To write a tooth fairy letter to my dd10

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She's a young 10. Not got great peer social skills- but confident and great talking to adult.
Also just diagnosed dyslexic (not relevant but paints a better pic).
She has just lost her first canine (the first tooth loss in years).
She has sweetly written the tf a letter asking a few questions about her.
Should I reply (like I occasionally did when she was little with tiny spidery writing)? Potentially making her an object of ridicule when she joins y6 next week.
Or should I write back and allow her her last vestiges of child wonder before she becomes Pre-teen?

Some people are just bitter and joyless, no child ever needs to believe in any of these things however they bring them joy so yes write a letter. I'd maybe put in it
'Remember to show you mum this letter and then put it someone special and don't tell everyone about me as I dong have enough time to write to everyone' just so she doesn't get teased at school.

Yeah I agree with SILVER. Silly kids. Believing in non existent shit at such a grotesquely old age as NINE!

And quit treating them with kid gloves people. Should be up chimneys at 6, and down mines at 8, and left home and self sufficient at 10.

Little fuckers. Not growing up and being real mature much quicker. Grrrrr at them. GRRRR!

Fucking hell silver.

Bugger off before I get your unicorn to shove it's horn where the sun don't shine.

Why can't I comment? I think it's weird. It's the parent that doesn't want to let this myth go not the child.

Only on mumsnet do you get posters thinking a child is weird for believing in Santa and irl I have never met any parent who doesn't do Santa only on here .

DS just walked in the room and i asked him... how old were you when you stopped believing in Father Christmas.. his answer was 5. It's the parents that don't want to let the myth go not the child in most cases. Oh and for such a mythical thread Im not sure how great you are chitofftheshovel. Rude very rude.

When asked a direct question about whether Santa or tooth fairy are real I don't lie however I have suggested that their dad is keen to keep up the job so let's not let on. (Aged 7) So I would write the letter but not overdo the illusion for a 10 year old as suggested by Altaria....I think children enjoy pretending.

My 10 1/2 yo DS still believes in Father Xmas, tooth fairy and the Easter bunny. He also knows lots of kids at school don't believe but isn't bothered because our line is "if kids believe, then they (Santa, TF, etc) are real and if kids don't then they have to rely on their parents for gifts and egg hunts." And he's okay with that!

Write the letter. Magic is so limited in kids' lives now! And if you feel she make be at risk of teasing and can't adequately stand up for herself, make sure the TF reminds her that letters from fairies belong at home, not school

Only on mumsnet do you find parents who's kids still believe in santa at 10!

It's interesting to discuss, so thanks all of you for your thoughts.
silver it's not at all about sn. I kind of agree it's a grey area, tho.

I am the kind of mum who has been open about all things since my dd's have been small- all pitched with appropriate age language. No subject is taboo, when they ask about it, unbidden.
That said, if you have a child that is not remotely precocious then why not allow them to have that joy for a bit longer.
I think pp's have a good point.
If I do this then to advise subtlety.

An amazing thing. Real life will never happen!

Actually @HiJenny35 has an even better suggestion, go with her letter text!

Your real life must be different to my real life then silver because plenty of my DDs friends at school (who are also 9) still believe.

But then your real life sounds shit anyway.

Another strange sweeping statement from julietbat.

Kids of 9 do not believe in these things, they keep it going for their parents.

DS, 8, asked out right last year about fc last year, told him the truth and he decided he wanted to believe in santa still because it was fun. If your DD still believes then run with it whilst she still enjoys the magic and mystery

@FreeSpiritJen surely by 10 they should be living on their own, don't know what kind of freeloaders you're raising to still be under your roof at that age

silver you evidently don't believe in mythical creatures so it was obviously a non threat. You however are extraordinarily rude in bombarding this innocent thread.

Gosh I'm shocked that people are saying children are too old to believe at 9/10yrs. My daughter is 8 and totally believes in fc, fairies etc. I'm totally happy to go along with it and let her enjoy the magic and innocence on childhood for as long as she believes. None of it is for my benefit - in fact it's more hard work! But she is a clever, inquisitive child and will figure it out in the next couple of years I am sure. All her friends believe so I'm surprised so many are saying children know at a young age. Absolutely I wouldn't let her her go to secondary school and be teased about these things but children grow up far too quickly in my opinion and I love the fact she can enjoy these occasions with extra magic.

Tbh from my days at school I don't think we believed in Santa and Troy fairy etc at 10. Not saying it's a bad thing or anything just none of my mates at the time did. I think we were about 6/7 when we realised.

If she still believes, good on her, let her enjoy it as long as she can

Weird thread. Very weird.

Don't know what the fuck the Troy fairy is? Obviously I meant tooth fairy

My then 8 yr old very nearly nine (his birthday is boxing dsy) very clearly did believe in Santa he's a little naive and isn't the most academic child but he has no special needs and I,m very aware of special needs having a severely autistic seven yr old now some children just believe for a little longer there's nothing wrong with that .

Christ- as long as it isn't the Tory Fairy.
I wouldn't be writing to that fucker.

Kids of 9 do not believe in these things, they keep it going for their parents.

So you've met my daughter and know this for a fact, do you silver?

I think you might be the one making the sweeping statements...

Awww... if she wrote a letter she has to have one back!

My DS wrote a letter and I helped him fashion a teeny envelope.

I had never told him about the tooth fairy, he was the one that told me! I just nodded and smiled as I listened, and then I wrote a fairy reply. But the reply was pitched at the same level as he had written his letter, it made no judgement on whether the tooth fairy is real or imagined (so I wasn't lying or leading him on,but equally I wasn't bursting his bubble if he was enjoying it) but I was happy to play the game for as long as he wanted to. If he asks me directly I will tell him, as I can't get him to trust me like that. I want him to honestly be able to trust me!