To write a tooth fairy letter to my dd10

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She's a young 10. Not got great peer social skills- but confident and great talking to adult.
Also just diagnosed dyslexic (not relevant but paints a better pic).
She has just lost her first canine (the first tooth loss in years).
She has sweetly written the tf a letter asking a few questions about her.
Should I reply (like I occasionally did when she was little with tiny spidery writing)? Potentially making her an object of ridicule when she joins y6 next week.
Or should I write back and allow her her last vestiges of child wonder before she becomes Pre-teen?

I'd write a letter, she sounds super cute!

Thanks youcant.
Just realised meant to say....
Or NOT write back and ease her into perceived age bracket and peer/ social expectations?
And/ or just give the the quid?

I'd not write back and put the coin under her pillow.

Has she any idea? I have a ten yr old going into year six on Tuesday he found out about santa and the tooth fairy about a yr ago he had been asking questions so we told him he's quite naive too I think some of the kids in his class still believe?

I'd definitely write back my boys are nearly 12 and have only just stopped writing to the tooth fairy. My nine year old DD would be gutted if she didnt get a letter. They grow up way too fast indulge her while you can.

x2 she has questioned me over the last year about tf and fc.
I am reluctant to blatantly lie and bounce the question back to her...'what do you think..?'
She's on the cusp of knowing.
I just don't want some kid taking the piss out of her when she candidly tells them.
She is very candid!

I'd write back simply because if she's written a letter it means she wants to continue believing. But I might also suggest to her that she keep the letter to herself because others at school might not believe anymore and therefore might make fun of her.

My DD9 (going into yr 5) still firmly believes in FC and the tooth fairy and this is basically the route we take. She knows not all of her friends believe anymore but we've discussed it and she's decided that it's just best not to mention it to those friends. I think she feels a bit sorry for them that they don't believe anymore!

I think at that age we really have to take the lead from them. My DD is certainly making it clear she's not ready to stop believing yet so we're happy to go along with it. But when she does show signs of giving it up we'll help her along that route too. Although tbh I think DS7 is likely to get there first at this rate

Are we saying that all these children have certain special needs? If so, then I can sort of understand this thread to an extent. Even so, myths do need to expire for their sake and not yours.

9 year olds certainly do not need to believe in santa any more, how weird. Maybe their parents need to let them grow up.

Wtf silver you can be NT and believe in magic. You can be SEN and believe in magic. Blimey.

I believed in FC till I was in my teens. Absolutely 100% thought he was real, I adore Christmas and the fact my parents kept it so alive for me!
If it was me, I would write back! Keep it alive for as long as she believes, but have more answers prepared for when she isn't!

Oh give over silver I was about nine when I stopped believing and I have no special needs neither does ds

Yes why not? My kids believed in Santa til they were 11-12 ... YES REALLY!

Wow you're a total joy silver.

No, my DD doesn't NEED to believe but it makes her very happy to do so.

And she'll grow up when she's grown up which, oh yes, isn't when she's NINE!

Bloody weird.

Yes you are.

I've never done tf letters even when they believed. Too much hassle tbh

Is it not possible to write a tooth fairy letter which would make her smile and would be a sweet and fun gesture, without her truly believing it comes from a fairy? I never understand this. As kids, in our family, we enjoyed the tooth fairy and Santa Claus in the same way as we liked Cinderella and the BFG... we never believed in them but there was still magic...

I ride to work on a unicorn. Some people just don't want their kids to grow up. Weird.

My ds started asking leading questions about santa from age 6 and we have in and told the truth when he was 8

My DH wrote back to DD when she was 10! She asked about her favourite colours etc.
I think DD was testing us.
We were laughing the other day about how DD still has a tooth under her pillow for months (she makes her own bed) and I said the tooth fairy doesn't visit because she's now in one of those high up beds. No one mentioned "wings" luckily!
I think just be a crap fairy and she'll soon know what's going on.

And to answer your actual question OP. Yes write back in teeny tiny TF writing. Your DD will, I'm sure appreciate it.

5 is a good age to let them down gently.. If my DS went to school spouting santa at 8 he'd be outed by most of his friends. I get that a parent wants to coddle their child but this is not a good thing at all. It's strange.

Well don't comment then silver