I'm posting here for traffic as there isn't a lot going on in step parenting. Apologies.
I'm a regular but have name changed to protect anonymity. I'm married with no kids of my own and a 16 year old step son. We all get on well - usual family and teenage issues, nothing major.
DSS has a girlfriend (also 16) - they are sleeping together (he's very open about this). I could be very old fashioned here and I guess i'm in the right forum to be told IABU. I'm not after unilateral support, genuine opinions are needed. Although both are over the legal age of consent I have a bit of an issue with them spending the night together. I'm told my DH that its better they do it under the safety of our roof but it doesn't make me feel any better. I just have a problem with it. They are allowed to sleep together at DH's ex's house as much as they like. Occasionally they sleep at DSS GF's house although i'm told (by DSS) her mum isn't keen and prefers her to sleep at either of his homes - this I very much struggle with - I cannot understand this way of thinking at all? Surely as a mum you would want your children under your own roof and if they are doing things you find unsavoury you would stop it happening rather than farm them out elsewhere?
I think they should be allowed to spend as much time as they like together during the day, but say goodnight and spend overnight in their respective homes. When they reach 18 and are adults then they can choose. What do you think?