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Original poster

Reach your kids some fucking consideration! [ranty]

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:22

This has been inspired by the mummy who let her two charming kids scoot around Tesco. But it also goes out to the geniuses who keep their little darlings watch Peppa Pig on the bus or the pub. The parent who doesn't think it necessary to teach their kids that the appropriate response to bumping into another human is to apologise.
I have noticed this more and more: children (being children) act loud, entitled or aggressive and the accompanying adult smiles indulgently rather than correcting behaviour that infringes on others.

Ianbu Grin

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Fitzsimmons · 29/08/2017 15:54

It's tourist season here where I live. This week I have been pushed and shoved whilst walking along, had people queue jump me, witnessed littering, had dogs jump up at me whilst their owners look on, and had to endure late night party noise, including fireworks. All adults. You get wankers in every generation.

LagunaBubbles · 29/08/2017 15:54

YABU - I don't mean to be rude but what other parents allow their children to do is really none of our business, and me personally I don't care

Rubbish. It is very much someone elses business when their children are disturbing others.

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someonestolemynick · 29/08/2017 15:55

Loyalty if I can hear Peppa Pig on repeat or have to dive out of the way of scooters in Tesco it is my business- because I, as well as everybody else in this place, am affected.

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LagunaBubbles · 29/08/2017 15:55

And yes adults can be just as bad but they should know better - it is a parents job how to teach children to behave appropriately.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 29/08/2017 15:56

As I always say on these threads: my DC watch Netflix on their tablets in our local supermarket café as we don't have WiFi at home. They keep the volume low. If we could get Netflix in the house i wouldn't allow it in the café.

WindwardCircle · 29/08/2017 15:58

Penggyn I have one of those stray 9 year olds, and I have told her over and over again not or get in people's way, but it doesn't go in. As far as I'm concerned if she gets hit by a buggy it's probably her own fault for not looking where she's going, but please don't blame the parents. Children are easily distracted and don't play by the same social rules as adults, I do my best but at 9 im not always two feet behind her to tell her to get out of the way.

Gromance02 · 29/08/2017 15:59

If we could get Netflix in the house i wouldn't allow it in the café. Eh? That is the oddest excuse!

user1496587010 · 29/08/2017 15:59

Ahhh. These threads make me paranoid. Currently reviewing recent parenting in public nervously...

JuniUmiZoomi · 29/08/2017 16:00

Scooters in my local museum are pretty standard. My 2 year old nearly got knocked down by a 9ish year old on one a couple of weeks ago. Completely ridiculous but how the parents can't see it I don't know.

Goingtobeawesome · 29/08/2017 16:00

I don't know anyone who smiles indulgently while their child is misbehaving. I wonder if it is a misinterpretation. I'm aware that I don't know everyone in the world

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Mazzystarlett · 29/08/2017 16:01

Heelies. Ugh.
I recently witnessed a child riding around on those things in a busy restaurant, with staff carrying hot food trying to dodge out of her way. She was carrying a toddler at the time and the parents didn't bat an eyelid. The mind boggles!

SnickersWasAHorse · 29/08/2017 16:01

YABU - I don't mean to be rude but what other parents allow their children to do is really none of our business, and me personally I don't care.

It is my business when they are scooting round in a coffee shop and I am walking around with a scolding hot drink.

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck · 29/08/2017 16:01

That's not an excuse, it's a reason. And they don't have it loud enough for me to hear it, never mind anyone else.

bigbluebus · 29/08/2017 16:05

Never mind the children, what about the dogs. I visited a sea side resort the other day and as I wondered down the main street I was gobsmacked at the number of people sitting at tables outside cafes who had dogs sitting up at the table on their knees. By all means take the dog to the cafe, but it sits on the ground under the chair/table. I do not want to be the next customer to sit and eat my food at that table when your dog has been slobbering all over it and the teenage waiter/waitress has given it a quick flick of the cloth after you've left.

I do not get why people treat dogs (and other random pets) as people. They are not people, they are animals.

paperandpaint · 29/08/2017 16:06

Loyalty and Lobster - it's nobody else's business as long as they are safe and are not impacting on anybody else. I don't really don't concern myself if a child is watching their iPad in a restaurant or running about in a safe space.

Sadly however a lot of parents don't care even if the child isn't safe (like the parents yesterday who let their kids play right next to the road in Richmond Park while cars and bikes were flying past) or if the child's behaviour is impacting on other people (like the 5 year old in the lovely tearoom in Surrey hills last month who had his iPad on loudly that we couldn't actually hold a conversation). There is so much entitlement these days it is getting ridiculous. My DDs always have to walk with their scooters in a shop and I wouldn't dream of lettng them play football in the formal gardens of a country house that people had paid to visit and who then had to run the gauntlet of screaming and rogue balls!

I do agree however that adults do walk straight at children and just expect them to move. There has to be a bit of give and take not just the children automatically moving out of the way.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 29/08/2017 16:06

I can't stand the parents who let their kids wander around restaurants without a care in the world.

Hello, there's people walking around with heavy trays full of hot food and drinks! They shouldn't have to dodge and shuffle their way through your kids.

(And you know they'd be the ones complaining instead of apologising if their precious kid got hot coffee poured all over them.)

bigbluebus · 29/08/2017 16:06

wandered although I was wondering too Grin

stitchglitched · 29/08/2017 16:07

Scooters and Heelies in the supermarket drives me insane. I had a girl of about 11 almost crash into me in Heelies in a shop when I was about 7 months pregnant. Not to mention if they cause an elderly person to fall that can actually end up being fatal. Kept having to jump out of the way of a 3-4 year old whizzing round on a scooter last week, and my son who has SN and some balance/co-ordination difficulties had to jump out of his way and was very upset. I couldn't even see his parents or I would have ranted at them. Stupid people.

paperandpaint · 29/08/2017 16:07

SnickerswasaHorse - I dropped a tray of hot coffee all over the floor in Cafe Nero years ago. There were three toddlers playing on the floor. Everybody was fine but I still get upset thinking about what might have happened.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 29/08/2017 16:08

EvilDoctorBallerinaDuck Never heard of headphones? Or, put more simply, consideration for others?

Lovemusic33 · 29/08/2017 16:09

My dc's have sn's, I wasn't going to mention it Grin, my kids are actually better behaved than most NT children I have met, they are not loud, they know how to say 'sorry' and they don't scoot around on scooters in supermarkets.

I do feel that parents are often too soft, that schools are often too soft too, I worry about the adults these children will become.

Dustbunny1900 · 29/08/2017 16:10

I get overwhelmed and annoyed easily with noises (which is my issue and nobody else's , I know) but GOD YES I hate people blasting music, videos they are watching, talking as loudly as they can etc. like they are the only ppl who matter. Although my friend thinks she's a great parent for screeching at the top of her voice when correcting her son in public and making everyone's ears bleed.

Paddingtonthebear · 29/08/2017 16:12

YANBU. I was in Waitrose at the weekend and saw a kid on a scooter and a kid on a balance bike, same aisle, different parents. In a restaurant early evening and three kids sat with their parents, all three watching programme or playing game on individual tablets with full volume. Walking along a road near beach and there's a huge long queue for the ferry. Cars parked up waiting on the road. Parents get kid out and walk him onto someone's driveway and stand him on someone's garden wall and let him piss all over their flowerbed. Then casually walk off driveway and back to pavement. If it's desperate then the gutter/pavement will do, why do you need to go into someone's property and let your child piss on their garden. Its all the same, so fucking entitled. I hate it.

Notreallyarsed · 29/08/2017 16:15

Parents get kid out and walk him onto someone's driveway and stand him on someone's garden wall and let him piss all over their flowerbed

Shock that's disgusting! My friend saw a man (drunk) peeing on her front steps last week and handed him a bucket of soapy water and a scrubbing brush!