Sacking off hen do - tell me IABU!!

[MummySnot]

Started back at work full time this week after maternity leave with PFB, meaning I won't see her in the mornings and then only have a couple of hours together each evening before she goes to bed.

Quite good friend's hen do on Saturday, starting at 9am and finishing around 11pm so apart from breakfast won't see the baby all day.

Just found out I also have to work Monday and Tuesday evening for two weeks in a row (starting in a couple of weeks) as well as normal daytime hours, meaning that I'll put PFB to bed on the Sunday evening and not see her again until the Wednesday (she's a good sleeper so unlikely to wake during the night).
Am starting to really resent the idea of spending the whole of Saturday without the baby when I'm going to see so little of her in the coming weeks. WIBU to just do the morning/lunch part of the hen do and then sack it off and go home to see PFB?

Depends how close a friend she is a suppose

We see each other most weeks as our boyfriends are old friends. Get on well.

I get that you will miss your DD but your friend's hen do won't happen every week. You'll see DD on Sunday.

I would be cross if you bailed at this stage. I think you could have thought of this when you agreed to go, even though you've lost your mornings in a few weeks time.

depends if committed or not to the things in the evening? has stuff been paid for?

Must say 9am-11pm would be a VERY LONG day, are some people just coming to evening bit and missing day events?

Can you go to just parts of the hen day? Just the morning or evening? Or is it an all or nothing type thing?

In the scheme of things it's not that bad missing time with DD but I can understand why you don't want to spend that much time away from her.

If you said your going you should honour that it's a one off event.

I would just go to part of the do. No one needs a 14 hour hen do. In any case, family comes first.

This Saturday?!! YABU!

There's one person coming later on in the day but that was decided a long time ago.

Wondering if I could at least take the baby to the first part of the day and then her dad could come pick her up... but then I saw that other thread about babies at hen dos so maybe not

Just go to the morning/afternoon bit! It's fine!

1. It's too long a day
2. You're working now and will be knackered going into long Monday / Tuesday hours

As long as you go to some, I'd be fine with that!

You really can't take the baby on a hen do. To be honest, it's really short notice and a one off event, you really ought to go IMO.

I meant short notice to pull out

Do not take the baby!!

I'd go, it's not like it's a regular thing. You'll enjoy it once you're there.

Don't take the baby

Go to the whole day and honour your commitments

You should be there for your friend.

It's only one day to you. But a very important one to her.

YABU. Get a grip.

I'd go on the Saturday night after I'd put my baby to bed.

I think you should go to the hen do.
But please don't take the baby to any part of it!

I think you should go. You don't have to drink, you could then be ok to have a lovely day with your baby on the Sunday.

Hen dos are no place for babies

Bit crap for the bride if all her mates suddenly drop out at the last minute.

I'd be really upset if a friend did what you're proposing to do. The hen do is only one day - given how many people have weekend-long things now, the bride probably doesn't feel like that's making a huge demand, and doing what you suggest makes it clear that you think she's very unimportant to you indeed.

YABU. Don't bail out on your friends hen do, try and work around it if you must, like going at 12pm instead of first thing, but it's rude at this late point unless there's a very good genuine reason.