaf! This is Poor management? She's a disgrace!

WinnerWinnerChickenDinner0 · 05/10/2017 17:52

about I thought the same thing. All those posters that were so critical of you for the beginning are suddenly very quiet Grin

Well done you for trying to sort out some very unprofessional behaviour in your work place. I'm grateful that there are some people out there looking out for how my tax is spent

FrogFairy · 05/10/2017 17:58

Given the cutbacks to budgets, I don't see how anyone is going to get their working ours increased by 50% in the current climate.

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Abouttoblow · 05/10/2017 19:13

Well........ we all got an email today from FTCF(Flexi-time Cheeky Fucker)
She says she feels very isolated as no one else has questioned the policy, feels she is the only one "fighting for what is right" and doesn't feel the burden should fall solely on her!!!
"Let's be honest, if I get the policy changed you'll all be taking the time you need for personal things so why should I do all the work"
I actually laughed out loud when I read it Grin I could see the double takes of my colleagues as they looked at their screens.
I decided to keep quiet unless she directly asked me what I thought. Another colleague who works condensed hours to fit in with her childcare arrangements lost the fuckin plot. She was awesome!!!!!
Gave her a few home truths about how things are supposed to work and how she arranges things outside her working hours. FTCF actually said "but why, why would you do that when you could be spending that time with your DC?"

Today was a good day Wink

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aaaaargghhhhelpme · 05/10/2017 19:16

Hahaha I wish you could have videoed that. I'd have liked to have seen it! Your other (non piss taking) colleague sounds awesome.

I'm surprised management haven't taken her down yet. Seriously her stupidity is astounding

Appuskidu · 05/10/2017 19:17

What else was said during this row-I really do need to know. I cannot believe this woman has held down a job at all going on some of the bonkers views she has!

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Abouttoblow · 05/10/2017 19:23

aaaarggh She was amazing! Really lovely, normally very quiet and reserved but just had enough I think.
Appus I genuinely feels it all comes down to her view of the whole full/part time thing. She has it in her head that FT staff are getting some benefit the she is not - which is inaccurate. Everyone except her do it correctly when taking/paying back time.
I'm not sure if she just pretending not to get it

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thatdearoctopus · 05/10/2017 19:29

"Let's be honest, if I get the policy changed you'll all be taking the time you need for personal things"

Isn't there a tacit admission somewhere in there that what she has been doing so far is against current policy? Or why would she need to try to get it changed?

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Abouttoblow · 05/10/2017 19:33

My thoughts exactly That

I'm not sure what her thought process is now. It feels like she has tunnel vision focused on how wants or believes the system should work.

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Ambonsai · 05/10/2017 19:38

I just came on to support you, of course yanbu and some posters should be ashamed of themselves for being so argumentative.
And then things took another turn! Awesome!!

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Abouttoblow · 05/10/2017 19:47

Thanks Ambonsai
I am disappointed that those posters haven't come back.
I'd like to hear their views now Smile

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FancyThatFenceEdge · 05/10/2017 19:51

The fact that FTCF wants to "get the policy changed" is a full on admission that she is taking the piss.

I'd be forwarding her email with that remark on to HR.

Bitch needs taking down - much like the earlier posters who wrongly criticised the OP.

OP - hats off to you for taking the heat and standing tall. You're a legend :)

MissyCupCake · 05/10/2017 19:54

FTCF’s logic doesn’t make sense - she criticises a colleague for doing personal stuff in her own time as it takes her away from her DC, yet has expressed a desire to work an extra day. Surely working an additional 8 hours will take her away from her DC?