Sacking off hen do - tell me IABU!!

[MummySnot]

Started back at work full time this week after maternity leave with PFB, meaning I won't see her in the mornings and then only have a couple of hours together each evening before she goes to bed.

Quite good friend's hen do on Saturday, starting at 9am and finishing around 11pm so apart from breakfast won't see the baby all day.

Just found out I also have to work Monday and Tuesday evening for two weeks in a row (starting in a couple of weeks) as well as normal daytime hours, meaning that I'll put PFB to bed on the Sunday evening and not see her again until the Wednesday (she's a good sleeper so unlikely to wake during the night).
Am starting to really resent the idea of spending the whole of Saturday without the baby when I'm going to see so little of her in the coming weeks. WIBU to just do the morning/lunch part of the hen do and then sack it off and go home to see PFB?

Jlou I know it's irrelevant because OP went and agree your priorities change but I think you do consciously decide to give up your former pre kid life. I haven't totally given up mine. I love my kids to absolute bits, they are the most important thing in my world but I don't want them with me all the time at all. I want to go out with my friends and have a few nights away a couple of times a year. It's the most important thing to be a good mum but I think it's also important to be a good friend etc. I think friends have every right to be hacked off if you don't honour the commitments you've made to them. If they are doesn't mean they weren't good friends. To me personally it's all about balance.

YANBU! Don't go if being with your baby is more important. I would understand if I were the bride. If you don't want to tell her the truth though, phone in sick and make out you're gutted to miss it.

@missymousey RTFT!

I would sack it off in a heartbeat (and my job too tbh!) but then my pfb is only 4mo and i hear it gets easier

soz did not RTFT. glad all is well