To write a tooth fairy letter to my dd10

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She's a young 10. Not got great peer social skills- but confident and great talking to adult.
Also just diagnosed dyslexic (not relevant but paints a better pic).
She has just lost her first canine (the first tooth loss in years).
She has sweetly written the tf a letter asking a few questions about her.
Should I reply (like I occasionally did when she was little with tiny spidery writing)? Potentially making her an object of ridicule when she joins y6 next week.
Or should I write back and allow her her last vestiges of child wonder before she becomes Pre-teen?

Santa is not going to be happy with this thread.
On a side note - I only discovered the TF wasn't real because I put my tooth under my pillow, didn't tell my mum and it was still there the next day. I asked her why she didn't come, and she said she's far too busy and I've lost too many teeth - and she won't be coming back, then gave me a fiver. Thanks mum!

Can't believe silverbell is still dragging us on this. Here's my last post as I'm bored of being called weird.

I helped to raise my 2 SDs (now 23 and 24) who lived between our home and their mum's JW home where they were told from birth that there is no Santa because Xmas is a lie (never stopped her giving them gifts tho but whatever). At our quote unquote weird house Father Xmas brought them gifts and filled their stockings. When SD1 was 8 she asked "some kids at school say FC isn't real, that it's the mums and dads, is that true?" to which I replied "well, do you think Dad & I can afford all the gifts you're given?" She thought about it and said no, so I told her that I guess FC is real for kids who believe in his magic and for kids who don't, their parents do it. This satisfied her and then her sister enough that they still love to go to bed before us on Xmas eve because they say "there's nothing better than waking up to find the stockings filled AS IF BY MAGIC". They also perpetuate the magic to my DS with a little smile towards us.

We never had to have "the conversation" where we confirm that a fat guy doesn't fly around and gives presents to kids, and I feel sad for kids whose parents feel they need to "equip" them by stopping this fantasy - especially at a young age - because they're worried about possible peer pressure. Those are the kids who IME grow up to be the kids who tease their peers for daring to believe/enjoy something different.

(BTW the good old tooth fairy came last night in our household for a lost molar. My DS said "I can't wait to see what the TF brings me for this" and I looked at him, ready to see if there was a wink or knowing look... but there wasn't. Just a delighted kid in the morning, which is what motivates me as a parent rather than caring about other kids' reaction).

miseuseff same in our house, we've never had to have the conversation with DS1 (13 today!!!!) we've just had a lovely, quiet, gentle progression to him smiling when we talk about Santa / tooth fairy/easter bunny/ birthday bear and him joining on with perpetuating the Magic for brothers who are 5 and 10 ( 10 yr old probably moving towards the same, quiet acknowledgment). It was no pressure, no hassle and just a lovely move into him being mature.
silver and others have removed the Magic from all their lives far, far too.soon. It would be tragic and so sad if my 5 year old didn't believe.

Exactly so @wildbhoys. Exactly so.

I don't recall any child being teased for believing in Santa. Plenty of teasing certainly but not for that.

And yes, there are children who delight in telling others in their class that Santa isn't real. They tend to upset the other children and annoy their parents. Why should they ruin other children's fun? By the time they get to 8/9, it doesn't matter so much.

But I've never actually heard of a child being teased in primary school.

Thanks everyone. Even silver!
She read the letter this morning and asked again about validity.
Like a pp suggested I said tf was real if you believe in her.
I shall'nt disabuse her until near time to start comp!

I'm not sure why doing Father Christmas or tooth fairy equates with keeping them young.

I suppose if you think of it as something under fives do it might equate.

Problem is in my house and family Father Christmas and the tooth fairy is done by everyone. Child or adult. FC comes even when there are no children int he family. FC is just a game we play with each other. Obviously tooth fairy comes mainly for kids because of the physical age of tooth loss but we hang a stocking, we fill it, FC comes, why not?

Do it! My kids still write and they are teens. Even though they know, they want to keep the magic alive. It is a private, family thing and quite frankly, no fucks are given to what anyone else thinks.