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To think this woman is a CF? Parking.

324 replies

Mummyme1987 · 03/09/2017 10:45

My Oh works in a shop in town that has a shared car park with two other shops. The car park doesn't have set spaces for each shop or even set areas for each shop. It's unmarked, not even has tarmac and doesn't even have a gate, it's just a piece of shingled land. He has to get to work about 45 mins early to get a spot. Our car is a medium size one and he parks in a usual manner, not sticking out or anti socially. Just the same as everyone else. He's only been there a few months but one of the other people that works in the next door shop has complained to his boss that he's parking in her spot. She said it should be kept for her as she's been there years and it always has been hers. She wanted him to move it midshift. The boss checked with the higher ups about the car park and it turns out it belongs to the shop my oh works at and they allow the other shops to use spaces as a courtesy. The woman was told this and told that he wouldn't be moving. But now she comes into his shop and asks him to move his car regularly out of her spot. He doesn't of course, he politely refuses and tells her it's a first come first served system and he gets there first. He's getting fed up with this. He's now considering getting a neighbour to drop him off rather than put up with this. I can't drive so can't drop him. But the neighbour works longer hours and oh would have to wait around. Other parking options are very expensive, which I guess is why this woman is kicking off. I think Oh should just keep parking there but he is feeling like it's not going to stop. I think she's a CF and best thing to do is stand up to her. His boss isn't there most of the time so hasn't got involved again but I'm trying to get Oh to get them involved as he shouldn't have to put up with it. He just wants it to stop. If I could drive then dropping him off would be an option but I can't. Ainu to think this behaviour is not on and needs stopping? Sorry no diagram!

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Gemini69 · 04/09/2017 18:31

Congratulations OP to your DH.. sorting this out himself too I bet he feels like a ton of bricks has been lifted from his shoulders... Flowers

well done x

Pigflewpast · 04/09/2017 18:33

Great news. I suggest if she comes in or causes any more problems he writes down exactly what happened and any witnesses, and goes back to his boss to tell him straight away.

Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 18:33

He came home with a smile, which hadn't happened before. Will have to see how the others treat him and if she shows her face again.

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Gemini69 · 04/09/2017 18:36

this is fantastic OP... he must be delighted to be going into work and just getting on with his day without this craziness ... great news Flowers

GreenTulips · 04/09/2017 18:39

Well done - bet she's huffed off!
Serves her right to have to pay for her parking!

Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 18:40

And I get to have him home longer in the mornings. Win win!

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GreenTulips · 04/09/2017 18:42

Well done - bet she's huffed off!
Serves her right to have to pay for her parking!

Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 18:44

I just realised she can't even lean on one of the others to leave a space for her as she's banned! That made me smile. Nasty old woman. I just hope she doesn't do something to the car in return though. There's no cctv.

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YouAreMySunshine1 · 04/09/2017 18:50

Where does cf park when your dh has the last space?

38cody · 04/09/2017 18:58

I'd be annoyed if I were her, she's had the space a long time and is now having to pay. I think that the fact that colleagues are 'off' with him indicates that she does had a point - surely parking there for x years gives her the right to be p'd off. Maybe he should suggest they grab a coffee and try to compromise - can they squeeze two cars in and agree to just move when the other wants to leave? Can they car-share in? Could they take in weekly turns?
I can see both points of view and they need to talk.

YouAreMySunshine1 · 04/09/2017 19:05

I don't think they need to talk - she's had a good "unofficial" perk up until now but as circumstances have changed, i.e; an employee of the business who owns the carpet needs to use the space, it's time to give it up.

It's like neighbours who get away with appalling, selfish behaviour or employees who take the piss at work just because "they've been there longer." Enjoy it while it lasts but don't complain when things change and you're in the wrong for moaning about it.

Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 19:05

He doesn't know as he's never seen her car as he's always there first and in his shop.

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YouAreMySunshine1 · 04/09/2017 19:05

Car park not carpet!

Mummyoflittledragon · 04/09/2017 19:08

Cody - rtft

Excellent result!!

Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 19:09

No they can't squeeze two cars in one space. Our car is a med sized one for the boot space so getting a smaller one isn't possible either. And why should we? It's not her works carpark!

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Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 19:11

and we have no idea where she lives and why would he want to car share with someone who had been so awful. And he needs to be able to get home urgently sometimes.

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Mummyme1987 · 04/09/2017 19:11

Posh carpark with carpet 😂

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CatsPurr · 04/09/2017 19:14

She lucked in for ages and now its run out as she is a nasty bitch. Glad your OH was taken seriously. His colleagues might be relieved she isn't coming in anymore. You said there was a negative atmosphere change and to me that hints she isn't that popular.

KitKat1985 · 04/09/2017 19:27

Pleased to see your update OP. It sounds like she was using the car park space to bully him to be honest.

eddielizzard · 04/09/2017 19:45

if there's any damage to his car, she's going to be prime suspect. i'd be surprised if she's that daft.

MsWanaBanana · 04/09/2017 19:45

38cody Have you completely lost the plot with those suggestions? Rtft

Mittens1969 · 04/09/2017 20:08

I'm glad it's been sorted, OP, I agree, it would have saved him a lot of grief if he'd spoken up sooner.

SherbrookeFosterer · 04/09/2017 20:15

She is as mad as a box of frogs.

I suggest an imaginary piggy bank and every time she comes in making her silly demand think "if I had a pound for every time you say that...."

Keep smiling!

Maelstrop · 04/09/2017 20:26

38cody Are you on glue?

manicmij · 04/09/2017 20:32

Is it a case that once DH has parked there is no other space left. If so, hard luck to cf who has obviously had it too good for too long. DH should just comment sorry, first come first served and absolutely no obligation to move Perhaps cf should take it up with your company who hopefully will clarify ownership/responsibility on parking..