To think this woman is a CF? Parking.

[Mummyme1987]

My Oh works in a shop in town that has a shared car park with two other shops. The car park doesn't have set spaces for each shop or even set areas for each shop. It's unmarked, not even has tarmac and doesn't even have a gate, it's just a piece of shingled land. He has to get to work about 45 mins early to get a spot. Our car is a medium size one and he parks in a usual manner, not sticking out or anti socially. Just the same as everyone else. He's only been there a few months but one of the other people that works in the next door shop has complained to his boss that he's parking in her spot. She said it should be kept for her as she's been there years and it always has been hers. She wanted him to move it midshift. The boss checked with the higher ups about the car park and it turns out it belongs to the shop my oh works at and they allow the other shops to use spaces as a courtesy. The woman was told this and told that he wouldn't be moving. But now she comes into his shop and asks him to move his car regularly out of her spot. He doesn't of course, he politely refuses and tells her it's a first come first served system and he gets there first. He's getting fed up with this. He's now considering getting a neighbour to drop him off rather than put up with this. I can't drive so can't drop him. But the neighbour works longer hours and oh would have to wait around. Other parking options are very expensive, which I guess is why this woman is kicking off. I think Oh should just keep parking there but he is feeling like it's not going to stop. I think she's a CF and best thing to do is stand up to her. His boss isn't there most of the time so hasn't got involved again but I'm trying to get Oh to get them involved as he shouldn't have to put up with it. He just wants it to stop. If I could drive then dropping him off would be an option but I can't. Ainu to think this behaviour is not on and needs stopping? Sorry no diagram!

Designated spaces would be great but not sure how they could do this Ina shingle car park.

He needs to grow a thicker hide. This would be like water on a duck's back to me because she's a CF.

I fear that even with that she would get one if the others to leave one for her, just like using the staff discount. It's a sackable offence if found out but the do it for her. She's not asked Oh to do it though.

If she is losing OH's boss money by using staff discount she isn't entitled to (presumably for everyone that works in her shop as you said she does their shopping too!) and harassing the staff then absolutely she should be banned. Does the boss know she uses staff discount?!

What OH doesn't want to do though is get colleagues in trouble if they have been pressured to give her discount - he does have to work with them, after all!

If he's been employed understanding that he has the perk of a free parking space, why should he pay so that a non-employee can park there?
He has checked with his boss, sohe should just get it put in writing and put her right.
If his colleagues think she should park there, they should give her their space.

I understand she is annnoyed becuase it has "always been her space" but it hasn't.
It's been a space that no-one else needed up until now

Oh is a sensitive soul. Usually takes the path of least resistance but actually is sort of standing up to her by not moving but is thinking of not bringing his car to make it easier. But I think it's caving in to her.

It could be designated areas then. Marker spikes or something.

He's not going to get all his colleagues into trouble but equally he won't let her use his discount not that she's asked him.

This needs to go higher up. Whoever owns the car park at his firm needs to put a new arrangement on place to thwart this woman and stop her from harassing your DH.

That night man rescinding the sharing arrangements completely, or it might mean stating that they can only have X number of spaces full stop, or that only their managers can use them.

But she needs to be dealt with - how much time is she wasting when she's supposed to be working doing this? And what about the man who is biking instead of using the space he's been told he can use because of her?

Better communication on all sides. Oh and I would make sure his managers found out about the staff discount thing too, but very carefully so it wasn't traced back to me - don't want the colleagues to think even worse of him.

Don't let him cave. She's acting like a cheeky bitch.

Tell him to raise it with his boss, that's he's starting to feel quite harassed by her. Document every time she comes in says something, makes snide comments etc..take to boss.

Otherwise ride it out with her, keep saying no. Perhaps him standing up to her might inspire the others to follow suit. Interesting how none of his other colleagues that are siding with her are relenquishing their parking spaces. Don't give in to bullying.

It would piss me off too, if I'd been working somewhere for ages, and turned up one morning to find the new guy was parked in the spot that had "become mine" through years of continuous use.

It would also piss me off, but I would recognise that I had no right to be pissed off because I'm not an entitled arse. I would reluctantly get over it and certainly not harass the employee who had more right to the space than I did because he's working for the company who actually owns the space.

I'm always a bit astonished by people's idea that just because you've been doing something a certain way for years, you are somehow entitled to carry on doing it that way forever, irrespective of how things are changing around you. Like people who use the neighbour's garden because they've always been allowed to, but when new owners come and don't want them to use it, feel aggrieved. Recognise that you've had a good run and adapt. Otherwise, you really are just a loon.

He usually is popular with colleagues at his previous work and when this woman isn't about they all get on fine but the temperature goes down when she's in the shop.

I think the boss is the only way forward. But they aren't there very often. But I think Oh should speak to them rather than stop driving.

She even stuck a cone she moved from the road into the space once. Oh moved it back. That didn't go down well.

He needs to stand strong, but he also should have the support of his boss, who should address this head on, and get it cleared up, once and for all.

It would piss me off too, if I'd been working somewhere for ages, and turned up one morning to find the new guy was parked in the spot that had "become mine" through years of continuous use.

Are you taking the piss?

Tell your DH to not move his car and talk to the owner. I'd be fuming if I was him. The woman is a bully and staff should not be using their discount for her purchases either.

She also complained he had too big a car!

I would also wonder what her own manager thinks of her wasting work time by going in to another employment establishment and harassing the employees there.

Blimey, it's another world in some places, isn't it? I can't imagine what reaction I would get if I told my boss that I'd give him that ops plan later on because I just need to go over and harass a worker in another company!

He was a bit 😳 When she said that as it's a medium size car. Not huge.

I cannot believe your OH would even contemplate asking (and sometimes I'm sure inconveniencing) your neighbour for a lift just so that this CF is not inconvenienced herself by having to find a different parking space. To hell with that

She comes over in her break apparently as it's the same time each day. Oh avoided her a few days by needing a loo break then.

And she told him I should drop him off instead. Seemed put out when he told her I can't drive.

We think she's the manger or at least supervisor in her shop, or at least she gives the impression she is.