To think that it IS rude?

[Dancingfairy]

A friend posted on facebook the other day about having a work man other who pooed in her loo without asking. The comments were all saying how rude and disgusting it was. Some even saying to report him or that they would have kicked him out. Anyway I mentioned it to a friend who didn't see the problem. But I do think that it's rude aswell so aibu or is it rude not to ask?!

You need therapy, OP.

I would allow him but I will be cringing inside.

I'm a funny bugger about where I take a poo but not bothered in the slightest about where others go be my toilet or public loo's. I've spent years wiping arses and don't have an issue with poo apart from when I need to go

Yes, maybe a bit rude to use the loo without asking first - but very, very rude to plaster it all over FB!

(see what I did there? )

Omg he just called up and said "is it alright to..." "Use a plug in your kitchen?" I almost thought he was on this thread for a second lol see it's just common courtesy to ask to use things!

When I need to go, I need to go. If it has been an unpleasant experience I will do my best to open the windows, use the toilet brush and bleach to remove any legacy ASAP. With brushes and bleach openly available, strangely we don't seem to encounter issues in the aftermath of other people's toileting in our house. Please, if you are prudish about poo and smells, give people the means to clear up after themselves. (Expecting people to smear their poo around the toilet bowl with half a roll of toilet paper just doesn't do the job dear loobrush-phobes)

It's not rude to use a toilet without "permission". It's not something like a school where everyone has to be accounted for at all times. The only issue would be is if they hadn't been directed to a toilet and went searching the house for one.

Yeah it is gross! But as has been said, if he needs a poo, he needs a poo, and it is a toilet after all!

One guy who came to do something for us a few months ago, came to use the loo, and had a poo. He was in the loo for a good 10 minutes, and it stunk the bleedin' house out! Literally, when he went back outside, we threw open all the windows, gagged, and nearly vommed, and used half a tin of air freshener trying to get rid of the smell.

But he couldn't help it, and didn't do it on purpose. When you gotta go, you gotta go! To report him is absolutely ridiculous.

I tell workmen where the toilet is on arrival

Yes if someone's going to be in the house for an extended period ie not just a quick half hour job but there for a good part of the day I also point out where the loo is. I think that's just common courtesy.

OP, were there strict rules about when and where to go to the toilet when you were growing up?

You know your attitude towards this isn't normal, right?

If I need to go and then don't go, I get really constipated. Which is horrible. OK nobody wants to smell other people's poo but that's what decent air freshener and windows are for.

When you go to work in someone's house, that's your place of work. You respect it - and ask! if you can use the bathroom (or at least I do) but I'd always let a tradesperson use my loo if they needed to because I know what it's like doing house calls, you don't always get a break in a place where there is a toilet and going out of your way to find such a place sometimes means you're running late for the work.

Honestly I think people need to get over themselves and stop judging people for something that they do themselves. And no it is not 'weird' to be able to poo on a toilet that is not in your own house!!

But op! What if your tradesperson is pooing down the plug hole

I wouldn't find it rude, no.

As long as all was left fresh as he found it what's the issue?

I did have an issue with a gas engineer who had a pee, didn't flush the loo and left a pube & pee on the rim! Can't imagine the mess he'd left if he'd had a poo

I only read as far as cardibach
'Is it okay if I have a poo?!' 😂😂😂omg. Made my morning

Some people do it on purpose though. When I was 18 and moved into my first flat i was greeted by a poo in the toilet and no tissue might I add! I was going to complain then but thought how do say "I want to complain about the poo someone did in my toilet"

Mama, I chuckled at that too

Can you imagine it.

That is disgusting OP but how do you poo on purpose? I certainly couldn't force one out - I would cause terrible piles!

A pube! I'm dying lol think I would burn my house down!

"But op! What if your tradesperson is pooing down the plug hole? "

Fucksake stop it! I'm trying to eat, and you just made me near choke on my Shreddies!

Well obviously it was some kind of sick date between the builders?? A welcome poo?

Op I think you are in dire need of help. You say you are 'poo shy' yet have no problem discussing bodily functions ad nauseum. You have friends who think this interesting enough to be suitable subject matter for fb posts. This is beginning to sound like 9 year olds toilet jokes. Time to grow up I think.

You do know that you can make yourself ill by holding a poo in? You can develop IBS and that's really unpleasant.

Fgs, I'm constantly reminding my DDs that they should do a poo at school if they need to rather than hold it in all day; it's normal for little children to have hang ups about poo but they're meant to grow out of it.

What a shit thread! 💩

Not sick date jesus! I meant dare damn auto correct

Wow your friend is a complete cow why would she deliberately embarrass some one in the way you say she would? The person saying to report him is an absolute twat how ridiculous. I seriously hope they are caught short and turned away from someone's toilet as you know it's disgusting and all that.

I have heard a story of a d/g salesman who had a poo in someone's laundry basket. I'm not sure if it's an urban myth but apparently it happened when the sale wasn't going well.