To think this mum is a cheeky fucker

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

My dd (8) stayed at a friends last night. I nipped round there in the day to drop some clothes off as she needed shorts, while I was there my dd asked if 'they' meaning the girl and her two sisters could stop at ours tommorrow (meaning today) I said oh I'm not sure yet it's school Tuesday and we have a lot to get sorted,plus dad is working tommorrow and left it at that.

Today comes I don't hear anything off the mum all day. I went out to walk the dog came home and she had left all 3 girls 6,7 and 9 at my house with all their stuff! Dp was busy in the garden and told the mum I would be home any minute and to wait as he didn't know what was going on, she said oh I'll leave them here with you and fucked off.

I got back to 3 bags of overnight stuff on the hallway and 3 girls that were here for a bloody sleepover wtaf not once had I said they were stopping or confirmed anything with the mum, I got a Facebook message an hour later saying she would pick them up at 2 tommorrow!

Now I wouldn't have minded if it had been one of the girls fair enough I would have said fine, but why the fuck would you drop all your kids off to my house leave them with my dp who you don't know for shit and not even check with me?

I have 7 kids myself including a 2 year old and a 5 month old so now have 10 kids in my house, where is the common sense?
Surely when my dd asked if they could sleep the mum should have said well not all of you as it's a bit much.especially a 6 year old who darent even go to the loo on her own. None of these kids have ever been to my house before either.

They all went to the park earlier and I answered a phonecall off the mum to one of the girls I said I'll get her to ca you back, she said "oh it's alright I'm going out" so basically I'm babysitting 3 kids for her while she fucks off out on the piss.

Yes I should have told her to come pick them up as I had t agreed to a sleepover but I felt bad for them...the mum shouldn't have left them here in the first place though aibu to think she is a cheeky fucking bitch?

Text her, say "There has been a big misunderstanding and you never agreed to a sleepover, it's late, you'll keep them but they will be on the door step at 9am, no later, it does not suit"

Don't give her a choice, text her now, ring the be and drive away, then text her to say they are gone and you have left. Then wait around the corner to make sure they are ok

So have you been in contact with her at all????

I'm a twat I know that.

Someone really needs to close the gates at Cheeky Fucker Land before anyone else escapes.

She's massively taking the piss, OP. YANBU.

Where are they all sleeping?

Yes the Facebook message I just replied ok to her saying she'll pick them up at 2. No message or contact before that.

As for sleeping arrangements my 2 dds have a bunk bed in the smallest bedroom so fuck knows.

I've got 8 kids up there playing silly beggars at the moment.

You need to book that laser tattoo removal. Get that "mug" off your forehead. Seriously.

Go up and bollock them!!

As for sleeping arrangements my 2 dds have a bunk bed in the smallest bedroom so fuck knows.

Ay?? It's 11.30 at night and you don't know where they're sleeping?

I have about 10 times.

I hope she's an MNer 🤣

She's a cheeky mare that's for sure! Also a pretty rubbish parent - leaving them somewhere overnight that they've never even visited (esp the youngest) & with people who she knew weren't expecting them. Poor kids - God only knows what other epic parenting fails they have to endure.

I'm surprised your DH didn't stop what he was doing & make her a cup of tea or whatever while she waited for you - and made sure she didn't bloody well leave.

There's no way I'd have taken them home though, it's not their fault.

I'd be teaching your kids about asking in private, NOT in front of people. Tell then the answer will always be 'No' if they do that. 7 of your own - you need some rules about this or your house will look like a YMCA in years to come 🤣

I'm finding your behaviour weird and inconsistent. You've just said ok to her, you're going with it, your partner just accepted the kids and you're whinging on here...

You should have said no yesterday. Or taken the girls as soon as they had been dropped off.

The woman is taking the piss but your behaviour has been erratic.

They have 2 options to where they sleep...the girls beds or the floor I don't have any other options with a house full as it is.

I was in shock it was a couple of hours after she had dropped them that I got the message..

Have you used your phone? You know ? the means by which you can actually speak to her???

Tell them no and to collect their children.

I'd definitely be telling her that you'll drop the kids off at 10 at the latest and to stop being a cheeky bitch.

No matter how lovely they are, if you have no place for them to sleep, they can't stay over!

So she drops her kids of this weekend, your 7 at hers next week. She'll be fine.
Make pick up about 3 though, pop out for a late brunch after your night out.

You've been put in an awkward position OP and you've thought about her DC's feelings and that's kind of you. Of course you wouldn't send them home now!
But when their mother collects them tmw you will, I'm sure, make it plain that you did not and would not have agreed to such an imposition.

Mmmm.

So at eleven thirty at night you don't know where you're going to put them to sleep.

Righto.

Look I'm not being funny but according to you, you've got 10 children in your house, ranging from 5 months old upwards.

You've told 8 of them to stop playing silly buggers, 10 times.

Despite the fact it's 11.30 at night, you, as the responsible adult, still haven't chosen where they need to sleep and told them to get into bed.

I think it's time to get off the internet, sort their sleeping arrangements for them, settle them down and tell them to go to sleep.

This situation is ridiculous.

If the kids aren't behaving I'd ring her to come and get them. Have they got a father?