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Should I have rang non-emergency police. DS1 verbally attacked.

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TwoMummyPigs · 31/08/2017 16:18

I took DS1 (12) and DS2 (11) to get their school shoes yesterday. We got on the bus and downstairs was busy so went to sit upstairs. We sit at the very back, with my partner.

Two stops later there was a bang on the side of the bus as it pulled up to the stop. I thought someone had been hit as there was shouting. Turns out this young girl had ran at the bus and hit the doors. She was about 12/13 and with a friend of about 14/15 and a boy of the same age.

A few minutes later they come upstairs and are visibly dissapointed that we are at the back.

This girl is SO loud and mouthy. She dramatically runs up the aisle and plonks her self down on the last seat before ours.
She is shouting about how she had stormed out after hitting her dad Hmm and screaming at her friend about 'not being allowed to fucking talk!' She was awful. Everyone on the bus were exchanging glances.

Now my sons don't go places without me. They are very polite and reserved.

My DS was sat behind her, facing my gf as the seats at the back face each other.

Whilst she is hollering and shouting my DS and GF are talking about something completely unrelated and DS laughs.
Next thing I know this girl gets up, comes round the seat and leans down into DS and starts shouting "what the fuck are you laighing about?? You know nothing about my life. Who the fuck do you think you are?"

I leaned forwards and put my hand against her shoulder (not pushing her just creating a barrier) and told her to back off and leave him alone.

She then turns on me. She put her face literally ab INCH away from mine and started the same shit with me. My gf stood up and told her to basically piss off and she had brass balls and carried on shouting.

She storms off and sits halfway down the bus and starts shouting about 'people listening into her private conversations'

So I say 'no body wanted to listen to your drama love but you were screaming loud enough for the whole bus to hear and he wasn't laughing at you!"

The bus driver came up and made them go downstairs (the older girl was just laughing the whole time but the older boy did try to control the littler one) He didn't even kick them off the bus!

DS said he was ok but he looked a little shaken and they did say on the way back he hoped she wasn't on the bus home.

Should I have done more? Complained to the driver? Called 101? She was so aggressive and out of order.

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Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 10:30

Oh and I'm from the north, so Corrie is much more my thing! 😉

minifingerz · 05/09/2017 10:42

Remembering a trip to the cinema many years ago which was ruined by a group of gobby teenage girls shouting, swearing and being arses, insulting and intimidating anyone who asked them politely to pipe down, and continuing to make loads of noise immediately after the usher who came to tell them to be quiet had left.

After a while a massive a very rough looking guy stood up, walked over to them and hurled his drink at them, bellowing 'shut the fuck up!'

Immediately total silence descended and it stayed that way for the rest of the film. They actually cowered in their seats.

It was bliss.

I'm a believer that if you live by the sword you die by the sword. Behave like a baddass in public and you risk a genuine baddass taking you on.

minifingerz · 05/09/2017 10:46

If those kids had done that on a bus in Nairobi, they would have been beaten senseless by grannies with sticks, and everyone would have approved.

Some kids need to have boundaries reinforced in situations like this and I salute anyone brave enough to do it.

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 10:49

Oh dear, I think Lesprit will be aghast at this scenario......probably be more inclined to throw her gloves on the ground. Me though, I think what that man did was superb!! But I'm a common type who simply doesn't know how to behave in decent society....oh wait.......

Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 12:20

walking You clearly missed that I said "sometimes* walking away is the best thing to do. You do understand that there is no one way of dealing with a situation, don't you? Different situations call for different ways of dealing with it.

And yet again you have twisted my word. No where have I said the police wouldn't deal with it seriously but they will treat the incident for what it is, not dramatise it in the way that you have.

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 12:56

Nicky, oh I see you were there? No, so how can you know how dramatic the scene was? It is a subjective matter is it not? Instead of minimising what happened, why don't you pull those people up on their attitude that an altercation with an aggressive teenager can be extremely intimidating for some.

Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 13:33

You need to keep in in prospective, something that you are apparently unable to do.

Why do you keep asking me to police what other posters think?

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 13:48

I don't give a shit what you do, but it would be perhaps preferable that a police officer could give some actual advice rather than sniping at my comments!

Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 13:57

Jeez what is your problem and what other advice do you want me to give exactly?

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 14:23

Oh I don't know, how about some acknowledgment that anti social behaviour is not a trivial matter? Or that the police do take anti social behaviour seriously or even just acknowledge that although you and some other posters don't think what happened was significant that for the OP it was???

LespritDescalier · 05/09/2017 14:29

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Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 14:34

walking Maybe try trad my posts again then instead of my having to repeat myself.

Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 14:35

Reading!

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 14:36

Oh dear Lesprit, don't like the plebs having an opinion do you? I'm not sure quite why you think I'd kick a 7 yr old in the face though. Well 7 yr olds aren't yet old enough to held accountable, teenagers are. Not that you'd hold them to account over anything, you walk away, remember.

LespritDescalier · 05/09/2017 14:40

Of course I do. Why don't you try it? Like now. Hmm

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 14:44

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Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 14:45

Enough with the name calling just because someone doesn't agree with you. It's not big or clever.

LespritDescalier · 05/09/2017 14:45

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Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 14:49

Nicky, now I'm not the only one doing the name calling am i? Tut tut, should really try and be a bit more objective?

Nicknacky · 05/09/2017 14:51

Who else has name called this morning?

LespritDescalier · 05/09/2017 14:53

Maybe Walking should go and argue with a police officer in real life, see how far they get? And ask what will happen when they fight with children ( you'll be in a lot of trouble, is the answer).

This you, Walking?
www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-4853302/Woman-brawls-Alicante-airport-floor-passenger.html

kali110 · 05/09/2017 15:01

Lesprit
What exactly is wrong with you?

kali110 · 05/09/2017 15:01

Or has your school not gone back yet?

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 15:04

Nicky

Lesprit has had 2 posts removed........i'll let you figure it out.......

Walkingdead11 · 05/09/2017 15:05

Sorry Lesprit I don't read the daily fail.....but I am not surprised you do.