To not let DD have any more friends round for the rest of the holidays?

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DD (13) has been taking the piss pretty much all holiday, constantly bringing different friends round who don't respect other peoples' houses and make mess and are just generally uncouth.

Yesterday I went out and when I got home she had 7 friends round, and between them they'd moved all the sofas in the living room, put drinks on our brand new furniture with no coasters, spilt drinks over the sofa an d made a mess, and ordered a pizza which they'd eaten at the kitchen table and left it in a state with food smeared on the table and floor.

She's just let another friend round to 'use the toilet' who was on her period and said friend left blood all over the toilet seat, all over the floor and a used pad on the bathroom floor. I phoned DD and made her come back and clean it up herself, which caused a huge tantrum from her.

I'm just bloody sick of coming home and she's had another different friend round and whole place is dirty and a mess. I don't mind her having friends round that I know will behave and not trash the house but surely it's not part of parenting to just accept your home is going to get ruined?

AIBU to not let DD have any friends round for the rest of the holidays and then after that only let her have friends round that I know are well behaved kids?

Why is a 13 year old allowed to order Pizzas? This makes no sense. Was she left money or did you leave her your credit/visa card?

If she was left money then I suspect someone got drink in. Every woman in this world has had a period accident. Get over it.

And be more circumspect in future.

A 13 year old needs a parent too.

Why did I post on this thread?

Fuck sake!

Even when she just has one friend round and is in her bedroom her bedroom gets totally trashed and it takes me a good hour or two to clean it afterwards
Why the hell are you cleaning up her mess? I would never have dared to trash my room and if I had my mum would have made me clean it up. If there's chewing gum on her bedding then I suggest she has to buy new bedding out of her pocket money. What are the consequences of her awful behaviour?

Because she won't do it. She just has a tantrum if I ask her to do anything
Then remove something she loves! Turn the wifi off, or remove her make-up, take her phone, whatever, but start parenting! You are doing her no favours by allowing this shit; she'll could turn into a right disrespectful wotsit who may then have problems with work colleagues and partners because she thinks this crap is acceptable. Arsehole adults don't suddenly turn that way at 18, they are often the product of poor parenting as children (no boundaries, no consequences for awful behaviour, no discipline).

We always had/have a fairly open house. We've had the odd silliness but nothing outrageous and host child has always been responsible for their own friends behaviour and mess. That said I'd be wary of them having more than one known friend without me being present. Usually they wanted/want me to cook anyway. We certainly wouldn't have a 13 year old ordering pizza or eating upstairs. Sanitary issues are discussed upfront as we have septic tank - so no flushing. I just say the house arrangements upfront to any visiting girls.

elendon coming on without realising, bleeding over a pad or leaking are what I'd call period accidents.
Are you calling delicately not wiping a seat you've covered in blood, and chucking a used pad on the floor for someone else to pick up, an accident?

No DJBaggy, I don't think she is. She's really popular and has hundreds of friends.you know that it's not about popularity but being needy. Secondly, the only reason they all flock to your house is because you lack boundaries. Other parents would not probably let the rubbish you are putting up with happen at your house.
If you had fine lines and boundary she would be crossing you. You would not be on here asking for validation on whether you are doing the right thing or not.
I would say, look at your self and why your Dd is so needy.