To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

Not spontaneously mind!

Too funny! Surely one for the Classic Board! You could not make it up ......... Or could you?😂

I am very intrigued by MNers with bowels of steel. The ones who never defecate away from home or only away from home if desperate AND preggers, etc. Also the ones who only go once a week, too, and have no discomfort going so rarely .

Like from first awareness you might be able to poo, how long can you hold it, before you messed your pants? could you go run 5 km at this point without discomfort?

Do you always go at exact time every day so can you time your location perfectly, hence no need to ever poo elsewhere? How does that work when the clocks change?

Do you get any aerobic exercise or eat high fibre or drink any caffeine?

People like me can't wait long, once we have to go (this does not qualify as incontinent, btw). I fail to resist obvious quip about uptight arseholes.

What would you do on a long haul flight OP? Surely you couldn't go 20 hours without having a shit?

YABU where should he use the toilet ? Weather it's a 1 or 2 most humans need to use the toilet at some point. Unless you specifically got a portaloo I would say the toilet is going to be used . Of course it is polite to leave it clean.

Think I have the worst workman/poo story.
We rebuilt our house and when we moved back in, there had been a delay in ordering the internal doors, but wasn't too bad as 2 of the bathrooms had sliding doors already so managed for a couple of weeks. When the carpenter came to fit the new doors he brought with him a very young apprentice. This apprentice took it upon himself to 'christen' all the other loos each time a door was fitted (not a stealth boast but there were 6 in total), so god only knows how much tea he was drinking! Unfortunately the last one was over the kitchen and I noticed water running down the wall. Turned out the worst plumber in the world had not connected the waste pipe correctly and from the state the apprentice had left the loo in, it wasn't just a number 1. Euwww!!!!

I've never been on a long haul actually! Thank goodness. That would be so embarrassing.

It's pretty grim to be fair. I'd ask for permission if I was him

I wouldn't expect them to ask and I wouldn't be offended if they used it. How demeaning would it be to have to ask?!

I would, however expect them to leave it in a decent state...make sure it's flushed properly, no skiddies.

Unless it was a really stinking shit I'm not sure how I would know

Why is it demeaning? You would surely ask to use anything else in someone's home?? You can't just waltz up the stairs to someone's toilet without atleast asking.

You can't just waltz up the stairs to someone's toilet without at least asking What? Even friends?

What else would the work man be expected to do?

What are loos for?

Storm in a fucking tea cup.

I think some people need to look up the purpose of a toilet. Yes of course it is polite for a workman in your home to ask to use the toilet especially if the bathroom is upstairs. It is preferable to leave the toilet in a clean state and if air freshener is available it is extra thoughtful if a person sprays away any lingering smell. But pooing and weeing are normal bodily functions which are the reason for having toilets. The idea that no one should ever poo anywhere other than their own home (with no one else in the house) suggests issues that are not normal. Sometimes, without being ill, your body just decides you need to go. I feel really sorry for people who are out all day in customer homes and read this thread. Disclaimer - I never poo at work because I prefer to poo at home

dancingfairy not demeaning to ask to use the bathroom, demeaning to ask permission to use it to have a shit. Which is the logical conclusion of all the posts suggesting it's only ok to use someone's house for a wee, unless I'm totally missing something.

Haha my last workman went for a wee against the garden wall as he didn't like to ask...I'd much rather he had come in and used the toilet! Your friend is very odd.

You have serious hang ups, OP, if you would forego the chance of going on the holiday of a lifetime because you didn't want to poo in the aeroplane toilet?? Like if you won a competition and the prize was a holiday of a lifetime in Barbados or the Bahamas? Come on, why do that to yourself??

@Molehillfromamountain, lol! I quite agree!

But a strangers loo is not for anyone who takes a fancy to piss and shit in.

OP, you do know, don't you, that people don't wee and poo just because they take a fancy to it, don't you?

It's for the residents of the house, you can't expect to have free rein over someone else's toilet. Like for example if you were not near any toilets and you needed a poo you wouldn't just knock on someone's door and ask to use theirs.

Sure, but if you're in someone's house, why wouldn't you? Sure, you ask first out of politeness but it would be deeply strange host who refused, or said "Only if you undertake not to do a poo". Why would you want people in your house to be made uncomfortable or even ill for no good reason?

OP, if you were on a long haul flight where everyone else is using the loos, why would you feel embarrassed to use them?

I'm completely bemused by all these people who don't want to do a poo if their partner is at home. Do they seriously imagine that their partners think they are fragrant beings who never poo at all and who wee clear spring water? What on earth do they do when they're on holiday and with their partners potentially 24 hours a day?

Yabu. But if you report it to his employer you won't be the first. Or last. I know. I run a small maintenance company. We are small and fair priced. Can't afford a constant portaloo for all vans. It's ridiculous. When we get a complaint I apologise, send a bunch of flowers and then proceed to give the offender what we affectionately call the shit badge. Sometimes people complain about phantom poos that have been had- there's a smell so he must have shit here! -no, you had a blocked toilet and in sorting that YOUR shit has been dislodged and agitated

I don't find going for a poo at someone else's house, my workplace, a public toilet, on a plane, etc etc the slightest bit embarrassing. What I would find absolutely mortifying is phoning a company to complain that one of their workers had used my toilet as - god forbid - a toilet.

Should be tidying up whilst baby asleep but had to read this crazy thread!

6weeks prior to baby being born we had major building work done with 3builders present. Day 1 when they arrived I made them tea and told them where the toilet was. Being heavily pregnant I was trying to rest a bit. The youngest builder would knock on whichever room I was in and say 'please may I use your toilet?' Every time he he needed the loo and this lad seemingly had a pea sized bladder. In the end I told him he really didn't need to ask. Could hear the others laughing. He never left a mess and always sprayed air freshener. The other two also pooed in my toilet over the 3weeks but were a bit rubbish at spraying or opening a window but I would never have made a huge fuss as that is ignorant to purposely shame someone.

I cannot imagine how a ffragilme flower like dancing fairy exists in this nasty, brutish and terrible vulgar world.

And I too would like to know where people get this apparent rings of titanium where they can hold indefinitely.
I have paid to use café loos when desperate. I don't think this is abnormal.

er, ffragilme should be fragile. Just like that.