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To think this mum is a cheeky fucker

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 22:47

My dd (8) stayed at a friends last night. I nipped round there in the day to drop some clothes off as she needed shorts, while I was there my dd asked if 'they' meaning the girl and her two sisters could stop at ours tommorrow (meaning today) I said oh I'm not sure yet it's school Tuesday and we have a lot to get sorted,plus dad is working tommorrow and left it at that.

Today comes I don't hear anything off the mum all day. I went out to walk the dog came home and she had left all 3 girls 6,7 and 9 at my house with all their stuff! Dp was busy in the garden and told the mum I would be home any minute and to wait as he didn't know what was going on, she said oh I'll leave them here with you and fucked off.

I got back to 3 bags of overnight stuff on the hallway and 3 girls that were here for a bloody sleepover wtaf not once had I said they were stopping or confirmed anything with the mum, I got a Facebook message an hour later saying she would pick them up at 2 tommorrow!

Now I wouldn't have minded if it had been one of the girls fair enough I would have said fine, but why the fuck would you drop all your kids off to my house leave them with my dp who you don't know for shit and not even check with me?

I have 7 kids myself including a 2 year old and a 5 month old so now have 10 kids in my house, where is the common sense?
Surely when my dd asked if they could sleep the mum should have said well not all of you as it's a bit much.especially a 6 year old who darent even go to the loo on her own. None of these kids have ever been to my house before either.

They all went to the park earlier and I answered a phonecall off the mum to one of the girls I said I'll get her to ca you back, she said "oh it's alright I'm going out" so basically I'm babysitting 3 kids for her while she fucks off out on the piss.

Yes I should have told her to come pick them up as I had t agreed to a sleepover but I felt bad for them...the mum shouldn't have left them here in the first place though aibu to think she is a cheeky fucking bitch?

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 26/08/2017 23:53

Well obviously, I was joking, it just gives off a totally different image, I think LolaTheDarkdestroyer and I think there's someone who takes no shit, clearly that's wrong

VeryCunningStunt · 26/08/2017 23:53

So with you and DP, your own DC, and the deposited children, 12 people are sleeping at your house tonight? How big is your house?!

WorraLiberty · 26/08/2017 23:54

You've chosen to look after this woman's 3 kids tonight, but you're not doing it really are you? Confused

You're just letting them do what they please at almost midnight, whilst you sit here chatting on the internet.

That's not really on is it? No matter how the circumstances arose, you made the decision to host a sleepover for 3 young children.

Seriously, just put them to bed and go to sleep. You've a baby and a toddler (plus 5 others of your own) to deal with in the morning...not to mention the 3 'guests'...

PastaOfMuppets · 26/08/2017 23:55

Lol NoCabbage 😂😂

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 23:55

Nocabbage unfortunately no I just have a black cat that's called Lola and is an arse.

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Nocabbageinmyeye · 26/08/2017 23:56

Cross posts, you're not a pussy op, well a little, but that's ok, you can change that with one text, stand up to her, don't let her walk all over you, you'll feel better for it, send ClemDanfangos text

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 26/08/2017 23:57

I'm not just sat here on the internet I'm up and down as is dp and my older son is up there. They aren't running riot just pissing about being loud in the bedroom.

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BackieJerkhart · 26/08/2017 23:58

Yes dump your kids with her tomorrow when you drop her kids back home. At 8am.

PastaOfMuppets · 27/08/2017 00:00

Lola, is there any chance at all this cheeky mum thought your DD had contacted you again and you'd said it was ok for these three girls to come around? I agree that even if that had happened the Cheeky Mum should have checked directly with you and spoken properly with your DP, but could she have thought that it was a returned favour and that you'd understand her girls love playing together with your DD, like a package deal? This Cheeky Mum is beyond cheeky and you know you're lacking in assertiveness to have let them stay but to repeat yes the other mum is off her rocker.

Smigbot · 27/08/2017 00:01

She is def taking the piss! Cheeky mare! I would take them back at 7.30 - why wait until 9.00?

I hate the word 'sleepover' - they are stressful and overrated. IMO they should be banned and be an arrestable offence!

Or, ring up their mum at 2.00am and tell her you needed bring her kids home because your kids have gone down with a horrendous D & V bug! Grin

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LolaTheDarkdestroyer · 27/08/2017 00:04

If I had the bollocks I would! And no she knew my dd hadn't asked again as she hadn't been home. Even so yes she should have still checked with me.

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WorraLiberty · 27/08/2017 00:05

Right well then...YANBU to think she's a cheeky fucker (no brainer)

YABU to not have decided where the 3 kids you've chosen to host overnight are going to sleep, and to have made them get into bed and stay there by this time of night.

I don't know what else to say to you, other than next time, make wiser choices.

Allthewaves · 27/08/2017 00:05

Would have put them straight into my car and took them home

BackieJerkhart · 27/08/2017 00:08

If I had the bollocks I would!

What is stopping you? There have been no consequences for her being a cheeky mare, why would there be any for you? And even if there are, what's the worst they could be?? Really? Go for it. Dump them at hers then fuck off out for the day. What can she do?

Mittens1969 · 27/08/2017 00:12

This is ridiculous, yes she really is a piss taker, who is only interested in having a night out clubbing while you look after her children. I find being assertive difficult but I wouldn't agree to that! Either you or your DP should have taken them straight home. I would text the woman and say that you're taking her children back at 9 am tomorrow, and stick to that.

Mustang27 · 27/08/2017 00:32

Oh god how do these people even exist!!! What a brass neck. If it makes you feel better I'd probably have done the same thing as you but what I would do tomorrow is just as she has bundled her kids in the car say you want a word then quietly and calmly say "don't ever do that to me again or you will see an other side of me you won't like". I honestly am truly shocked at some people mumsnet is an eye opener.

gillybeanz · 27/08/2017 00:42

I'd have had a surprise night out with dh and booked a babysitter which I'd have billed her for.
Failing this would have taken/sent them back.

I can't understand for the life of me why people are saying they wouldn't send them back neither.

golemico · 27/08/2017 00:45

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Whinesalot · 27/08/2017 00:46

Ask her when she's having all your seven.

Mustang27 · 27/08/2017 00:50

Piss off golemico

BoomBoomsCousin · 27/08/2017 00:54

I suspect the CF pushed your DD into asking in the first place OP. Sounds like she wanted a night out in exchange for having your DD and when you didn't automatically say yes, she decided to chance it anyway.

I sort of understand about not wanting to upset the children, though I don't think there's any harm done in children being disappointed occasionally if the rest of their lives are generally good. Still, even if you aren't prepared to send them home tonight, why on earth you agreed to keep them until 2 pm instead of saying something like - "We can just about make it work tonight, but I'll need to drop them off at 8:30 tomorrow morning as we have a lot to get done tomorrow" I don't understand. She's a CF but people who can't say no or make their boundaries clear are really hard work, you probably end up with more CFs around you as people who don't want to be CFs will be having to constantly second guess themselves and end up staying away. For god's sake, grow a back-bone and start asserting yourself.

PyongyangKipperbang · 27/08/2017 01:05

I was about to post the same as Boom, it wasnt your DD;s idea at all.

I don't think there's any harm done in children being disappointed occasionally if the rest of their lives are generally good

How good are their lives going to be with a mother who will cheerfully drop them off with an absolute stranger (the DP) on the strength of someone they know a bit being back soon?

I wouldnt have taken them home either. Whether that makes me a mugI dont care, I wont willingly upset a young child because their mother is a cunt.

I would however have a proper shouting go at the mother afterwards, preferably when she still has her hangover.

Ask around, you will probably find that she has form for this, they usually do. And the 2pm pick up may well be because she isnt planning on going home tonight.....

cluelessnewmum · 27/08/2017 01:24

Well yes of course she is cheeky and sounds like she should be on the radar of social services, I would get these kids out of your house ASAP tomorrow and never let your kids go to her house again.

However doesn't your dh need to take a bit of responsibility here for the lack of common sense? Surely when she rocked up with 3 kids he should have said hang on a minute, strange lady, my wife's not said anything about this, let me ring her and check before you run off?

BoomBoomsCousin · 27/08/2017 01:35

Pyong that's a fair point about their lives possibly not being that great with a mother who is so desperate to be free for the night she would do this.

emmyrose2000 · 27/08/2017 04:37

This situation is entirely ridiculous.