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Original poster

Reach your kids some fucking consideration! [ranty]

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:22

This has been inspired by the mummy who let her two charming kids scoot around Tesco. But it also goes out to the geniuses who keep their little darlings watch Peppa Pig on the bus or the pub. The parent who doesn't think it necessary to teach their kids that the appropriate response to bumping into another human is to apologise.
I have noticed this more and more: children (being children) act loud, entitled or aggressive and the accompanying adult smiles indulgently rather than correcting behaviour that infringes on others.

Ianbu Grin

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:23

*Teach

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propertingz · 29/08/2017 15:26

YANBU

Why do parents allow their kids to scoot everywhere? Even supermarkets! Museums!

Gromance02 · 29/08/2017 15:30

YANBU. Someone on a plane recently thought it was acceptable to allow their kid to play with a toy that was so loud that I could hear it 8 rows back! If someone replies to this post with something about special needs, I will scream. That parent allowed a noise to affect dozens and dozens of people. NO excuse for it.

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:31

Museums? I haven't yet seen that Shock

Although that probably leads to adults who manage block busy aisles in a museum with a selfie stick ( that I have seen).

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Notreallyarsed · 29/08/2017 15:32

Gromance02 all my kids have SN and I'd expect them to use headphones if they wanted to use their tablets when we were out. Courtesy is something sadly lacking these days apparently

Trooperslane · 29/08/2017 15:33

I had this on a 6am flight recently.
I get it's tough having a 2 year old on an early flight I have had one but for fuck sake!

One hour and a quarter of Peppa fucking Pig at full blast.

Nightmare. She wouldn't even turn it down particularly any lower. Fucker.

DD does get the iPad so I'm not judgy about that any more and I totally agree with you OP.

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:35

Gromance I fully expect someone to mention special needs.
Most children are very capable from a young age to understand the concept of "This will disturb others" - this includes many children with special needs. It just needs to be pointed out to them.

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Pengggwn · 29/08/2017 15:35

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Crunchymum · 29/08/2017 15:36

We had an impromptu supermarket visit recently and oldest (4.9) was under strict instructions to push his scooter around. Normally scooters are banned from shops.

Nothing good can ever come of kids and scooters in supermarkets Shock

Notreallyarsed · 29/08/2017 15:36

I think if you're talking about kids with SN who make involuntary noises then that's a different ball game, they can't help it and don't mean it. It's wilful noisiness and lack of consideration that piss me off.

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:37

MN is restoring my faith in humanity.

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WorkingBling · 29/08/2017 15:39

Broadly speaking, I don't find this that much. I'm always pleasantly surprised by the fact that people do, I think, try to manage their children. Not always, sure, but it's not that bad.

Having said that, I was a soft play the other day with DC. DD was on the iPhone as she was exhausted. I kept thinking her sound was too loud and getting stressed out as even with all the noise I could hear her... until I realised it wasn't her. It was a man TWO tables over who was doing something on his phone and even had a little speaker plugged in for better sound. I was absolutely gobsmacked.

BaggypantsCrimplesnitch · 29/08/2017 15:40

When I was expecting my first DC somebody lent me a book on baby and toddler care, and in the section on things to do with a toddler on a rainy day was the suggestion that "museums and art galleries offer miles of warm carpeted running space." Confused Even at the time I remember thinking, yeah, that'll go down well with the general public...

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:43

Notreally Totally agree with your post. Of course some children with special needs cannot control certain aspects of behaviour- that's just part of being in public. This is about parents who are ignoring or encouraging anti-social behaviour of children who are capable of knowing better.

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:45

Baggypants Museums = warm, carpeted running space? [Faints]

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LilQueenie · 29/08/2017 15:45

honestly I have witnessed more adults barge past kids with no apologies than the other way round. Perhaps if adults took the lead children would follow.

Notreallyarsed · 29/08/2017 15:47

someonestolemynick I totally agree, I was defusing before it started iyswim. Knobbish parents who encourage/allow/ignore anti social behaviour in their kids piss me right off!!!

Ttbb · 29/08/2017 15:47

A lot of parents don't have manners either, is ot really any wk see that their spawn are annoying?

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:48

LilQueenie I tend to apologise to anyone I bump into (or even when they bump into me) - they look at me as if I'm a child snatcher. Not all kids - though. Especially kids who have scooted into me at full speed.

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angelikacpickles · 29/08/2017 15:50

honestly I have witnessed more adults barge past kids with no apologies than the other way round. Perhaps if adults took the lead children would follow.

It goes both ways, but I do notice this too. People who walk straight at children and expect them to move out of the way. If my kids are meandering or not looking where they are going (which they do!) I will always pull them out of the way, but some adults seem to think children should just disappear.

usualGubbins · 29/08/2017 15:51

Damn scooters! I work in a busy tourist town, and am sick to death of brats either scooting into me from from behind or straight into the front of me. I also saw several kids climbing all over a parked (and locked) moped. I thought it was something to do with them until I saw the mother taking photos of them and then they all walked off!

Gromance02 · 29/08/2017 15:51

I'm probably showing my age here but when I was young, people other than parents could speak up about people's bad manners without fear of being berated or worse. People like bus conductors, train conductors, other adults etc. Although the type of people that need telling that it is unacceptable to play TV/music at a volume that other people can hear, aren't going to be the type of people that are going to be reasonable.

LoyaltyAndLobster · 29/08/2017 15:51

YABU - I don't mean to be rude but what other parents allow their children to do is really none of our business, and me personally I don't care.

Wonderflonium · 29/08/2017 15:53

I was walking near Waterloo in London with my husband and the baby in a sling. A little kid (between 4 and 6), was spinning around in the middle of the pavement. It was hard to walk around her because of how she was spinning, it wasn't a tight circle, it was one of those big random spirals.

Anyway, the dad could see she was massively in our way and came to our aid. He called out:

"Be careful, Ceecee!" with a sing-song voice.

Of course, as it wasn't a clear instruction of what he wanted to do, she carried on with her spinning.

It is now the catchphrase in our house.

LagunaBubbles · 29/08/2017 15:53

YANBU. Recently saw 2 kids being allowed to run wild around Lidl, bumping into people and even sliding across the floor on their tummies at one point, no interventions at all from Mum and Dad. It didnt end well when they slid right into the end section with the vodka and whisky and a few bottles came crashing down...Dad appeared then but still didnt tell them off!