To write a tooth fairy letter to my dd10

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She's a young 10. Not got great peer social skills- but confident and great talking to adult.
Also just diagnosed dyslexic (not relevant but paints a better pic).
She has just lost her first canine (the first tooth loss in years).
She has sweetly written the tf a letter asking a few questions about her.
Should I reply (like I occasionally did when she was little with tiny spidery writing)? Potentially making her an object of ridicule when she joins y6 next week.
Or should I write back and allow her her last vestiges of child wonder before she becomes Pre-teen?

silver you can believe that's the case- but you're being glib in assuming that all kids are the same.
Innit.

All kids are different it's not weird just different.

Well I sort of know that their peers would take the piss out of them yes.

Our DD1 is 8 and still believes in Santa Claus and the tooth fairy, absolutely. DD2 said that the tooth fairy was pretend when she was 4, though I hushed her up so as not to disappoint DD1 (7 at that time). I don't know whether she really believes now, we were talking about her losing her milk tooth, which will happen soon, and she was saying, 'I'll get £1, didn't mention the tooth fairy, though I did. So there's a good chance she's pretending to believe.

She's asked if Santa is real too. I said yes, as there was St Nicholas and we see Santa every year after all so it's nice to pretend. But it won't be long before it's all rumbled lol.

It's not about age at all, obviously. Children are all different even when brought up by the same parents.

There, you do have a point.

Oh that's cute Judy

There's been no sign of my DD1's peers teasing her about it at all. DD2 might of course before too long, but I managed to put off ending that game last Christmas when she asked me directly about Santa. She's very articulate though so it really won't be long!

Op ignoring silver how will you handle your dd starting high school will you tell her about the tooth fairy and Santa beforehand?

I personally knew my child would have to mix with a very diverse peer group so whilst I kept santa going in our own world, if you like, I equipped him for the outside harsh place he was going to go to. Hence me actually being quite against parents not doing this for their own reasons and not the childs.

x2 yep.

dd is 9. She certainly knows the tf is not real, but she would adore to write to and from the tf.

In the past we have had many letters from tf, all written in tiny letters on scraps of tissue paper, then crumpled around the coin with a sprinkle of glitter whihc falls out as you open it.

Why not? You may want to ;et her down gently about the tf being a game parents play with their kids, but that doesn't mean you can't still engage with the fantasy.

(I never remember actually believing in SC or TF as a kid, I always knew they were make bleieve, but playing along was fun)

And I only ask this because kids can be very cruel at high school .

My dd, nearly 9, has spent most of her summer writing letters and making gardens etc for the fairies. She 100% believes, and I will keep it going for her as long as possible. Most of her friends (y4) also still believe.

Ah ignore my last reply your dd sounds very much like my ds he's a great kid

@mittens1969
There's been no sign of my DD1's peers teasing her about it at all.

That's because it never happens. Not when they are 10 and under, like the age of the OP's child, which is the age group being discussed.

I feel very sad for a child as young as 5 or 6 that has no belief in anything. I think it's most odd actually, and can only be down to the parents telling them the fantasy stuff like Santa, the tooth fairy, and the Easter bunny etc is fake. They wouldn't think it was all fake unless the parents told them.

silver It would be easy to say that your 5 year old not believing in santa/tooth fairy is weird but unlike you I fully grasp that kids develop at different rates. I asked outright when I was about 7, my dd (10) still believes in santa/tooth fairy though probably has an inkling and this will be the last year. She has said that 'some' people say the tf isn't real but she doesn't care what they say. No one is taking the piss. Are you a teacher, is this how you know?

I just wished that parents grew up at the same age as their kids.

She doesn't know SlimDog.

Oh! Diverse group? Just for the record, my dd's school is very multicultural with lots of different beliefs in all sorts. Makes no difference to the concept of santa/tf.

No one is taking the piss. Are you a teacher, is this how you know?

She doesn't know. No-one can know what every child in the world thinks.

And despite what silver thinks, not every child disbelieves and pretends they believe FFS.

Grow up slim..

Twaddle.

Grow up yourself!

Why are you so rude and negative @silverbell64?

And why are you refusing to believe anything can be true unless YOU say so???

Serious question(s.)