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To think this mum is a cheeky fucker

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 22:47

My dd (8) stayed at a friends last night. I nipped round there in the day to drop some clothes off as she needed shorts, while I was there my dd asked if 'they' meaning the girl and her two sisters could stop at ours tommorrow (meaning today) I said oh I'm not sure yet it's school Tuesday and we have a lot to get sorted,plus dad is working tommorrow and left it at that.

Today comes I don't hear anything off the mum all day. I went out to walk the dog came home and she had left all 3 girls 6,7 and 9 at my house with all their stuff! Dp was busy in the garden and told the mum I would be home any minute and to wait as he didn't know what was going on, she said oh I'll leave them here with you and fucked off.

I got back to 3 bags of overnight stuff on the hallway and 3 girls that were here for a bloody sleepover wtaf not once had I said they were stopping or confirmed anything with the mum, I got a Facebook message an hour later saying she would pick them up at 2 tommorrow!

Now I wouldn't have minded if it had been one of the girls fair enough I would have said fine, but why the fuck would you drop all your kids off to my house leave them with my dp who you don't know for shit and not even check with me?

I have 7 kids myself including a 2 year old and a 5 month old so now have 10 kids in my house, where is the common sense?
Surely when my dd asked if they could sleep the mum should have said well not all of you as it's a bit much.especially a 6 year old who darent even go to the loo on her own. None of these kids have ever been to my house before either.

They all went to the park earlier and I answered a phonecall off the mum to one of the girls I said I'll get her to ca you back, she said "oh it's alright I'm going out" so basically I'm babysitting 3 kids for her while she fucks off out on the piss.

Yes I should have told her to come pick them up as I had t agreed to a sleepover but I felt bad for them...the mum shouldn't have left them here in the first place though aibu to think she is a cheeky fucking bitch?

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ImperialBlether · 26/08/2017 22:49

For god's sake, send them back! You realise she's picking them up at 2 so she can lie in? She should get a cheeky fucker prize.

OrangeJulius · 26/08/2017 22:51

She's very cheeky, but looks like there aren't any consequences for her cheekiness so...I seriously can't believe you've let them stay.

highinthesky · 26/08/2017 22:53

This is unbelievable! She wins the taking the piss prize for...taking the piss.

gingergenius · 26/08/2017 22:53

No fucking way!!!

MusicToMyEars800 · 26/08/2017 22:53

There is either a massive miscommunication here or she is being a right cheeky mare and trying her luck to get a free babysitter!
I wouldn't be happy about it either, but like you probably wouldn't have called the mum to say collect the children etc.

Hopefully they will be well behaved and the night will be as stress free as possible.

pilates · 26/08/2017 22:55

Wow, the cheek of her! I would be texting her tonight saying you are dropping them back at 10am in the morning. Cheeky mare.

Msqueen33 · 26/08/2017 22:55

Cheeky bitch! I'd call her tonight saying one of the kids was upset and if she ignores take them round first thing tomorrow.

Cherrytart6 · 26/08/2017 22:56

Is there anything you said that could have been taken as a yes to a sleep over?

ShapelyBingoWing · 26/08/2017 22:57

Are you certain you didn't give her the impression this was ok? Confused

mogulfield · 26/08/2017 23:00

Why have you agreed? Send them back! 10 kids is ridiculous, do you ever have anywhere for them all to sleep? And she's not picking them until TWO?!

Earlyriser84 · 26/08/2017 23:00

Drop them off tomorrow morning, not a chance you should let her waltz round at 2pm ! What type of mother just dumps their children with someone they've never met. I would be livid

Cheeky fucker !

WorraLiberty · 26/08/2017 23:00

I'll never understand threads like this if I live to be 100.

You should have returned the kids immediately and simply said, "I'm really sorry but there seems to have been some sort of miscommunication/mistake. I can't have them tonight".

The kids would have got over it. It wouldn't be the end of the world.

WorraLiberty · 26/08/2017 23:02

I wouldn't be happy about it either, but like you probably wouldn't have called the mum to say collect the children etc.

Why?? Confused

What single, good reason would you have for not simply telling her there'd been a mistake?

silkpyjamasallday · 26/08/2017 23:03

@pilates has the answer, text her now and say you'll need to drop them home by 10 at the latest as you have plans. There should be some consequence for her absolute cheeky fuckery, no lie in with a pounding headache seems fitting as I doubt you'll be getting much sleep tonight!

Maybe she is watching the boxing?

DontTouchTheMoustache · 26/08/2017 23:05

Wow, I'm a pushover but even I would have told her to fuck off.
I bet she was the one who told your dd to ask for a sleepover, she probably planner the initial sleepover for this very reason. Wouldn't surprise me of she does this regularly.
Does she have a partner? If so.id be taking them home

BackieJerkhart · 26/08/2017 23:06

Me either worra. They would have been in the car within minutes of me arriving home.

Mrscropley · 26/08/2017 23:06

Text all the dm's tomorrow and ask them when is convenient for them to have ALL OF YOURS???

ImperialBlether · 26/08/2017 23:08

I can't see why anyone wouldn't refuse to have the children, especially with a big family of your own.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 23:13

The thing is I thought it would be obvious to her when dd asked that having her 3 would be ridiculous and assumed she would pipe up to put her kids off! Nope.

And no crossed wires I specifically said "oh I'm not sure yet blah blah blah" not once did I say yes of course! And yes I agree I should have took them home but felt bad for them.

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LovingLola · 26/08/2017 23:14

So why did you not just put them in the car and bring them home again?
I really wonder about people sometimes....

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 23:15

Because the girls are actually lovely and I would have felt awful it's the mother that is a dick.

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ImperialBlether · 26/08/2017 23:19

But you're rewarding the mother by having the children. You know she'll have a nice lie in until 2 pm tomorrow, don't you?

WorraLiberty · 26/08/2017 23:20

So what if the girls are lovely, what's that got to do with it? Confused

The girls would have got over it, you could have invited them at a time when you actually wanted them and the Mum would have learned a lesson.

All she's learnt here is she's got a door matt to use, any time she feels like it.

Yes, she's a cheeky fucker but I'm struggling to sympathise, given that you've chosen to have her kids overnight.

Viviennemary · 26/08/2017 23:20

Send all your kids round to hers at 6 am next Sunday.

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 23:21

I know...but if I drop them earlier tommorrow whose to say she will be in/answer the door.

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