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To think this mum is a cheeky fucker

257 replies

LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 22:47

My dd (8) stayed at a friends last night. I nipped round there in the day to drop some clothes off as she needed shorts, while I was there my dd asked if 'they' meaning the girl and her two sisters could stop at ours tommorrow (meaning today) I said oh I'm not sure yet it's school Tuesday and we have a lot to get sorted,plus dad is working tommorrow and left it at that.

Today comes I don't hear anything off the mum all day. I went out to walk the dog came home and she had left all 3 girls 6,7 and 9 at my house with all their stuff! Dp was busy in the garden and told the mum I would be home any minute and to wait as he didn't know what was going on, she said oh I'll leave them here with you and fucked off.

I got back to 3 bags of overnight stuff on the hallway and 3 girls that were here for a bloody sleepover wtaf not once had I said they were stopping or confirmed anything with the mum, I got a Facebook message an hour later saying she would pick them up at 2 tommorrow!

Now I wouldn't have minded if it had been one of the girls fair enough I would have said fine, but why the fuck would you drop all your kids off to my house leave them with my dp who you don't know for shit and not even check with me?

I have 7 kids myself including a 2 year old and a 5 month old so now have 10 kids in my house, where is the common sense?
Surely when my dd asked if they could sleep the mum should have said well not all of you as it's a bit much.especially a 6 year old who darent even go to the loo on her own. None of these kids have ever been to my house before either.

They all went to the park earlier and I answered a phonecall off the mum to one of the girls I said I'll get her to ca you back, she said "oh it's alright I'm going out" so basically I'm babysitting 3 kids for her while she fucks off out on the piss.

Yes I should have told her to come pick them up as I had t agreed to a sleepover but I felt bad for them...the mum shouldn't have left them here in the first place though aibu to think she is a cheeky fucking bitch?

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glitterlips1 · 27/08/2017 10:54

Hmm don't want to be rude but you need to get a back bone. I wouldn't be having them until 2pm. I would drop them home now. Put it down to a life experience and next time say no!

Original poster
LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 27/08/2017 10:55

I've messaged her no reply surprise surprise. Yes should have said something on the phone last night it would have been awkward though.

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thatdearoctopus · 27/08/2017 10:56

it would have been awkward though.

So, you'd prefer to save her feelings rather than your own? And have therefore suffered nearly 24 hours of 10 children in the house?

Your choice.

Original poster
LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 27/08/2017 10:57

I know.

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IDoDaChaCha · 27/08/2017 10:57

If you let people walk all over you, they will. Stuff like this will continue to happen. As pp have said there's no point posting on here about it, you know she's a cheeky bitch. Next time take them straight back. There will be a next time now she knows she can dominate you.

thatdearoctopus · 27/08/2017 10:58

Don't "message." Ring her. Again and again. With any luck, she might worry that so many missed calls from you mean there's been some kind of issue/minor accident with one of her kids and she might call back sooner.

Doglikeafox · 27/08/2017 10:58

To be honest OP, I would have let them stay too. It isn't the girls fault and I'd give the mum the benefit of the doubt that the girls might have insisted you had said OK. Sure she should have checked arrangements with you but if this is a one off personally I would have less them unless I really couldn't and then I would say so.
I would however text the Mum and say 'sorry X, we are going out at Y time so I will have to drop them off then'.
I am a real soft touch though so I'm sure lots will disagree with me Grin

thatdearoctopus · 27/08/2017 10:58

Or, where is her husband/children's father? Can you not phone him?

thatdearoctopus · 27/08/2017 11:00

So, when she does finally deign to turn up and collect them, how will you greet her? "Oh, it was fine, they were no bother?" Or will you show her you are extremely annoyed that she put you in this position?

Nquartz · 27/08/2017 11:04

I second that you keep ringing until she answers. It's too easy to ignore a message.
This thread is making me so cross! To echo a PP, nothing like this has ever happened to me before, I must give off 'don't take the piss vibes'

Shopkinsdoll · 27/08/2017 11:04

What's done is done. I'm quite a shy person and not very confrontational but I certainly wouldn't be having them till 2pm. I would have text her yesterday and said we have plans at 9am, so I'll just drop the girls back home then.

butterfly56 · 27/08/2017 11:05

put a comment on her FB page to come and get your kids NOW!!!Angry

Willow2017 · 27/08/2017 11:08

She dumped them knowing op wasn't even there. It's not a 'musundetstanding' at all. She was going out on the lash, she needed a babysitter. Who tells someone they are looking after thier kids till mid afternoon then ignores you?

Shopkinsdoll · 27/08/2017 11:08

To be honest OP, I would have let them stay too. It isn't the girls fault and I'd give the mum the benefit of the doubt that the girls might have insisted you had said OK. Sure she should have checked arrangements with you but if this is a one off personally I would have less them unless I really couldn't and then I would say so.
I would however text the Mum and say 'sorry X, we are going out at Y time so I will have to drop them off then'.
I am a real soft touch though so I'm sure lots will disagree with me

Yes I'm the same. 😀, agree with texting and telling her you'll drop the kids of at 8/9 am. Let her enjoy her hangover with her kids lol 😂😂

NewDaddie · 27/08/2017 11:08

Why are you not accepting the challenge?

If I was you I'd reply to say don't worry about picking up the children (at 2pm) I'll drop them back. Then leave all 10 children with overnight bags on her doorstep.

Then make a dash for the coast, and book a cheap last minute hotel for you and dp to make baby #8

Wink
gonnabreakmyrustycage · 27/08/2017 11:09

Just leave it now - but make it clear to your dc that they are not to ask and tell them to ask the parents to get in touch with you instead. It's not long until 2pm now, nevermind.

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 27/08/2017 11:11

Haha good idea!

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Fairenuff · 27/08/2017 11:15

It's clear on this thread though that you don't really mind so I can see why people who know you irl think the same. If she doesn't reply I'm sure you will find some lunch for them all as you're not going to let them go hungry are you. She knows this too.

Earlyriser84 · 27/08/2017 11:19

Just take them back now ! Not a chance in hell you should put up with it any longer. The fact that's she's ignoring messages is disgraceful. She sounds like a shit parent as well as a cheeky fucker.

And when I dropped them off I would tell her exactly that.

FluffyPineapple · 27/08/2017 11:23

I'm late joining this thread. Obviously you allowed them to stay over. The only course of action now is to text her "Something has come up. I need to go out. I'm dropping your kids back to you now".

Don't wait for a reply. Put them in the car, take them home and keep knocking until she gets out of bed. You will have already sent the text letting her know. Not your fault she hadn't seen it

ohtheholidays · 27/08/2017 11:23

Bloody hell OP your still doing it "Can she pick them up earlier" that's a sodding question you need to make a statement she has to pick the children up earlier not can she!

PuppyMonkey · 27/08/2017 11:27

Oh dear, she's going to say she didn't get any message - also, she's not going to turn up at 2pm either.

PuppyMonkey · 27/08/2017 11:28

I'm putting my money at somewhere around 7pm. Any takers? Grin

SapphireStrange · 27/08/2017 11:31

Phone her again and tell her to come and get the fucking kids. If she doesn't answer, take them back home yourself. Man up!

PennyTentiary · 27/08/2017 11:33

PuppyMonkey I'm betting a bottle of Wine that she's there no earlier than 16:30