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To think this woman is a CF? Parking.

324 replies

Mummyme1987 · 03/09/2017 10:45

My Oh works in a shop in town that has a shared car park with two other shops. The car park doesn't have set spaces for each shop or even set areas for each shop. It's unmarked, not even has tarmac and doesn't even have a gate, it's just a piece of shingled land. He has to get to work about 45 mins early to get a spot. Our car is a medium size one and he parks in a usual manner, not sticking out or anti socially. Just the same as everyone else. He's only been there a few months but one of the other people that works in the next door shop has complained to his boss that he's parking in her spot. She said it should be kept for her as she's been there years and it always has been hers. She wanted him to move it midshift. The boss checked with the higher ups about the car park and it turns out it belongs to the shop my oh works at and they allow the other shops to use spaces as a courtesy. The woman was told this and told that he wouldn't be moving. But now she comes into his shop and asks him to move his car regularly out of her spot. He doesn't of course, he politely refuses and tells her it's a first come first served system and he gets there first. He's getting fed up with this. He's now considering getting a neighbour to drop him off rather than put up with this. I can't drive so can't drop him. But the neighbour works longer hours and oh would have to wait around. Other parking options are very expensive, which I guess is why this woman is kicking off. I think Oh should just keep parking there but he is feeling like it's not going to stop. I think she's a CF and best thing to do is stand up to her. His boss isn't there most of the time so hasn't got involved again but I'm trying to get Oh to get them involved as he shouldn't have to put up with it. He just wants it to stop. If I could drive then dropping him off would be an option but I can't. Ainu to think this behaviour is not on and needs stopping? Sorry no diagram!

OP posts:
Deemail · 04/09/2017 20:36

That's great update. I don't think your dh should beat himself up for not approaching the manager sooner. The longest went on the clearer it was she was harassing him.

I've had access to a couple of different free parking spaces which are now off limits. It's not something I'd dream of been annoyed over on the contrary I think myself lucky to have availed at all.

PlumFairy2014 · 04/09/2017 20:43

I still read the CF as cunty fucker instead of cheeky fucker.

I would just keep parking there. She must feel daft coming in and asking repeatedly?! Is there any other space she could park in or is there just no spaces left at all?

PlumFairy2014 · 04/09/2017 20:44

Didn't realise there were 12 pages, ignore me!

Ohbehave1 · 04/09/2017 20:48

38Cody. Are you for real. Anyway, the CF got her comeuppance and is banned. Common sense wins the day.

Actually, 38Cody, did you lose you parking privileges at work today? 😂😂

Whocansay · 04/09/2017 21:02

Great result!
Hopefully, your DH will never have to see her again and the other staff members will know he's not a pushover. Good for him.

TitaniasCloset · 04/09/2017 21:08

Great result I'm pleased.

jayne1976 · 04/09/2017 21:22

Surely a simple sign wouldn't cost too much - this car park belongs to xxxx shop, and is private land anyone parking maybe subject to clamping / toeing blah blah

jayne1976 · 04/09/2017 21:27

Hope you sort, she seems awful

SunshineLollipopsRainbows25 · 04/09/2017 21:27

I would get the boss to put up a sign in the parking lot saying this car park is owned by XXX shop, other shops may park cars here but must seek permission. people working at XXX shop take priority over other shop workers and if places are unavailable for people working at XXX shop we have the right to ask you to move.

Spadequeen · 04/09/2017 21:36

Great result

BlackeyedSusan · 04/09/2017 21:42

yay!

Jux · 04/09/2017 21:48

Good to read the result, well done your dh for patience, politeness and acting appropriately in taking it to his manager. Glad he came home with a smile on his face! I hope that continues for a long time.

limitedscreentime · 04/09/2017 21:54

Sorry, haven't rtft but surely if he is leaving 45mins early to get a spot then theee aren't enough places for his shop to extend the parking to others. Or as marketed as a perk of the job then they have designated spaces with those left as fcfs.

His work shouldvdort this out.

limitedscreentime · 04/09/2017 21:56

Sorry, should have ftft Grin! Seems his boss did!

smilingontheinside · 04/09/2017 22:18

I'm regarded as a tough self assured person and have held high ranking positions but constant "bullying" from a more senior colleague caused stress which put me off work for a long time! I didn't realise it was stress (several different problems which finally made me think I should get a check up at drs) but my Dr said that if I didn't take time out I would be off indefinitely! I could not believe the diagnosis having faced everything full on all my working life. Now working in a minimum rate job no pressure and no more stress but it has affected my confidence. So I can see why even something that some posters feel is ridiculous can be a huge problem to the ops oh. Mind you once I Smilefound out that she was not entitled to a space I would probably have told her to f off!!

HappylandToysEverywhere · 04/09/2017 23:07

OP - With regards to her potentially damaging your DHs car, maybe get a little sticker from eBay that says 'CCTV in Operation in this vehicle' or put a 'CCTV in Operation' sign up n the car park? About £1.50 also from eBay x

ruthieruthuk · 05/09/2017 08:17

If the car park is owned by the shop he works for then sorry he has 100% right to park there, other car Parker is just trying to bully him into moving so that she can have her own way, she is a bully! And harassment isn't taken lightly by the police, sounds like she needs taking down a peg or two, and if the shop lets the other shop use the car park out of courtesy then she is taking the mick!! Tell him tell her enough is enough and that he no longer wants to hear her moans or cries and that if she doesn't leave him alone he will be forced to take further action as this is becoming a harassment case. Hope u manage to get it sorted and do not back down as you will be letting her win and she has no right

GreenTulips · 05/09/2017 08:55

It's is sorted

houghtonk76 · 05/09/2017 12:16

Totally agree wiv MummyoflittleDragon here & whoever said get the company / boss to put sign up on car park entrance explaining ownership, designated areas for his staff, etc. (As in not named, just name of company painted on floor of each space, then spare or the other company names on ones left over). Parking at work is a massive commodity everywhere I've worked & in every town & city (current job only spare parking is for those wiv disabled parking badge / permit - and this includes the customers - students). Luckily i a) don't drive & b) have some common sense.
She has been lucky to park there as long as she has tbh - she could arrive early too, if she wants & chooses not too. OH should get his boss involved again to explain to her & put the signage up / designate the spaces. Otherwise boss is pandering to work place bullying & harrassment from this woman. It seems to me the high cost of parking in most places is a known thing these days - she (& ur OH in case she starts playing dirty by arriving early to get the space) should factor parking costs into wage earned & budget plan - if not enough to pay for it, look for higher paid job.

houghtonk76 · 05/09/2017 12:20

Settling a bullying / harrassment tribunal will cost the boss way more than paying for signage & some road paiting to designate the spaces. Especially now employees don't pay tribunal fees again, so OH could easily bing dispute to tribunal wiv help from: HR / company owner / union if in on, etc. It may cost him the job due to badfeeling but may be worth it for the boss / owner to settle the dispute with this woman.

GreenTulips · 05/09/2017 12:21

SHES BEEN BANNED

FizzyGreenWater · 05/09/2017 13:32

Lol OP is shouting into to abyss. CANCEL THE CHEQUE

Brocks1981 · 05/09/2017 21:24

Next time she comes in tell OH to advise her he has contacted or is going to contact the police regarding what he considers to be ongoing harrasment from her regarding parking that does not belong to her. Or the other option is to ask OH to ask his boss to barr her from his shop/premises anx notify her that if she enters again they will call the police and prosecute for trespass,itll put a stop to her coming in complaining.

GreenTulips · 05/09/2017 21:35

Brocks1981

Did you cancel the cheque?

StealthPolarBear · 05/09/2017 21:49

If she does come back he needs a bingo card