Reach your kids some fucking consideration! [ranty]

[someonestolemynick]

This has been inspired by the mummy who let her two charming kids scoot around Tesco. But it also goes out to the geniuses who keep their little darlings watch Peppa Pig on the bus or the pub. The parent who doesn't think it necessary to teach their kids that the appropriate response to bumping into another human is to apologise.
I have noticed this more and more: children (being children) act loud, entitled or aggressive and the accompanying adult smiles indulgently rather than correcting behaviour that infringes on others.

Ianbu

I am honestly quite surprised by just how much bad behaviour MNetters seem to come across. I never come across any unless there's a parent not far behind apologising profusely. That I can remember I've seen two incidents of really shocking bad behaviour from children, once when a child swore at me and tried to kick my dog in a park for no real reason and another at the cinema when I group of four approx 10/11 year olds came to see the movie unaccompanied and we being just awful, running around, throwing things, changing seats, had to get the manager in the end. I've never seen children on loud iPads, never nearly been mown down by an out of control scooter rider, never experienced bad behaviour where a mortified parent didn't get involved.

common sense and common consideration barely exist anymore.
lived in a town where we had narrow boardwalks to navigate the streets, people would pile up and block the way.multiple pardon me's and excuse please went ignored.
my service dog who was desperately needing to get to the park finally gave up and sat on a mans foot and peed on it.when he started to protest the woman(wife?) with him told him off and said if you had moved when the lady asked it wouldm't have happened.
she was a very well trained dog and had better manners than most humans/

Dustbunny1900 I am also quite sensitive to annoying noise, but at the airport a few weeks ago (crammed into the waiting room at the gate with a raucous stag and a hen party) I had the idea to wear my earplugs!... BLISS :) got quite a few funny looks but I got to read my book undisturbed!

WhatToDo if they're already down so low that nobody can hear them above the general hubbub of a busy supermarket café, why would we need headphones? They both have headphones, but if I can't hear the tablets, I'm pretty sure that nobody else can. 😀

A roughly 5 year old on a scooter raced past me a few weeks ago in the supermarket and spectacularly crashed straight into the drinks aisle. All the bottles on the shelf shook luckily none broke on him. His mum went biserk at him.
It's why I shop mainly at night.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck You're used to it, so I can pretty much guarantee you'll be tuning it out while everyone around you suffers.

It's the parents fault. If by the age of 4 you have been allowed to ride a bike or scooter in a shop, watch programmes at full volume in a public place without any consideration for others, run about in cafes and restaurants, piss on a complete strangers garden, go to other peoples houses and break their belongings, well then you are going to become an entitled and unpleasant child who develops into an unpleasant adult. Because your parents think you should be allowed to do whatever you like

For me it's been the bloody entitled adults that have pissed me of one of the worst being the couple that tried to push in front of my disabled son who was on crutches whilst we were waiting for the lift!
Ignorant Bastards!

Kids I get especially if they're parent is the kind of idiot who does the non parenting,Fucking Wake Up and Parent your children you fuckWits.Then I do blame the parents but if your an adult you don't have the excuse of not knowing any better.

And like another poster mentioned please don't come on here and blame all the bad behaviour on the children that aren't NT,3 of our 5DC are asd and nine times out of 10 it's not them playing up when we go out alot of the time it is children that have no extra need or disability going on they just have a parent that doesn't give a shit as long as they're not bothering that said parent!

My son can be both loud and aggressive but anyone who objects to that in public (where an ounce of commonsense would tell them why) can go home and stay there.

Since special needs has been mentioned....

I am an incident or two from recording a few really loud, filthy songs on my phone - I dunno, thrash metal or something - and playing them at full volume in retaliation next time a parent refuses to turn down Peppa Pig on the tube or the bus.

Last time I was in Lidl there were two kids with their bikes - I kid you not!

It's not just the children though. Went into the local supermarket with my 12 year old niece yesterday on way home from school and was horrified to see a middle-aged woman change direction to cut straight across her path barging her out of the way with her arm and not bothering to stop and say sorry. Poor niece unfortunately seemed to think that lack of consideration was normal between an adult and a child.

Spikeyball I think people were saying that if there are noises/behaviours associated with SN that that was different. It's NT kids being awful that is the topic for once. I'm sorry you and your son have had crap experiences though, I know all too well how shite it feels.

Recently witnessed a couple of teenagers tell a youngster "hey hold up this is not the place to run up and down" while the adults some short distance had consistently look the other way. Yes the teenagers weren't British and their astonishment at the youngsters behaviour was a breadth of fresh air!

My 86 year old grandmother was in the queue to buy a lottery ticket in Asda on Saturday when she was rammed from behind by a trolley being pushed by a small child who wasn't much older than 5 or 6. She fell, and the mother of the child who had not been standing with him but browsing the magazines a few yards away came over and told her to stop being melodramatic, he was only playing and hadn't meant to knock her. My nan walks with a stick, has Parkinson's and is quite frail. The child had been spinning the trolley round whilst queuing on his own to buy a drink. My dad saw what happened and told her she should keep control of her child, and she told him he was rude, overreacting and that her child hadn't caused my nan to fall over. My dad was fuming.

It's almost a given that someone soon is going to be seriously injured - or God forbid killed - by some kid whizzing around a supermarket. Either on heelies, a scooter, or (yes I have seen this) a 2-wheel bike.

And then we'll hear wails of "who'd have thought it ?"

My favourite is to see them whizzing around Starbucks with hot drinks being carried around, just to add to the obstacle course.

Eventually I suspect a store will find themselves liable for failing to provide a safe environment for the public, and fined pour encourager l'autres ....

If other people's children's behaviour effects you when you are out, perhaps you should stay home. There has been times when I've been out and seen other people's children act out of place and I just choose to ignore it as I am in a public place.

Oh, and YANBU ...

If other people's children's behaviour effects you when you are out, perhaps you should stay home.

LoyaltyandLobster look at the post above you. Do you really think an 86 year old grandmother should stay indoors for the rest of her days in case she's knocked over again by a six-year-old?

It goes two ways.
Was out in a town centre today, middle aged woman walking towards us on a not crowded pavement with a younger woman and child, smacked her shopping bags into my 3 year old dd's face. Then looked, saw what she had done and carried on, no hint of an apology.
She was gone before I really had time to process it and then I was just left feeling really guilty add my daughter (who is gentle and generally easy of nature) asked me mummy why did that lady just hit me? Luckily she has no marks on her face and it missed her eyes.

If other people's children's behaviour effects you when you are out, perhaps you should stay home. There has been times when I've been out and seen other people's children act out of place and I just choose to ignore it as I am in a public place.

Please, please tell me how I'm supposed to ignore kids running about while I'm carrying a tray of hot food and hot drinks. I'd love to know.

Or, perhaps, that isn't possible? Yeah, didn't think so. Cut the bullshit.

Sometimes a low-volume tablet spares those around a wandering/crying/screaming toddler.

It's difficult when some parents are such rude oafs though.
I just flew back from Cyprus, family of four were allocated seats in areas that they weren't happy with.
Massive fuss caused, bullying the cabin crew and given the extra leg room seats near me (without paying).

They swore for the whole flight, played loud games on their phones and the Dad sat on his wife's lap with his disgusting feet hanging in to the aisle.

Two more being brought up to behave without any consideration for other people.

I witnessed HEELIES in the TRAFFORD CENTRE on the BANK HOLIDAY BEFORE SCHOOL STARTS this weekend. Family with three kids, all wheeled. For actual Christ's sake. Madness. It's like a circus in there with added back to school shoppers its like the ninth circle of hell. The poor women in john lewis trying to do shoe fitting on these kids and one would randomly wheel off knocking all the boxes down around them. Little brats.

WhatToDo they're really incredibly low, and my DC don't have to be told to put them that low either. Much noisier are the adults having conversations at full volume. DD has often complained that she can't hear her tablet above them. Also, both of them have sensory issues with noise, so you can be assured that their tablets are extremely quiet.