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Male beauticians and waxing!!

308 replies

Emboo19 · 25/08/2017 12:46

This is based on a friends experience, not mine and it's not so much a AIBU. But we've been discussing it at length and I'm interested in others thoughts.
So would you be ok with a male beautician doing intimate waxing? Would it depend on quite how intimate, so a bikini wax would be ok, but a all off not so much?

I'm not actually sure myself. A part of me thinks it's no different to a male doctor or nurse and I'd be fine with that. Definitely wouldn't have a problem with any other beauty treatments being done by a man, but waxing that invloves no underwear, I'm not sure!!

OP posts:
Fartypant · 26/08/2017 02:36

@Fartypant so because statistics say so, no woman has ever sexually assaulted anyone else ever and will never do so? That's absurd

Absurd, and, not what I said

Fartypant · 26/08/2017 02:38

The question really isn't whether YOU individually would mind. It's great that so many people 'dint have a problem with it'. But, the real question is, do you think those women that 'do mind' for whatever reason should have the choice to request a female

Arealhumanbeing · 26/08/2017 02:55

It is a kind of "innocent" wide eyed cuntiness I particularly despise

Me too.

No I would never let a man wax me and I have been refusing to see male HCP's for the last 25 years without a problem.

Also I send the medical students away EVERY SINGLE TIME. Their attitude when asked to leave usually reassures me that I did the right thing (little shits).

I don't want men touching me (ever) unless we're either sexually involved or showing affection because we're friends or family to each other.

That's how I feel, that's what I do. Why do the women who feel and do differently always pile on to tell others that they're wrong, while becoming more and more wide eyed and cunty?

Italiangreyhound · 26/08/2017 03:03

Yes, it would bother me but then I've never waxed my bikini line so unlikely to start now!

noeffingidea · 26/08/2017 03:04

HiJenny you assume wrongly.

Italiangreyhound · 26/08/2017 03:15

Skarossinkplunger "... have had a chat to a friend who runs a salon. It turns out that they have a male member of staff who does nails who is currently training to wax. Friend said that if someone refused to be waxed by him they wouldn't be welcome in her salon."

How offensive of your friend, putting her staff above her customers. I do hope she tells them before they arrive that their feelings are of no consequence to her.

Arealhumanbeing · 26/08/2017 03:44

Skarossinkplunger Your friend needs to have a think. Maybe do a bit of reading on why a lot of women aren't inclined to fall out of their knickers in a split second in the name of inclusivity and men's feelings.

Many years ago I turned up for my manicure to find a male nail technician waiting for me. I decided to be all cool about it and let him go ahead.

He winked at me during the hand and arm massage. So there we are. It won't be happening again.

SabineUndine · 26/08/2017 04:39

I can't imagine wanting to let anyone else loose in my ladygarden. I'm not usually fussy about this sort of thing - I used to see a male osteopath and that's very hands on - for some things he'd have both arms wrapped right round me. I think it's because beauticians are not medical people and what they do is about appearances.

helpme85 · 26/08/2017 06:36

Don't know why people go all out on waxing! You need your pubic hair.

I love my bush.

BarbarianMum · 26/08/2017 06:50

"How offensive of your friend, putting their staff above their customers "

Maybe in your company. My company values it staff really highly and still manages to attract lots of customers.

amazonEcho · 26/08/2017 06:58

Of course I wouldn't care. Why would I. They're ripping pubes out. Hardly a perv. playing the long game to get a glimpse of some woman's vagina.

Comments like wanting a female chaperone to see a male OBGYN - get a fucking grip.

I assume the anti-male brigade are worried because they think someone'll be getting the rocks off on it all. How about lesbians? Would you turn them down?

gingergenius · 26/08/2017 07:04

@amazonEcho it's nhs policy to have a female chaperone present with a male OBGYN or similar. I was inappropriately touched when I was 18 by a male GP. It's not ridiculous, because unfortunately, some men are a threat. Please don't minimise others' concerns. You may not have had negative experiences in a situation such as this but that doesn't mean women can't be concerned about it.

noeffingidea · 26/08/2017 07:10

amazonecho it's also for the protection of the HCP against potential false accusations.

BertrandRussell · 26/08/2017 07:13

Yeah, how very dare a woman have any sort of preference about who touches her body.

And incidentally, I call bullshit on all the "I wouldn't even notice" brigade.

BertrandRussell · 26/08/2017 07:20

And no, it's not about the risk of being sexually assaulted, which must be so small as to be not worth considering. It's about women being allowed to have preferences, and not having to put her needs and wants second to a man's.

TheStoic · 26/08/2017 07:23

Friend said that if someone refused to be waxed by him they wouldn't be welcome in her salon.

What's the name of the salon? Might as well let people know the policy upfront so that nobody wastes their time.

amazonEcho · 26/08/2017 07:32

Fucking hell Bertrand. Everyone's allowed preferences and no one has said that shouldn't be the case. Other people are allowed to think that some preferences are ridiculous though.

So, you think everyone who disagrees with you is a bullshitter? I guess that in your mind it makes it easier to 'be right'.

The men don't 'need and want' to wax someone. I can't see any suggestion of customers not being allowed to leave until they've been waxed by a man. Do you?

I understand that you have a personal need to get all ranty and 'how darey' on threads like these but you often come across as quite a ridiculous person.

noeffingidea · 26/08/2017 07:32

Think it's in LA , Stoic.

Showandtell · 26/08/2017 07:40

Absolutely no way! I would hate it. And would be completely up front about saying so.

BertrandRussell · 26/08/2017 07:41

"I understand that you have a personal need to get all ranty and 'how darey' on threads like these but you often come across as quite a ridiculous person"

Judging by your last couple of posts (can't ever recall seeing your name before) I take being considered ridiculous by you as a compliment. Grin

demirose87 · 26/08/2017 07:47

amazonecho, I've had male doctors do intimate procedures lots of times through pregnancy on a maternity ward and in my own GP. I've never requested a female chaperone but have always had one. At times I've had to wait for a female nurse or healthcare assistant to become available before they will do it. It's to protect themselves from false allegations.

CosmicPineapple · 26/08/2017 07:52

I choose who touches my body.
I do not need to explain my choice. I own and am in complete charge of my body.

Why do people tie themselves on knots trying to force others in to giving body autonomy up. It baffles me.

BertrandRussell · 26/08/2017 07:57

"Why do people tie themselves on knots trying to force others in to giving body autonomy up. It baffles me."

Yes. It baffles me too. Particularly as it always seems to be women who have to do the "giving up".

noeffingidea · 26/08/2017 08:00

cosmic there seems to be a lot of it about nowadays.

FerretsAreFeminists · 26/08/2017 08:06

No @amazoEcho, in my case (and plenty of other women's case), I feel much more comfortable with a female HCP doing intimate exams because I have been both raped and sexually assaulted.

It has nothing to do with thinking they are attracted to me. I am really not attractive for a start and I would also have no problem being examined by a lesbian. Equally I wouldn't want a gay man examining me either.